How Do I...

[laroxes]

Get picked up in a bar.. I'm a bi curious male and would like to experience a gay encounter this week while on business. Not sure how to go about getting picked up in a bar - straight bar - not interested in a gay bar...

In DFW area for the week (Plano).. any advise... want to do this, but also how do I do it safely?

 

[sillyputty613]

Having worked in many types of bars for nearly twenty years, my advice to you, if you would like to have an experience, is: Get thee to a gay bar.

Safety wise, the starting point is that it's much safer to say, "I think I'm bi-curious" in a gay bar than it is in most straight bars.

Only because, while there are bi-curious guys in straight bars, chances are, they are outnumbered by straight guys looking for ladies. Or bi curious guys who are way too nervous to talk to another bi curious guy. It's a bit like going to a sports bar and hoping to hook up with someone who likes dominoes. Sure it can happen, but chances are higher if you go to a dominoes bar.

And of course, safety is always an issue, straight, GLBT, or just plain curious.

So don't get drunk.

Go to a gay bar, sit right up at the bar, order a soda and be friendly. If you feel nervous, as you should, being the first time, tell the bartender, "sorry, a bit nervous, and curious, never been to a gay bar before." Chances are he'll lean over and say something like, "don't worry, hun, we don't bite."

And part of a bartenders job is to know what's happening to everyone in the bar. So he might point you out to someone else and say, "It's his first time too." Then you have a friend. And you can talk about being bicurious. Which is an acceptable discussion at a gay bar. And not always an acceptable conversation in a straight bar.

Just some advice, take it or leave it. And have fun.

 

[elamib]

Excellent advice 'SillyPutty'.

 

[limplizzard]

If you are looking for gay sex only go to gay bars.