How do dominatrixes set their rates?

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

I wasn't sure if it was the Soho in London or New York, but on the first page it says "badass Dominas to ever grace NYC." A "collective" doesn't have to be in the same physical space, but it could be.

"Balll kicking:" I just don't get that one. Merely getting hit by a softball during a game put me out of action for about ten minutes. One's backside has enough padding to tolerate a moderately hard spanking. Ball kicking reminds me of people who cut themselves. The speculation about the latter is that they wish to feel pain rather than being completely empty of other feelings. But Russian roulette is a real thing too. That must be really exciting.

My bad, I missed the NYC!

 

[Bramblethorn]

Thanks to tariffs, of course.

Oops, I didn't say that.

Of course! Because tariffs are the opposite of sub-sidies.

 

[Bramblethorn]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Spanner

It seems to be condemning both homosexuality and BDSM.

It was certainly interpreted by many as being driven by homophobia, yes.

As that expression goes: "Everybody seems weird if you get to know them well enough." The Obscene Publications Squad of 1959 implies that merely reading about certain acts caused some people to want to do them. Isn't Lit itself based in England somewhere?

Lit is US-based, AFAIK.

 

[lovecraft68]

They're Dommes, they tell you how much and you pay it, bitch!

Providers charge by 15 minutes (quick visit) HH and an hour. Many won't do full service for a QV, that's generally just a blow job. Some charge a flat hourly rate (250-300 is what I've seen here in RI on a site I checked out for a story I wrote) and say they're 'fetish friendly' which generally means they'll do some foot fetish or a bit of a role play for no extra.

Some will charge more for anything other than the basics as in positions GFE or PSE

But when you get into Dommes and BDSM, a QV isn't really a thing. The sessions are generally an hour and you're paying more than a standard provider charges because its specialized. Many of them full sex is not on the table, but they'll generally get you off after putting you through it. Sex, when they offer it, and some of the hardcore types don't, is going to cost more.

Having said all that, its your story so you can just make up the numbers. If you want the Domme to be high end, you can set prices as high as you want because they're so sought after.

In a series I write for the market a woman who owns a BDSM club and brothel but for the most part is retired charged a wealthy perv a thousand to just worship her feet and another if he wanted to jerk off on them her price for sex started at 10k

Realistic? I know a guy who worked on wall street for a few years and those idiots would be $500 for lap dances and a grand an hour to escorts Why? Because they're the kind of asshole who wants to pay to show off

Always factor in the dickhead male with money

 

[Dearelliot]

For years before I retired I frequented them and I could afford the prices ..back then...I also think they charge what the traffic will bear which is as the guy above said around $300 and up...In the late 70s early 80s I was paying $100 for the hour with good Dommes who had pretty elaborate dungeons. I wouldn't doubt you could find in NYC $1000 dollars an hour dommes and in Europe Dungeons to die for for the ultra wealthy .

 

[MelissaBaby]

Are there places where BDSM for money is illegal?

In some places, laws against prostitution define any sexual stimulation of genitalia, buttocks or breasts for payment as illegal, so that includes most BDSM activity.

 

[MrHereWriting]

That's one thing that can't be outsourced to Asia. Although one could fly to Thailand or some other place for it. I'm not sure if saving money is the point of that. It's more like easy access and the exotic location as part of an overall vacation.

A dominatrix, like a lawyer, charges what they want to charge based on....

1. How in demand they are
2. Experience
3. Clientele
4. Celebrity Status
5. Knowledge of the Industry
6. Perceived Value
7. Limits, Travel Time (If they travel), Special Activities, Expenses, Where their market value appears to top out, etc.

But, then there's Larry Wachoski, who married his dominatrix, so technically, it cost him half of his net worth, but what's money compared to happiness?

 

[Kumquatqueen]

A dominatrix, like a lawyer, charges what they want to charge based on....

1. How in demand they are
2. Experience
3. Clientele
4. Celebrity Status
5. Knowledge of the Industry
6. Perceived Value
7. Limits, Travel Time (If they travel), Special Activities, Expenses, Where their market value appears to top out, etc.

As a rule of thumb, the people I've known who worked professionally would take the local rate for a 1:1 professional for an hour, say £60 to £80 for a yoga teacher, masseur, visiting hairdresser etc, double to allow for planning a session, and then make it treble or quadruple just because. Clean-up time and discretion fee, I suppose.

So 'a few hundred' would work in GBP or USD.

When the UK tried banning 'extreme porn' some years back, citing the usual 'concerns' for women, one argument against it and in favour of BDSM was that if a sex worker moves to doing BDSM, then she only has to do about 1/4 as many clients for the same income, and can be much more diligent about referencing potential clients and thus much safer.

The Spanner Trust helped the campaign too, including a couple of the original Spanner case convicts. Really sweet guys. See Image Nine Point Four for a fictionalised version of the fight, with all the legal arguments.

 

[ChuckWolf]

I'm thinking in their 40s and 50s...I've had bad luck with younger.

I would think you'd want a dominatrix with more experience and is presumably, more into it.

If you're big into CBT, you probably don't want a dominatrix doing that stuff for the first time.

 

[Dearelliot]

I would think you'd want a dominatrix with more experience and is presumably, more into it.

If you're big into CBT, you probably don't want a dominatrix doing that stuff for the first time.

True enough, but finding a lady over the years (That I can afford) who will do CBT hasn't been easy...Often it's been a "Working lady" wannabe who says she a Domme and has no idea. If I lived in Europe it would be easier.

 

[9to5]

some years ago i was seeing one for $200 and she did enjoy her work. you could tell by how she did it. but now it seems anywhere from $300 and up.

 

[Dearelliot]

The price of $300 is a bit too much...If I could find a real Domme with a reasonable dungeon and she knew the scene maybe.

 

[gunhilltrain]

The price of $300 is a bit too much...If I could find a real Domme with a reasonable dungeon and she knew the scene maybe.

I'm writing a story about a dominatrix (from the client's POV) set in 1974. I have her costing $60 per hour, which is about $377 in today's money. That seems a bit to high, but even $50 would be $324. There has been a great deal of inflation in the last few years (587%) since the early 1970s) and the price of everything confuses and disorients people. I'm dismayed to see a box of cereal going for $7 or $8.

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

Paying for pain is the purview of the wealthy, who also dish it out to the poor for free! Seems to me that they should be paying the punishment they dish out as well.

I'm writing a story about a dominatrix (from the client's POV) set in 1974. I have her costing $60 per hour, which is about $377 in today's money. That seems a bit to high, but even $50 would be $324. There has been a great deal of inflation in the last few years (587%) since the early 1970s) and the price of everything confuses and disorients people. I'm dismayed to see a box of cereal going for $7 or $8.

 

[HordHolm]

For years before I retired I frequented them and I could afford the prices ..back then...I also think they charge what the traffic will bear which is as the guy above said around $300 and up...In the late 70s early 80s I was paying $100 for the hour with good Dommes who had pretty elaborate dungeons. I wouldn't doubt you could find in NYC $1000 dollars an hour dommes and in Europe Dungeons to die for for the ultra wealthy .

In the central European city where I live there is one particular dungeon to rent (without Dom or Domme) that is a converted townhouse in the embassy district. It stretches over four floors (including basement) and has been converted by floor into classic playroom, classic dungeon, modernist playroom and prison. There appear to be some side-rooms, too - medical, wet room, etc. It does very occasionally host events but is mostly only available for private hire for four hour to twenty-four hour stretches. Prices start at 500 USD for four hours, and you still have to supply your own Dom/Domme. Bearing in mind that the average monthly salary in this particular city is in the region of 2000 USD I think that gives a fairly clear idea of what the top end looks like here.

I haven't rented the facilities myself (I have more pressing needs for 500 USD), but the gallery on their website is fairly impressive. But then if I was paying the average weekly wage for four hours I would expect impressive.

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

In the central European city where I live there is one particular dungeon to rent (without Dom or Domme) that is a converted townhouse in the embassy district. It stretches over four floors (including basement) and has been converted by floor into classic playroom, classic dungeon, modernist playroom and prison. There appear to be some side-rooms, too - medical, wet room, etc. It does very occasionally host events but is mostly only available for private hire for four hour to twenty-four hour stretches. Prices start at 500 USD for four hours, and you still have to supply your own Dom/Domme. Bearing in mind that the average monthly salary in this particular city is in the region of 2000 USD I think that gives a fairly clear idea of what the top end looks like here.

I haven't rented the facilities myself (I have more pressing needs for 500 USD), but the gallery on their website is fairly impressive. But then if I was paying the average weekly wage for four hours I would expect impressive.

I have a few BDSM tripped-out rooms in my home.

And oh, shit I pulled a Millie!

 

[MrHereWriting]

I'm writing a story about a dominatrix (from the client's POV) set in 1974. I have her costing $60 per hour, which is about $377 in today's money. That seems a bit to high, but even $50 would be $324. There has been a great deal of inflation in the last few years (587%) since the early 1970s) and the price of everything confuses and disorients people. I'm dismayed to see a box of cereal going for $7 or $8.

It's only expensive if her clients can't afford it.

A lot of people are saying "the price has to hurt" but being a 'pay pig' (I find that term so gross, lol) or a financial sub is different from enjoying a session of BDSM. It's an extra fetish atop the average BDSM experience. The fetish is not all inclusive. Some people just want to have their nipples clamped for a price they find reasonable (within their budget) while NOT being peed on.

 

[gunhilltrain]

It's only expensive if her clients can't afford it.

A lot of people are saying "the price has to hurt" but being a 'pay pig' (I find that term so gross, lol) or a financial sub is different from enjoying a session of BDSM. It's an extra fetish atop the average BDSM experience. The fetish is not all inclusive. Some people just want to have their nipples clamped for a price they find reasonable (within their budget) while NOT being peed on.

A Rolls-Royce or a private plane is only expensive if one can't afford it, which is most of us. I've never heard the terms "pay pig" or "financial sub" before. I've found "pay piggie," which is defined as
A pathetic simp who pays women money just because he finds them attractive. "Jerry’s such a pay piggy. He sent that Instagram model $200 just to talk to him."

Cam girls would fit into that mode too.

 

[lovecraft68]

You're over thinking, set your rate, move on with the story.

If you need some help justifying what you feel would be a high price, think of it in terms that these encounters were harder to obtain back then. Laws were stricter, they couldn't advertise other than word of mouth, no internet or phones to set things up discreetly an overall more "moral" society. This was far more specialized than the streetwalkers that made up most prostitution back then.

Default to the line "Good service isn't cheap and cheap service isn't good"

 

[MrHereWriting]

A Rolls-Royce or a private plane is only expensive if one can't afford it, which is most of us. I've never heard the terms "pay pig" or "financial sub" before. I've found "pay piggie," which is defined as
A pathetic simp who pays women money just because he finds them attractive. "Jerry’s such a pay piggy. He sent that Instagram model $200 just to talk to him."

Cam girls would fit into that mode too.

The same could be said about gum if you can't afford it. "Paypig" was in response to 'the price must' hurt scenario, which is a load of BS.

It's like Lovecraft said: You're overthinking it. (Which was the point of my post, something you ignored so you could make an unneeded comparison.)

People in your story can afford the rates, unless you don't want them to, which can be source of drama. Stop wondering about the price per hour and write your story.

 

[gunhilltrain]

The same could be said about gum if you can't afford it. "Paypig" was in response to 'the price must' hurt scenario, which is a load of BS.

It's like Lovecraft said: You're overthinking it. (Which was the point of my post, something you ignored so you could make an unneeded comparison.)

People in your story can afford the rates, unless you don't want them to, which can be source of drama. Stop wondering about the price per hour and write your story.

Since this is set in 1974, I somewhat arbitrarily set the hourly rate at $40 per hour, which is about $224 in today's money. That sounds about right since most of the clients are middle class but not wealthy. In some prostitution stories,, I haven't bothered with prices at all.

I've already written about 90% of the story. I just wanted to plug in plausible numbers. I didn't ignore lovecraft, I missed his post entirely.

 

[Cagivagurl]

Maybe they charge dependant on physical exertion...
a dollar a spank...
fifty cents per yelled humiliation....

 

[nice90sguy]

My one experience with a pro domme was great. I wasn't (and am still not) into pain, but I did experience cuffs and nipple-clamps for the first time, and other more "extreme" stuff which I won't describe here. She was French, petite and very pretty; she was kind of a "gentle domme".
She ended up marrying one of her clients and retiring.
That was back in 2002, and coincided with my first literotica story. I think I paid her £120 for an hour.