How do I persuade my friend to let me write an erotic story about her?

[geronimo_appleby]

Because being a generally unpleasant shithead for absolutely no fucking reason is a really fucking crappy way to live your life, you obnoxious turd sucker. Perhaps if you were a little more positive and pleasant, you'd understand that, but you seem to lack the basic human traits of empathy and compassion, so whatever.

and you know me, right?

...anyway, it looks like i've succeeded in winding you right up. too easy.

 

[tapeworm]

Does she know you write erotica? Does she read your stories.

If she does, I would hold off on using her as a muse for one of your stories.

It's one thing to bandy around double entendres on Facebook. It would be creepy for me to read that one of my friends who I would never have any intention of having an intimate relationship with would use me as a protagonist in a story. That would be crossing the line.

However, you could probably safely use her as a muse if you change a number of identifiable features in your story (name, hair color, where she lives, hobbies, etc.) or fictionalize enough of the story to not have her wonder if you were writing about her.

But if you are this motivated to use her as a muse in one of your stories, are you really being honest with yourself in not wanting to take things beyond the friend zone?

Your suggestion sounds rather reasonable. As I said, I would never even consider the idea of writing a story about her and including her personal details in it (eg:her names, address, city of residence, college that she';s attending, etc..), unless I had her explicit permission to do so. She is my friend after all and I wouldn not want to undertake any action that would severely compromise her identity. To answer your first question, she does not read erotica in general, at least as far as I know, so there's very little danger of her stumbling across any of my stories. Truth be told, my ideal scenario would involve me writing two versions of this story, one strictly for her personal enjoyment , with the other being for public consumption and featuring a fictionalized version of her under a different name, city of residence, etc.. (assuming that she decides to authorize a public version )

As for your final question, my relationship with her is a platonic one , with the added twist that I find her deeply sexually appealing. As I previously stated, I don't want to compromise our friendship by getting sexually intimate with her . There's little danger of things escalating anyway since we currently live in seperate cities.

 

[tapeworm]

and you know me, right?

...anyway, it looks like i've succeeded in winding you right up. too easy.

I don't mean to be rude but would it possible if you were to refrain from provoking other posters who've actually gone to the trouble of offering me useful and sincere advice? As much as you might think otherwise, this is actually a matter of some importance, at least to me.

 

[tapeworm]

Honestly, I think you need to be very careful about the way you approach this. Be pretty sure that you know she's going to approve of this idea before you broach it as it could well end up being something that could damage your relationship if not properly understood. I think you would be write to allow her as much input and editorial control as she likes if she did go for it, but you may be better off simply using her as the inspiration for a fictional character with a different name etc.

This is actually a rather nice summary of some of the more useful advice that other posters have offered. If it turns out that the very idea of erotica in general repulses her, I'll simply opt to use a fictional character based on her. That particular option would allow me to embark on a creative process that I would find deeply engaging without having to compromise her privacy in any way.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

I don't mean to be rude but would it possible if you were to refrain from provoking other posters who've actually gone to the trouble of offering me useful and sincere advice? As much as you might think otherwise, this is actually a matter of some importance, at least to me.

hey, of course, no worries, but do read back and see who poked whom. i woulda left it all alone, but i got jumped on. puerile perhaps, but that's the mood i got caught in.

so, i'll apologise unreservedly to you for the threadjack.

now, are you going to go down the obvious route as suggested - changing names, etc?

 

[tapeworm]

Not saying this will work with everyone, but you might consider just being straightforward with her.

the original reason I joined lit was because someone from my dorm in college wanted to write a story with me as the main character. i got an email out of the blue (hadn't heard from him in a couple years I think), where he explained that he wanted the character in his story to look like me, and asked if i would come join Lit and post a few pictures of myself, so that the people reading his story would know what the character was supposed to look like.

Personally I was very turned on by this idea, and after hearing more about the story he was writing, I joined and have been posting on and off on here forever.

Again, not saying your friend will react the same way, but just being up front and honest is something to at least consider. Who knows, maybe shell even want to contribute...

good luck!

You've just described what would be the perfect scenario for me! I'll broach the subject gradually to assess her personal feelings about the possibility of her appearing in any of my stories (erotic or otherwise) and if she proves amenable, I'll choose to be honest with her.

 

[tapeworm]

hey, of course, no worries, but do read back and see who poked whom. i woulda left it all alone, but i got jumped on. puerile perhaps, but that's the mood i got caught in.

so, i'll apologise unreservedly to you for the threadjack.

now, are you going to go down the obvious route as suggested - changing names, etc?

Thanks. Your cooperation on this matter is much appreciated. To anwer your question, I probably will do exactly that, unless my friend is as open-minded as SashaGaga999

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Thanks. Your cooperation on this matter is much appreciated. To anwer your question, I probably will do exactly that, unless my friend is as open-minded as SashaGaga999

link me up if/when it's posted ... assuming you're submitting it to lit, that is.

 

[tapeworm]

link me up if/when it's posted ... assuming you're submitting it to lit, that is.

Sure thing.

 

[satindesire]

and you know me, right?

...anyway, it looks like i've succeeded in winding you right up. too easy.

I apparently pegged you correctly, since you're gloating about being an asshole, so looks like I was right and I DO know you. I do get wound up when someone acts like a prick for no reason. That's called being human. Grow up and stop acting like a cunt for a change.

hey, of course, no worries, but do read back and see who poked whom. i woulda left it all alone, but i got jumped on. puerile perhaps, but that's the mood i got caught in.

so, i'll apologise unreservedly to you for the threadjack.

now, are you going to go down the obvious route as suggested - changing names, etc?

According to the thread, you poked the OP first. So, yeah, pot/kettle. Troll harder, plox.

That's actually a very sensible suggestion and I have absolutely no intention of including any personal details that would compromise her privacy. Although she isn't aware that I write erotica , she is aware that I do write stories from time to time. Your approach sounds reasonable and it's probably the sort of request that she'd be comfortable with. I suppose that if I obtained her permission to write a story about her character inspired by her ( as opposed to actually transplanting her into the heart of my story), I might simply subsequently bring up the subject of erotica in general to see if the idea repels her. If it dosen't, then I might gradually ease her into the whole business, ensuring that she's comfortable with the whole idea before I decide to start writing.

That sounds like a fantastic plan. I think you'll be just fine.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

I apparently pegged you correctly, since you're gloating about being an asshole, so looks like I was right and I DO know you. I do get wound up when someone acts like a prick for no reason. That's called being human. Grow up and stop acting like a cunt for a change.



According to the thread, you poked the OP first. So, yeah, pot/kettle. Troll harder, plox.



That sounds like a fantastic plan. I think you'll be just fine.

you're still going on, eh?

 

[satindesire]

you're still going on, eh?

Pot/kettle again. Obviously the word "hypocrite" means nothing to you.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hey, what's your erotica blog? I couldn't find a link on your profile.

Yeah, it's an old blog restricted to friends and it's been years since I did much with it, so no point in me linking from here. I do have a few stories over there; I'll be migrating them to Lit once I finish the series I'm currently posting.

 

[norfolklad]

Your suggestion sounds rather reasonable. As I said, I would never even consider the idea of writing a story about her and including her personal details in it (eg:her names, address, city of residence, college that she';s attending, etc..), unless I had her explicit permission to do so. She is my friend after all and I wouldn not want to undertake any action that would severely compromise her identity. To answer your first question, she does not read erotica in general, at least as far as I know, so there's very little danger of her stumbling across any of my stories. Truth be told, my ideal scenario would involve me writing two versions of this story, one strictly for her personal enjoyment , with the other being for public consumption and featuring a fictionalized version of her under a different name, city of residence, etc.. (assuming that she decides to authorize a public version )

As for your final question, my relationship with her is a platonic one , with the added twist that I find her deeply sexually appealing. As I previously stated, I don't want to compromise our friendship by getting sexually intimate with her . There's little danger of things escalating anyway since we currently live in seperate cities.

I agree with Ms Quote too.

You don't say where you are resident but here in the UK you would be treading perilously close to the possibility of a harassment charge and getting yourself on the Sex Offenders Register.

Your friend might be perfectly ok with the idea. She might even be thrilled with it and get extremely aroused. She might not have realised that you thought about her in that way and who knows where it might end up. On the other hand some people would totally freak out over such a suggestion and go straight to the police accusing you of being a dangerous pervert. Are you prepared to take the risk - and let me add that sometimes you can find that you really don't know someone until it all goes wrong.

Let me put it this way. If she doesn't know that you write erotica (she may not read it but a friend might and recognise her), if you write under a name that cannot be traced back to you, and if you disguise your character so that she isn't readily identifiable, then go ahead. But I wouldn't mention it to her.

It seems to me that you almost want her to know that you're writing about her so that she knows how you feel about her. If that's the case, find a more conventional way to go about it. You'll soon find out if she feels the same about you without the risk of getting arrested!

 

[tapeworm]

I agree with Ms Quote too.

You don't say where you are resident but here in the UK you would be treading perilously close to the possibility of a harassment charge and getting yourself on the Sex Offenders Register.

Your friend might be perfectly ok with the idea. She might even be thrilled with it and get extremely aroused. She might not have realised that you thought about her in that way and who knows where it might end up. On the other hand some people would totally freak out over such a suggestion and go straight to the police accusing you of being a dangerous pervert. Are you prepared to take the risk - and let me add that sometimes you can find that you really don't know someone until it all goes wrong.

Let me put it this way. If she doesn't know that you write erotica (she may not read it but a friend might and recognise her), if you write under a name that cannot be traced back to you, and if you disguise your character so that she isn't readily identifiable, then go ahead. But I wouldn't mention it to her.

It seems to me that you almost want her to know that you're writing about her so that she knows how you feel about her. If that's the case, find a more conventional way to go about it. You'll soon find out if she feels the same about you without the risk of getting arrested!

Change of plan. I'm going to go ahead and write a story about her but it won't be an ereotic one. It'll actually be the basis for a fantasy novel that I'm planning to write. You're right. I can't afford to jeopardize my friendship with her.