how do you define your sexual orientation?

[Never]

Obviously, your initial response had nothing to do with my statement, as I hadn't made it yet.

 

[Equinoxe]

I know, it was a lame attempt at commenting on the fallibility of human communication.

Edited to say: Initially, my response to your statement was "Yes." but that being only 4 characters is too short, so instead I went with the tangent that came to mind.

 

[snowy ciara]

Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I hadn't seen such a detailed explanation of the Kinsey Scale before; thanks for providing that link! I think I would probably turn out to be a Kinsey 5.

You're welcome.

 

[John Doe]

I define my sexual orientation as my orientation towards sex. And genders.

 

[lilbitsjr]

Sexual Orientation

See I've always viewed a persons sexual orientation not soley on who their loins quiver for but instead who they are mentally attracted to. I have always believed in the power of love. Although I consider myself bisexual because of my physical sexual feelings towards women, I have found myself in love with a man. I believe that one cannot soley base their sexual orientation based on their animalistic impulses but also on who they fall in love with, whether they be a person of the same or opposite sex.

But I've always been the type of person to feel attracted to a person based on their mind and soul first, then their body.

 

[Pookie]

I think it's a combination of both for me. But it could easily be just one for others. IMO, Relationships don't require sexual attraction, and vice versa.

 

[spread]

I certainly have my situational preferences, but I haven't really thought about it much.

 

[wicked woman]

I've always considered myself straight..........but experience has proven that the 'continuum' theory of sexual attraction is more accurate...and as snowy ciara stated earlier :

I'd rather just be classified as "sexual" and continue to fall in love with people rather than plumbing.

The 'sexual' label is more comfortable to me...mostly because that's how I define myself...but partly because the bisexual label, while technically accurate, just doesn't feel like a perfect 'fit'.

 

[sluttyBBW4U]

my orientation

i view sexual orientation as being in a state of flux, for me it is very fluid...but that may be related to how i view myself as bisexual...

i find myself sexually attracted to men and women, so i consider myself bi...

but, i have only ever fallen in love with women...

so, i suppose sexual orientation has more to do with sex and sexual attraction...than love...

of course, that is just how i see it...

 

[Teal]

Iam an other....

Cause of my MpD( multy persioality disorder) I am bi, straight female and looks really homo to others when i look at a guy and it scares my other persionality that is straight male.

And the scarry thing is the first two personalitys are co existant togeather while the third sits back and cryes cause hes confused.

 

[bisexplicit]

I can understand people who are bi because of a simple physical attraction to the same sex that doesn't extend into romantic attractions.
However, I find both sexes equally sexually desirable and romantically desirable.

 

[SweetJuggalette]

I think a person's sexual orientation is based on who that person is attracted to or who that person loves. Like in my situation, I love my boyfriend. We are completely in love, and we plan on getting married after we graduate from college in a few years. I have always been attracted to and dated boys, but around my sophomore year of high school, I began to see girls in a more sexual way. I would consider myself to be bi-curious. I love guys (ie. my guy), but I love girls, too. I think that girls are very beautiful, and I greatly enjoy kissing girls. I love boobies, but I don't think that I could ever go down on a girl or anyting. I don't think that sexual orientation is any strict boundries or lines. Just follow your heart; it won't let you down.

 

[wigamus_prime]

I struggle to define my sexually in a neat little compartmentalised box.

There is so much baggage associated with labels like Gay and Straight and Bisexual that I would much rather avoid.....but at the same time its much more useful for me to use the label "Bi" to describe myself because most of the time its not really anyones business but mine and i cant be bothered explaining

but here i go ill try

I am sexually attraceted to both men and women
I am not emotionally attracted to men
So relationship-wise i am only with women.
And another funny thing is that i dont like to kiss guys.

Why is that i wonder? Ill suck a cock but not kiss his mouth?
lol

 

[wicked woman]

I struggle to define my sexually in a neat little compartmentalised box.

There is so much baggage associated with labels like Gay and Straight and Bisexual that I would much rather avoid.....but at the same time its much more useful for me to use the label "Bi" to describe myself because most of the time its not really anyones business but mine and i cant be bothered explaining

but here i go ill try

I am sexually attraceted to both men and women
I am not emotionally attracted to men
So relationship-wise i am only with women.
And another funny thing is that i dont like to kiss guys.

Why is that i wonder? Ill suck a cock but not kiss his mouth?
lol

Perhaps because the kiss is seen as emotional, intimate?

 

[wigamus_prime]

yeah i guess that is it.....Sexuality is one of those things that just cant be defined in a few words. Its constantly in flux.
There are no rules

 

[Etoile]

Why is that i wonder? Ill suck a cock but not kiss his mouth?

That's pretty common, I think - I don't have any real numbers but I've certainly heard of it before! I think wicked woman is probably right. There are prostitutes who won't kiss their johns for the same reason.

 

[Jander1]

That's pretty common, I think - I don't have any real numbers but I've certainly heard of it before! I think wicked woman is probably right. There are prostitutes who won't kiss their johns for the same reason.

Agreed. Though just want to add that also many bi men not this way. I find kissing a man just as attractive as a lady. All depends on who that man or lady is and the situation. Guess I just have to have at least somewhat of an emotional bond for sex to be best.

 

[Ricwilly]

I can get emotionally and sexually attracted to both men and women tho I've only been in commited relationships with women. As for the sex and kissing thing there wasn't anything I wouldn't do with either. LOL

 

[deezire1900]

I am a lesbian, because I don't sleep with men.
I am a bitch, because I don't sleep with men.

It depends on who the person is.


I am a lesbian! but I am tough so I can take anything handed out.

 

[sharesher]

My Two Cents.....

My orientation is...
I was married to and with a man for 15 years-
Yes I loved him.... and yes i still like men emotionally and sexually-
But I also am now am in a long term relationship with a woman-
And i like women slightly more than men emotionally and sexually..
So i guess you would say I'm bi...If you HAD to label it...

 

[Sanitysux]

it's a simple question, really.

It sounds like a simple enough question, but it isn't for me. I'm a guy and I've always considered myself bi-sexual, but I've only had meaningful relationships with women. I'm trying to find a decent guy like that, but for some reason I haven't been able to yet.
Also, I can't help but wonder why it is that I always seem to find sexy or attractive women to look at, but very seldom have I ever seen a "cute" guy. Even though I've had sex with a couple different men and enjoyed it each time?? Guess I'm just weird.

 

[mercury93]

i know many of you have trouble accepting labels, and that's good... shows that you're evolving. but i agree with Etoile.. it's a little unrealistic in a non-telepathic society. i have rebelled against labels my whole life. but for some reason, labels are helping me relate to me right now. i don't need to label myself for the world, and i am not trying to fit myself into a box. all labels, just like names, are something i will take on and experience until it does not feel like it fits anymore. it is not the be-all-end-all declaration of who i am. that being said, i currently ID as pansexual, queer and trans.

 

[Seduce]

If it is sexual orientation then I define it by attraction...... I am atracted to men as well as women (depends on my mood whom I like better in moment).
So I define myself as bisexual.

Completely different question would be my emotional orientation - I stick to men without exceptions.
Does that make me hetero emotionally?