How do you bring up snowballing?

[KrispyKritter]

My girlfriend and I have oral sex more than anything, and we do it almost every time we see eachother. She's basically everything I could dream of in that she will kiss me right after I eat her out, will give me blowjobs right after vaginal sex, and she always swallows. The only thing she seems to have a hang up about is kissing me after I've cum in her mouth. The times she does, she keeps her lips tightly pressed together, which is about as romantic as kissing a wall. I've been trying to hint to her that I don't mind the taste of cum (we've even talked about how I used to perform auto-fellatio), and that I WANT to kiss her after oral sex, but she doesn't seem willing to loosen up.

What I really want to do is snowball, but I'm not even sure bringing that up is a good idea until I can get a simple french kiss after she swallows.

Any suggestions?

 

[SweetErika]

Have you asked her what the fears/turn offs are behind kissing you after a blowjob? Perhaps if you can understand her concerns, you'll be able to work on them together with time and baby steps.

 

[KrispyKritter]

I asked her about it once (just kissing me). She said it was just weird. I tried to compare it to kissing after cunnilingus, but the similarities seem to be lost on her.

 

[MR.GGG]

yechh

Lots of huys think that tastng sperm is THE grossest thing imagineable and it's gonna turn them queer too.

Maybe she went out with one of those guys before you and he told her NEVER do that. Myabe it's just her sense of hygiene or sexual propriety. If SHE thinks it is gross and not manly for YOU to want to doi that then don't push it. It may, in her eyes, turn you into something you aren't. If ya follow.

Will she let you eat her out right after intercourse? If she allows that then maybe she just enjoys the taste of sperm and doesn't want to share ....

 

[Carnevil9]

maybe she just enjoys the taste of sperm and doesn't want to share ....

That's what I was thinking. She sounds semen-retentive.....Carney

 

[JustaJerk]

Will she let you eat her out right after intercourse? If she allows that then maybe she just enjoys the taste of sperm and doesn't want to share ....

When I read your first post, this is exactly what I was going to suggest. If you do it missionary style, you've already got her legs spread with you between them. Kiss and neck for a little while afterwards. Then slowly move down to her tits. Then farther down... Eventually, you'll be eating your cum from her pussy.

But as Mr. GGG also pointed out, if she thinks it very unmanly for you to want to do this, you could lose a girlfriend over it. Wait until the next one.

 

[jeninflorida]

My girlfriend and I have oral sex more than anything, and we do it almost every time we see eachother. She's basically everything I could dream of in that she will kiss me right after I eat her out, will give me blowjobs right after vaginal sex, and she always swallows. The only thing she seems to have a hang up about is kissing me after I've cum in her mouth. The times she does, she keeps her lips tightly pressed together, which is about as romantic as kissing a wall. I've been trying to hint to her that I don't mind the taste of cum (we've even talked about how I used to perform auto-fellatio), and that I WANT to kiss her after oral sex, but she doesn't seem willing to loosen up.

What I really want to do is snowball, but I'm not even sure bringing that up is a good idea until I can get a simple french kiss after she swallows.

Any suggestions?

cuz i'm sure the first time she gave a guy a bj, and tried to kiss him, the guy freaked! i'm not sure what other issues she might have, as i dont know her.....do you masterbate in front of her? if so, sample it!

 

[KrispyKritter]

Will she let you eat her out right after intercourse? If she allows that then maybe she just enjoys the taste of sperm and doesn't want to share ....

I don't ever finish during intercourse, but this gives me an idea... maybe I'll lap some up the next time I give her a pearl necklace.

 

[M's girl]

I don't have an awful lot of hang-ups where sex is concerned but the ones I do have all stem from some guy in the past making a comment. I am very sensitive, especially where sex is concerned, I don't know why that is, but it's true. This results in me being very adaptive and sensitive to what my man wants and needs. But if the same man would (and has) ever comment on me doing something wrong or being too fat or whatever that will stay with me forever too. I think many women are like that.

Just an example: I always take good care of my body and make sure I'm clean and everything. I shave my legs, make sure I smell nice and worry about my hair and silly ( ) stuff like that. I prefer to have sex after I have showered just to be able to let myself go a bit because only then I'm pretty sure my guy can go almost every place he wants to with his fingers and tongue. If I'm not sure, some areas are a no-go for that time being. Once I was with a guy that wanted to do me doggy style. I had taken a shower a few hours before but also had gone to the toilet since. (Sorry about being graphic here ). Anyway, at one point he said something like "sjeez, turn around because you smell". I did, but I was so thrown off and hurt. I have been squeemish about it ever since.

So I could understand it like no other if something like this happened to her. She will have a very hard time believing that you are different. There are just a lot of guys who expect their women to take the load in their mouth and then turn around and tell them they don't want to kiss because they think that is gross. To each their own, but I find guys like that kinda stupid and selfish, to be honest. Still, if that would had happened to me and M would try to convince me otherwise it would take me years before I would believe him I think.

 

[CheekyLady]

Communicate it right

Communication is the key to make anything work in my opinion.

Now try to tell her perhaps in a way that is not hinted but direct and leaves no place for doubts. If she had had bad experiences in the past with previous partners it might take lots of convincing.

Most of all, tell her in a way that may turn her on. She is your partner and you know better than anyone else what makes her hot. I'm personally thinking along the lines of whispering to her while you make love or basking in the afterglow, how hot you'd find kissing her and sharing the taste of your essence on her lips. Those erotic lips you want to worship with endless, hot kisses. Tell her how sexy you find to see your cum dribbling down her chin, how hard it is for you to resist to lick it off and your way up right into a deep, wet kiss. If you think that the fact that she swallows is special and you enjoy it, make sure to appreciate it often and emphasize the rush you get from watching your cum on her lips, how the sheer idea of watching her sexy lips part and show you her cum covered tongue makes your cock tingle all over, how much you'd like to share the pleasure of snowballing with her.

Share it with her as a sexy fantasy of yours and don't get discouraged if she doesn't get hooked right away. I know from personal experience that people with hang ups often need lot of patience, time and reassurance to over come their doubts. Often planting the little seed of your interest in a certain subject will set thought in her head into motion which even may result in developing her own fantasies on the subject.

It is clear from your post that you adore her, make her feel special and let her know often how much you value her and how much she turns you on and do share your fantasies, maybe ask about hers if there is something she'd like to try or even just talk about.

When I feel comfortable with my partner and good about our relationship, knowing that he accepts and adores me with all my kinks, it is much easier to be open minded about new ideas.

Patience, honest, open, and sexy communication would be my advice.

I hope things will work out well for the two of you.

ChL

 

[hogjack]

What I really want to do is snowball, but I'm not even sure bringing that up is a good idea until I can get a simple french kiss after she swallows.

Just wait until you debate/discuss a mortgage.

Not even french-kissing will save that headache-inducing conversation.