How do I act Dom when I'm really a Sub??

[SuckUsoGood69]

Hi there all (especially dom ladies)!
I just got a job as a phone sex operator and so far i'm doing really great with the dom guys, lonely guys, the just plain horny guys and the really kinky and depraved ones! But I'm struggling with the men who want to be dominated and forced to do things... I'm almost speechless! Anyone have any advice?? This is like my dream job (i get paid to fuck myself all day) and I want to be the best at it I can be!!
Thanks and kisses!
xo

 

[koalabear]

Hi there all (especially dom ladies)!
I just got a job as a phone sex operator and so far i'm doing really great with the dom guys, lonely guys, the just plain horny guys and the really kinky and depraved ones! But I'm struggling with the men who want to be dominated and forced to do things... I'm almost speechless! Anyone have any advice?? This is like my dream job (i get paid to fuck myself all day) and I want to be the best at it I can be!!
Thanks and kisses!
xo

try the bdsm board......no wonder you flop at the job.

 

[SuckUsoGood69]

try the bdsm board......no wonder you flop at the job.

And why would that be? I don't "flop" at the job, I'm doing very well at it. I'll bet you'd be the kind of caller who'd want me to berate him for having a small cock.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Hi there all (especially dom ladies)!
I just got a job as a phone sex operator and so far i'm doing really great with the dom guys, lonely guys, the just plain horny guys and the really kinky and depraved ones! But I'm struggling with the men who want to be dominated and forced to do things... I'm almost speechless! Anyone have any advice?? This is like my dream job (i get paid to fuck myself all day) and I want to be the best at it I can be!!
Thanks and kisses!
xo

It's all about mindset. You have a tendency to be submissive, but just remember tht they are paying to cum with you and you can't let them until you get what you want. Tell them to stroke their cock, slow down, speed up, warn them that they can't cum until you tell them they can. Put them in a scenario that you usually find yourself in. You'll find your inner switch in no time.

 

[SuckUsoGood69]

It's all about mindset. You have a tendency to be submissive, but just remember tht they are paying to cum with you and you can't let them until you get what you want. Tell them to stroke their cock, slow down, speed up, warn them that they can't cum until you tell them they can. Put them in a scenario that you usually find yourself in. You'll find your inner switch in no time.

Thank you

I'm going to watch some dominatrix videos this evening between calls and see if I can get into it!

I think I need a local volunteer I can practice on in person so I can have some hands on experience

 

[jeffy72]

It's all about mindset. ... Put them in a scenario that you usually find yourself in. You'll find your inner switch in no time.

I agree with this.

I used to go into chat rooms and pretend to be a girl, not because I got off on guys wanting to fuck me (although I might have drifted into that mind set after doing it so long) but because there weren't any girls in the chat rooms, and I really wanted some cybersex. I behaved the way I would want a girl to behave if I was chatting with one, being my own "perfect partner." This got the scene going and once it was "on screen" I could read it back to myself, putting myself back into the male role for the purpose of my own fantasizing.

I also tend to be submissive by nature, and when I first started being Dom, I tended to focus on the violent, as I have a lot of repressed anger, then I started focusing on the hunger. I find myself hungry for sex and acting like a predator out to get something I need for my own survival makes me much more dominate in the way I act. I have found that just satisfying my own needs can have someone else satisfied kind of like collateral damage.

 

[SuckUsoGood69]

I agree with this.

I have found that just satisfying my own needs can have someone else satisfied kind of like collateral damage.

That actually makes a lot of sense to me, thanks! :* I have quite a bit pent up myself and I could enjoy having a whipping boy to take it out on lol and peachy for me that he'll actually like it

 

[jeffy72]

Thank you

I'm going to watch some dominatrix videos this evening between calls and see if I can get into it!

I think I need a local volunteer I can practice on in person so I can have some hands on experience

If only I didn't move away.... ***sigh***

 

[SuckUsoGood69]

If only I didn't move away.... ***sigh***

Always seems to work like that on here, someone gets me all hot n bothered n when I can't take it anymore n need to be filled up I find he's in like CA all the way across the country lol

 

[jeffy72]

Always seems to work like that on here, someone gets me all hot n bothered n when I can't take it anymore n need to be filled up I find he's in like CA all the way across the country lol

It just seemed doubly depressing, as I used to live in central Florida.

 

[SuckUsoGood69]

It just seemed doubly depressing, as I used to live in central Florida.

lol yeah that does suck! Don't you ever visit?