how do i meet a nice girl?
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Turn the tables
A lot of guys say they are nice and how come nice guys finish last. How about those girls that are nice and finish last. Time and time again, I hear my MALE friends complain about their GF, how they spend money, go out, flirt with other men and wonder about it. And most of them are the type that drive daddies car, and have daddies credit card and have this gorgous figure. And me, the average girl next door look person has to hear about GUYS complaining about their gf and wish they could find a nice girl who doesn't do all that, and all time, I AM RIGHT THERE listening to them. AHHHH!! But I finally met someone who actually gave me a chance and SAYS IM PRETTTY!! Hard to believe it, too. Most of the time people don't get a chance, but if you do, you'll be surprised on how it might turn out. Just a thought though.
A lot of guys say they are nice and how come nice guys finish last. How about those girls that are nice and finish last. Time and time again, I hear my MALE friends complain about their GF, how they spend money, go out, flirt with other men and wonder about it. And most of them are the type that drive daddies car, and have daddies credit card and have this gorgous figure. And me, the average girl next door look person has to hear about GUYS complaining about their gf and wish they could find a nice girl who doesn't do all that, and all time, I AM RIGHT THERE listening to them. AHHHH!! But I finally met someone who actually gave me a chance and SAYS IM PRETTTY!! Hard to believe it, too. Most of the time people don't get a chance, but if you do, you'll be surprised on how it might turn out. Just a thought though.
We are all human wich means most of the time we think about ourselfs first. Yes Sarcasm you are right I hadn't thought about women who have the same problem we nice guys have mabe the thread should be called How do you meet nice guys and gals. But I do want to meet the girl next door myself hopefully she will like living in the country but hey thats just a dream to have for now right. I wish you and your new guy the best and he may have just found the truth about you ( The Goddess Next Door Has a Heart as beautifal as a Butterfly and a Soal as deep as Space )
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id have to say that your problem is common.... im in college and the only women around are the losers whom go to parties use drugs and alcohol..... that is the only women whom are not
religious... or weigh 500 lb.
(nothing against the weight but rather just thinking of the issues behind it and caused by it... ie mental health and health issues.)
Even as such i have met over the past 5 or so years 2 women whom did not drink, use drugs and were non religious... but the problem was they already had boyfriends...
in either case i want nothing to do with the people whom do the party scenes.... just thinking of the STD statistics makes me shiver... not to mention the lack of understanding over the consecuences and reprecutions of and for their actions.
(been hurt too many times by people like that)
I know my post is of little help for you but just wanting to point out that youll have a hard time trying to find intelligent, kind and caring people in this world. I know i have had problems with it and wil continue to have those problems.... so i extend my sympathy towards you.
By the way after about 3 years of trying to hookup with people and trying out the "dating" scene i just gave up on it since 99% of the people out there are not worth the air they breathe.
id have to say that your problem is common.... im in college and the only women around are the losers whom go to parties use drugs and alcohol..... that is the only women whom are not
religious... or weigh 500 lb.
(nothing against the weight but rather just thinking of the issues behind it and caused by it... ie mental health and health issues.)
Even as such i have met over the past 5 or so years 2 women whom did not drink, use drugs and were non religious... but the problem was they already had boyfriends...
in either case i want nothing to do with the people whom do the party scenes.... just thinking of the STD statistics makes me shiver... not to mention the lack of understanding over the consecuences and reprecutions of and for their actions.
(been hurt too many times by people like that)
I know my post is of little help for you but just wanting to point out that youll have a hard time trying to find intelligent, kind and caring people in this world. I know i have had problems with it and wil continue to have those problems.... so i extend my sympathy towards you.
By the way after about 3 years of trying to hookup with people and trying out the "dating" scene i just gave up on it since 99% of the people out there are not worth the air they breathe.
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Re: well
Better watch it... I said something like that once and wound up in the psycho ward for a few days...
just some dweeb said:
Better watch it... I said something like that once and wound up in the psycho ward for a few days...
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Just some dweeb...
I completely understand what you are talking about. I go to college too, and the girls there a complete scumbuckets. For them, College is like a big catwalk for them to parade in outfits that should not belong at school. You'll find some down to earth girls too, but the majority are those that party and do drugs and date the popular guys. like others mentioned, great places to meet people are at coffee shops, Bookstores, libraries. There you are able to find more relaxed intelligent people who aren't off their rockers. Even guys are immature in College, it sux. That is why I date older men. I get a long better with them mentally and their maturity level has gone up. Not saying all older guys are, was seeing one and man, I look back on that one think to myself, What was I thinking?!" Then I realize, I was one with low self esteem and by him finding me attractive I got sucked in, only to find that he wasn't in it b/c he liked me, he was in it b/c I was a virgin and he could probably get a piece, AHH! MEN! LOL Sorry for rambling and ranting, i'll stop now.
GOOD LUCK!
I completely understand what you are talking about. I go to college too, and the girls there a complete scumbuckets. For them, College is like a big catwalk for them to parade in outfits that should not belong at school. You'll find some down to earth girls too, but the majority are those that party and do drugs and date the popular guys. like others mentioned, great places to meet people are at coffee shops, Bookstores, libraries. There you are able to find more relaxed intelligent people who aren't off their rockers. Even guys are immature in College, it sux. That is why I date older men. I get a long better with them mentally and their maturity level has gone up. Not saying all older guys are, was seeing one and man, I look back on that one think to myself, What was I thinking?!" Then I realize, I was one with low self esteem and by him finding me attractive I got sucked in, only to find that he wasn't in it b/c he liked me, he was in it b/c I was a virgin and he could probably get a piece, AHH! MEN! LOL Sorry for rambling and ranting, i'll stop now.
GOOD LUCK!
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There's the old saying of "You've got to try on a lot of shoes before finding the right fit"- and it could apply here.
While I agree that the finding a nice person scenario can be daunting & frustrating, the most important thing is not to give up and realize that you're still a pretty darn good person. Confidence is sexy! Don't ever give up your sense of self esteem just to date someone for the reason of JUST dating.
Be creative in how you meet people, too. Try offbeat locations & events. Sign up for something you've always wanted to learn, a charitable event, intramural sports, art classes, or volunteer for an event. There are people out there! I know in this politically correct day & age no one wants to come across as a sexual predator, so you've got to be somewhat tactful. Have faith in yourselves!
While I agree that the finding a nice person scenario can be daunting & frustrating, the most important thing is not to give up and realize that you're still a pretty darn good person. Confidence is sexy! Don't ever give up your sense of self esteem just to date someone for the reason of JUST dating.
Be creative in how you meet people, too. Try offbeat locations & events. Sign up for something you've always wanted to learn, a charitable event, intramural sports, art classes, or volunteer for an event. There are people out there! I know in this politically correct day & age no one wants to come across as a sexual predator, so you've got to be somewhat tactful. Have faith in yourselves!
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If We're all so great...
If We're such great people, why do We get passed over for utter scumbags?
Faith. I used to have faith. That was before I discovered what humanity really was.
Lust Engine said:
If We're such great people, why do We get passed over for utter scumbags?
Faith. I used to have faith. That was before I discovered what humanity really was.
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Go where the Nice Girls are: Church/synagogue.
Seriously, if you don't meet Her there, then you'll meet people who know Nice Girls. I like the indirect route. Take your time and meet people who like the kind of woman you want.
Here's a devious ploy that I just figured out. Everyone knows that having a dog is a good way to meet people. Well, a dog can be a lot of work. Along that same thread, babies are great for meeting women. But, believe it or not, babies are even more work than dogs. HOWEVER, if you're carrying around a toy for a niece or nephew, you get points for being kid-friendly and maybe get that conversation!
Personally, Nice Girls only turn me on if they Bad Girls in bed. Mmmmm, Bad Girls!
Seriously, if you don't meet Her there, then you'll meet people who know Nice Girls. I like the indirect route. Take your time and meet people who like the kind of woman you want.
Here's a devious ploy that I just figured out. Everyone knows that having a dog is a good way to meet people. Well, a dog can be a lot of work. Along that same thread, babies are great for meeting women. But, believe it or not, babies are even more work than dogs. HOWEVER, if you're carrying around a toy for a niece or nephew, you get points for being kid-friendly and maybe get that conversation!
Personally, Nice Girls only turn me on if they Bad Girls in bed. Mmmmm, Bad Girls!
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sweetaspeaches said:
I totally agree...just start talking ....where ever you may be...
you will be surprised....
Enjoy and happy hunting....
Try the veggies dept. at the store....
Have meet a few women there and it can be so much fun...
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You can do all of the things that people have listed.
You could try the personals online. You might be surprise how many people in your area that are looking for the same thing you are and arent still in high school as a student.
What could it hurt?
You could try the personals online. You might be surprise how many people in your area that are looking for the same thing you are and arent still in high school as a student.
What could it hurt?
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Sacasm82.... to quote you...
"Even guys are immature in College, it sux. That is why I date older men....."....
well im 22 and i know that but you wouldnt believe the prejudice and discrimination i have to face because of certain age dependant societal roles etc that i dont abide by.
Tried to date "older" women too but the only responce was that none of them really felt "right" about dating a "younger" guy....
Oh and then there is the factor of most of the currently single "older" women having have had in the past
behaved in the exact same manner as their current younger versions do (ie doing the drugs parties etc...) which is also one of the reasons for them being single these days.
oh and there was quite a bit of sarcasm/ exageration in my first post.. though truthfull of my experience some people might have misinterpreted it. Quite a bit of it in this one as well.
In general the bookstore library coffee house idea.. well ...
i got to tell you that it does not work.... tried it and only got the brushoff treatment... So go figure.
These days i dont really bother,
i just go to school and work so that some day i can make truck loads of money and move to an (to quite star trek) "...island filled with naked women..."
.... preferably all 30 yr old supermodel virgins.
Sarcasm there again....
and add to that the countermanding situation i mentioned of imposed societal roles in comparison to what i meantioned of my own reality.... you might get the joke...
maybe...
most people will not.
By the way sorry about my writing style.... im not really passionate about grammar or sentence structures.
So figure it out.
"Even guys are immature in College, it sux. That is why I date older men....."....
well im 22 and i know that but you wouldnt believe the prejudice and discrimination i have to face because of certain age dependant societal roles etc that i dont abide by.
Tried to date "older" women too but the only responce was that none of them really felt "right" about dating a "younger" guy....
Oh and then there is the factor of most of the currently single "older" women having have had in the past
behaved in the exact same manner as their current younger versions do (ie doing the drugs parties etc...) which is also one of the reasons for them being single these days.
oh and there was quite a bit of sarcasm/ exageration in my first post.. though truthfull of my experience some people might have misinterpreted it. Quite a bit of it in this one as well.
In general the bookstore library coffee house idea.. well ...
i got to tell you that it does not work.... tried it and only got the brushoff treatment... So go figure.
These days i dont really bother,
i just go to school and work so that some day i can make truck loads of money and move to an (to quite star trek) "...island filled with naked women..."
.... preferably all 30 yr old supermodel virgins.Sarcasm there again....
and add to that the countermanding situation i mentioned of imposed societal roles in comparison to what i meantioned of my own reality.... you might get the joke...
maybe...
most people will not.
By the way sorry about my writing style.... im not really passionate about grammar or sentence structures.
So figure it out.
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Chuckwrox said:
What if you don't go to any sort of organized religious ritual locations?
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lilpriss said:
Um, no. Organized religion became too repulsive to stomach a couple decades ago. Don't get Me started.
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Still, go where the Nice Girls are. (Note: This is probably a different place from "Where The Wild Things Are") Nice Girls like other Nice Girls, so getting to know a Nice Girl who you're not interested in, romantically, could still connect you with Nice Girls who you'd be interested in, all the same.
I guess it depends on what sort of non-religious Nice Girl you're interested in. In the Northwest, a lot of Nice Girls like hiking, and there are plenty of hiking clubs in this area.
I guess it depends on what sort of non-religious Nice Girl you're interested in. In the Northwest, a lot of Nice Girls like hiking, and there are plenty of hiking clubs in this area.
end up being a good friend
In college while I was working in the office I started up a sorta friendship with one of my fellow workstudies. She kept on complaining about her bf and how he cheated on her and such. I asked her why she kept talking to me about it. She said I was such a good listener. Such frustration. I'll be base about it, I wanted her bad but was too shy to push it anymore. Us nice guys need to have a little more backbone here.
In college while I was working in the office I started up a sorta friendship with one of my fellow workstudies. She kept on complaining about her bf and how he cheated on her and such. I asked her why she kept talking to me about it. She said I was such a good listener. Such frustration. I'll be base about it, I wanted her bad but was too shy to push it anymore. Us nice guys need to have a little more backbone here.
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Re: If We're all so great...
That doesn't mean we completely give up on trying to find that person do we? I think it's in our nature to try. Why must the glass be half empty all the time?? Sure it might in reality be only half full, but I'm thankful for the glass even.
Just because things can be rough & humanity can be cruel, why add to the misery? I know I can change things by being a nice person. It's no reason to stop trying just because things can suck.
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That doesn't mean we completely give up on trying to find that person do we? I think it's in our nature to try. Why must the glass be half empty all the time?? Sure it might in reality be only half full, but I'm thankful for the glass even.
Just because things can be rough & humanity can be cruel, why add to the misery? I know I can change things by being a nice person. It's no reason to stop trying just because things can suck.
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hey now, you guys are not being very nice here...not all college girls are drunken druggie whores... I'm not necessarily a nice girl, becuz I can be quite mean sometimes...but I'm definately not the hot girl walking around in 'clothes that don't belong in school.' I sometimes like to dress up and look nice for myself, which might include an outfit not normally worn at school, such as something a bit dressy...but that doesn't mean anything. stereotyping like that may be your problem... don't be so harsh on everyone else, and everyone else might not be so harsh on you
(listen to me, I should be taking my own advice, haha)
hey now, you guys are not being very nice here...not all college girls are drunken druggie whores... I'm not necessarily a nice girl, becuz I can be quite mean sometimes...but I'm definately not the hot girl walking around in 'clothes that don't belong in school.' I sometimes like to dress up and look nice for myself, which might include an outfit not normally worn at school, such as something a bit dressy...but that doesn't mean anything. stereotyping like that may be your problem... don't be so harsh on everyone else, and everyone else might not be so harsh on you
(listen to me, I should be taking my own advice, haha)
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Re: Re: If We're all so great...
There's a big difference between the fact that things can suck and the fact that they never get any better. If the glass wasn't always about half full of rotting piss, maybe some of us would stop seeing it as more empty than full.
I've TRIED being nice. It doesn't work because I'm not some pretty fratboy with daddy's credit cards and a Porsche. I'm not some suit and tie professional. I'm not an extra from a soap opera. Therefore, I'm not good enough because I live in the real world where people aren't all perfect versions of humanity they've been feeding people for the last several decades.
Lust Engine said:
There's a big difference between the fact that things can suck and the fact that they never get any better. If the glass wasn't always about half full of rotting piss, maybe some of us would stop seeing it as more empty than full.
I've TRIED being nice. It doesn't work because I'm not some pretty fratboy with daddy's credit cards and a Porsche. I'm not some suit and tie professional. I'm not an extra from a soap opera. Therefore, I'm not good enough because I live in the real world where people aren't all perfect versions of humanity they've been feeding people for the last several decades.
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Yuck. What a miserable corner of The Real World you live in? I've never had much trouble getting dates with women, Nice Girls or Bad Girls. Now, it's true: I never wasted any time pursuing the most beautiful women, either. At least, not the most beautiful on the outside. You know what I'm saying. I never had much trouble getting dates with Real Women and I've never had any of those advantages you rattled off. Do you really want to spend that much time with women who are so taken in by porsches? I don't.
Perfect Women, though, aren't going to go out with me, anyway, so I don't bother with them. Maybe they're the ones who are pissing in your half-empty glass.
But stick with the bitterness. Nothing turns on chicks more than sulking bitterness.
Perfect Women, though, aren't going to go out with me, anyway, so I don't bother with them. Maybe they're the ones who are pissing in your half-empty glass.
But stick with the bitterness. Nothing turns on chicks more than sulking bitterness.
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