How can you be subtly sexy?

[yuna1981]

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[BunnyHopper]

I know this is going to be a sort of cliché, but think about sex. Your thoughts will come across in your eyes, movement, perhaps even flushed cheeks.

 

[Adrraiya]

Confidence... without arrogance, is something most folks find sexy

Smile... is also usually on the top of the surveys for sexy attributes... when you look at someone & smile a warm, natural smile... then you embody the confidence and happiness that give off a sexy attractiveness

Clothing (as you mentioned).... something like having on sexy undergarments, even if you are the only who knows... can help you feel sexy & with that exude sexiness... and there is a difference in casual-sexy (those cute shorts or sundress), business-sexy (such as office appropriate but accentuates your best attributes), vampy-sexy (cocktail dress), slutty sexy (tiny little club-dress that shows lots of skin), bedroom-sexy (lingerie, nudity, etc) & a whole lot more... each of those has time-n-place


I used to love to look "strictly business" in a well-fitted suit and business-appropriate heels... maybe navy suit with a raspberry silk blouse and navy pumps.... under it, lace-top thigh highs, even if they were nude-colored..... sumptuous cream colored lacy panties & bra.... topped of with a pearl necklace that had a history of being wrapped around my lovers cock while going down on him............ just knowing the sexiness of my undergarments made me feel sexy, the naughty history of the necklace that looked so innocent... and it was fun to think about the fact that I knew something that no one did... but men in those business meetings, they sure would have loved to have known.........

Like the other posters said... think about sex... that'll put a smile/smirk on your face that is a tell-tell sign

Smell... this doesn't necessarily mean perfumes & not even spotlessly clean.... but it has been proven time & time again that people respond sexually to certain smells... if you put off the right smell, then you come across as sexy to others

Flirting... when you flirt and/or respond with a flirt when flirted with... then you encourage your self-confidence with a sexy outward flare... heck, sometimes women and men who naturally smile warmly at people get accused of flirting when they aren't... because sometimes that smile is perceived as flirting

Edit to add: Approachable... if you are confident with a warm smile & have open body language, then you come across as more approachable and friendly.... that is often interpreted as sexy

 

[Adrraiya]

on the question of something someone else did that inflamed me...

ratty-torn jeans and a white t-shirt on a man who was riding a horse before a horse-show... I have no idea who he was, but he was made to look incredible in that setting

business pants, crisp shirt with top button undone, tie loosened up a bit and sleeves rolled-up... like been working hard all day & up against a deadline & things are really serious.... that look has looked sexy to me on lots of different men

firemen in gear (or the pants with suspenders and t-shirt)

the new-dad expression... looking with wonderment at the tiny new life in his hands

soft teddy-bear man in a supple textured sweater.... I can feel it all day long

There's this look that my current sweetheart gets when he knows he just gave me incredible sex... and now we are in the lovey-dovey post-coital snuggle.... he just exudes a deep love for me.. it just flows out of his eyes as he looks at me, with fabulously mussed up hair from raunchy playtime.... there is tenderness that is so damn sexy in that look on him... somehow this looks different on him than it has on others... and it is something I wish I could capture in a picture so he could see himself in that way through my eyes

 

[sweepthefloor]

Mimic his actions slowly. I am not sure how to describe it in words, but I know how to do it naturally. It works well with dinner. Example: when he picks up his water glass, you do the same while looking at him. Yeah, something like that.

 

[Ladybugsjoy]

Pick one thing that you can accentuate. For me I usually pick a cleavage revealing shirt so that when I'm flirting I can lean forward in 'interest' and they get a peak show. Smile genuinely, keep your back straight to show confidence and show interest in conversations with the person of your interest..

 

[Lustful01]

Big believer in attitude...the way you interact with those around you. A subtle smile when the special someo e looks your way, eye contact that is a bit obvious but not too long...temptation is the key.

 

[Kojote]

How can you be subtly sexy?

If you really like yourself and are confident then you are already.
No need for anything else, because everything you do, wear or act out will only emphasize the fact.
Works so well because most people are pretty insecure. Start with falling in love to yourself a bit and you will stand out in almost every crowd.
(But try to avoid narcissism. )

 

[coastal-boy]

eye contact...then smile

 

[shiny5437]

Definitely eye contact. I met a girl the other week who I thought was incredibly sexy. Only later on did I realise that she was partially deaf and relied a lot on lip reading!

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

I know this is going to be a sort of cliché, but think about sex. Your thoughts will come across in your eyes, movement, perhaps even flushed cheeks.

Hi Yuna -
This is a great one. When sex is on my mind and I am in public, I get so many winks, nods, smiles, small chat, etc - I know men are reading me like a book and just hoping to get lucky...

Mimic his actions slowly. I am not sure how to describe it in words, but I know how to do it naturally. It works well with dinner. Example: when he picks up his water glass, you do the same while looking at him. Yeah, something like that.

This also works well, and is extremely subtle!! It's called mirroring, and public speakers use it a lot to read the crowd. When people start to get in tune with you, they unconsciously mirror your motions / facial expressions / posture, etc.
When you do that do another person, it can make them feel more comfortable. Also, it can make them feel that you are connecting to them - who doesn't like positive attention?!
It definitely has to be kept low key though, or you might end up making the other person feel like they are in the mirror episode of Scooby-Doo

 

[ClassyGirl]

It's all in the eyes for me. prolonged eye contact with just a hint of a smile before you look away. For me, what usually works is the more shy and embarrassed sort of sexy. Looking coy. I blush easily, so that helps. But everyone has their own angle. You just have to find out what works best for you.

 

[bashfullyshameless]

Seconding the suggestion that thinking about sex, at least in the back of the mind, is a good one. It's also important to be comfortable with yourself and not worry too much about making sure the other person finds you sexy. Happiness attracts positive attention. Anything less usually gives off warning signs.

Most of my success has come from less-than-active pursuit. I might flirt, but I keep it noncommittal. But it's very, very nice to be told by a woman that she likes the way I look at her.

I would not claim to be super sexy or good looking. I'm decidedly not fat, but I'm not a macho man, either. Yet I've caught the eye of the hottie at the party more than once primarily by NOT making a real effort to talk to her while all the other guys fell all over themselves and swarmed around her.

 

[curvybritlady]

If you want to keep yourself mildy worked-up through the day, you could try slipping a vibrator, if you have one, into your bag. You don't have to use it, but knowing that it's there will automtically remind you of sexy times. Wearing 'special occasion' underwear (sorry if this is getting too personal) works for me because it's a subtle, private reminder of times when I felt attractive and sexy. The resulting confidence boost was great, and I completely agree with the other posters that confidence is a really sexy trait.

 

[Aurantica]

Mimic his actions slowly. I am not sure how to describe it in words, but I know how to do it naturally. It works well with dinner. Example: when he picks up his water glass, you do the same while looking at him. Yeah, something like that.

I know what you're talking about. I once heard it described as "mirroring" Its supposed to help put people at ease by subtly following and reinforcing their lead...

 

[silverwhisper]

yuna queried:
what are subtle ways that you incorporate sexiness in your everyday life? how do you try to emote sex appeal but make it non-obvious?

by being confident, first and foremost, and by being passionate about what one is doing. together, those things tend to make an incredible combination for me.

well, that...and the naughty librarian-thing...

what?

yuna queried:
in addition, can you think of those times when something quite subtle that someone else did inflamed you?

subtle? no, not really: i'm a straight guy. we don't do "subtle". :>

ed

 

[lemmesee]

A person can't be sexy, subtly or otherwise....in my humble opinion, true sexiness is in the eye of the beholder