How old do you want to be?

[littlecordelera]

I hope I haven't posted this in the wrong forum.

My husband and I went out to eat last night. We sat at the bar of a nice restaurant, and I got to talking to the guy sitting next to me. He was 58, and he was making jokes about getting old, as a way of telling me how much he didn't like it. I told him that I entered my 40's this year, and I was none too happy about it. He said his 40's were the best ten years of his life, and that after 50, things go downhill fast!

He was an attractive guy for his age, and he appeared to be fit, and from talking with him it was clear that he and his wife lived comfortably, so I was a curious as to exactly what parts of aging bothered him the most. He said, "Losing my looks." His wife, who had been talking to the woman next to her, joined the conversation then. She was a very attractive woman for her 57 years of age, really beautiful (I hope I look as good at her age!), but she agreed that losing her looks is what bothered her the most. They also talked about aches and pains, and how they could not be as active as they used to be, but mostly they hated losing their looks. The guy said most older people don't want to admit that because it makes them sound vain.

I don't like the idea of losing my looks. I'm sure no one does. I don't think I am overly concerned about it, but from talking with the couple last night, the whole thing sounds quite depressing. The guy was very candid about it, and he told me some things about aging that I had never heard before. It was a bleak picture!

I know there are people here of all age ranges. I would be curious to know what you feel were the best years of your life and why and how you feel about aging.

 

[o2baPrince]

The lesson is don't get to hung up on looks, they change for everyone. Sexiness is a lot about attitude, trust and just being a nice person. Oh, and nudity. There are bigger issues in life than changing looks I feel. I'll always wish I was a teenager again with a raging hard on, able to cum a few times a day for weeks on end, but I am pretty sure I am looking through the past with rose colored glasses, enhancing the good times, forgetting the bad. And internet porn does skew the entire idea of younger is always better. So, my advice is be naked and nice.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Hmm....I would love to be twenty again, but know everything I know now at 68. If I couldn't do that, the I'll be 68.

I'm still as horny as I was at say 40, but because of beta blockers, I need viagra to get it up to do any good for my significant other(wife). But if we could both be 20 again with what we know today, god want a life we could have. Not that the one we had was bad, it would just be better.

 

[littlecordelera]

"Naked and nice." I like that!

I don't want to be in my 20's again. In looking back, I realize just how "uninformed" I was about life in those days. And I'm still learning.

 

[littlecordelera]

Sexiness is a lot about attitude, trust and just being a nice person.

Does that still hold true when you're almost 60? The guy said he had become invisible (to the opposite sex).

 

[Zeb_Carter]

"Naked and nice." I like that!

I don't want to be in my 20's again. In looking back, I realize just how "uninformed" I was about life in those days. And I'm still learning.

And that's why I would only do that if I could know what I know now.

 

[PuckIt]

It's not the years, honey. It's all the miles of bad road and more than a few back alleys.

But, nah. Just had a birthday and gave this very question more than a bit of thought.

Granted, I never had the looks to worry about fading. So, maybe that's a thing for pretty people, I don't know.

But, I'm fine with where I am now, with the store of memories from years past without having to live them again. Tomorrow will come as it will or not. And if it does, I'll take it as it comes as well.

Then again, I can honestly say that I don't regret anything I've done. Although, I do regret one or two kisses not given...

 

[ElectricBlue]

Does that still hold true when you're almost 60? The guy said he had become invisible (to the opposite sex).

Interesting - my invisible years were late forties, very early fifties (when I was a father of teenage children). But now, nearly sixty, I get more smiles and women looking up from their coffee than ever before, from women all ages. And no, it's not "kind grandpa," women still play with their hair .

 

[rae121452]

it's true that after a certain age you become invisible. my sister and i have talked about that. and. losing looks is a problem even if you were never a head turner. just the fact that you show your years is a real turn off for a lot of people. a few years ago, a 20 year old that i worked with told me he was disgusted whenever he thought of people over 30 having sex.....so, i guess it really is all relative.

i can say that one of the things i enjoy about being older is that sex isn't the imperative it once was. i don't worry about it anymore and don't miss it.

 

[Wkd_Macey]

I love older guys. They are so much more worldly wise, but more than that, they seem to know how to treat a lady - most younger guys just seem to think a quick bang is the answer to all of life's problems

 

[PuckIt]

I love older guys. They are so much more worldly wise, but more than that, they seem to know how to treat a lady - most younger guys just seem to think a quick bang is the answer to all of life's problems

Well, I can't speak for all older guys, obviously, oh Wkd one. And I'm not completely sure I'm much wiser. Every time I thought I had the answer, I figured out I didn't even know the question. But, I've rarely encountered a problem a good bang couldn't make better. On the other hand, quick was never exactly my forte either. Particularly in regards to a good bang.

 

[littlecordelera]

It's not the years, honey. It's all the miles of bad road and more than a few back alleys.

This is what I thought, if I am understanding you, but this couple said their lives had been good and happy, and that nothing else about aging really bothered them all that much. They hated losing their looks.

It sounds vain, I know, but I don't think it is. Everyone likes to feel accepted, so I can imagine that when people stop paying attention to you, it can take a heavy toll on your self-image.

 

[littlecordelera]

i can say that one of the things i enjoy about being older is that sex isn't the imperative it once was. i don't worry about it anymore and don't miss it.

Whaaat?

No. I am never doing without sex. I refuse.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I love older guys. They are so much more worldly wise, but more than that, they seem to know how to treat a lady - most younger guys just seem to think a quick bang is the answer to all of life's problems

I like to think the older I get, the more women I've known, and the more they've taught me. I will claim to be a slow learner, and still taking lessons .

 

[Jada59]

I'm fine with whatever age I am. I don't try to look younger. I think people who do that look silly. I used to work with a woman who went by a silly, childish nickname. She was probably in her 40's and lost quite a bit of weight. She came to work with tiny pigtails and those plastic barrettes like a toddler might wear. She had on a short, T Shirt type dress with some kind of cutesy animal on it, knee socks and Mary Jane shoes. She couldn't understand why she was sent home to change. It was sadly comical.

I have also seen women who have had so much plastic surgery, they look like Joan Rivers. That's not good either.

I can't say that I personally have more aches and pains now. Just different one and sometimes things take longer to heal.

 

[littlecordelera]

I'm fine with whatever age I am. I don't try to look younger. I think people who do that look silly. I used to work with a woman who went by a silly, childish nickname. She was probably in her 40's and lost quite a bit of weight. She came to work with tiny pigtails and those plastic barrettes like a toddler might wear. She had on a short, T Shirt type dress with some kind of cutesy animal on it, knee socks and Mary Jane shoes. She couldn't understand why she was sent home to change. It was sadly comical.

I think it's safe to say that woman was wacko, and I'm not sure if wacko's make the best examples of everyday life.

 

[clistenovena]

My widowed 83-year old great aunt just got remarried. At a get-together recently, a friend of hers said, "Why in the world did you go and get married. At your age?!?" She responded, "Honey, I still got it and so does he. We both want to use it up before we go."

Owned it.

I guess I want to be that old.

 

[littlecordelera]

It occurred to me that while the guy was attractive for his age, he would not have drawn my attention from across a room. I guess he was correct. He has become invisible.

That's a very depressing thought.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

The older I get, I'm 68 now, the more women tend to ignore me as a possible suitor. However, if they ever need help, I'm the first person they see, which is kinda okay by me. I love helping women, it the girls that are a pain in the neck.

 

[Klinkster]

The alternative to getting old, is unpleasant.

Just do it gracefully!

 

[Scareltt]

That’s the real trick..

I think we are all trying to get old gracefully. It’s not easy, I say that as my 43rd birthday approaches.

Where does the time go?

 

[Klinkster]

I think we are all trying to get old gracefully. It’s not easy, I say that as my 43rd birthday approaches.

Where does the time go?

43rd?????

He he....that ship has sailed for me long ago!!!

 

[albertaboy]

I hope I haven't posted this in the wrong forum.

My husband and I went out to eat last night. We sat at the bar of a nice restaurant, and I got to talking to the guy sitting next to me. He was 58, and he was making jokes about getting old, as a way of telling me how much he didn't like it. I told him that I entered my 40's this year, and I was none too happy about it. He said his 40's were the best ten years of his life, and that after 50, things go downhill fast!

He was an attractive guy for his age, and he appeared to be fit, and from talking with him it was clear that he and his wife lived comfortably, so I was a curious as to exactly what parts of aging bothered him the most. He said, "Losing my looks." His wife, who had been talking to the woman next to her, joined the conversation then. She was a very attractive woman for her 57 years of age, really beautiful (I hope I look as good at her age!), but she agreed that losing her looks is what bothered her the most. They also talked about aches and pains, and how they could not be as active as they used to be, but mostly they hated losing their looks. The guy said most older people don't want to admit that because it makes them sound vain.

I don't like the idea of losing my looks. I'm sure no one does. I don't think I am overly concerned about it, but from talking with the couple last night, the whole thing sounds quite depressing. The guy was very candid about it, and he told me some things about aging that I had never heard before. It was a bleak picture!

I know there are people here of all age ranges. I would be curious to know what you feel were the best years of your life and why and how you feel about aging.

I'm 55 and my wife is 53, I would agree with your dinner friends. Our 40's were the best decade of our lives, but in our 50's stuff starts showing up. My knees hurt more, my wife's neck a bit more.

A few minor health issues seem to pop up. My wife's neck and boobs drop a bit more and both bother her, (they don't bother me)

 

[littlecordelera]

Just do it gracefully!

How does one do that?

 

[Klinkster]

How does one do that?

Just let it happen!
The body grows older, but the mind doesn't have to!

All the tings people do....color their hair, start getting things lifted.....silly as far as I'm concerned.
Helps to have a spouse to get old right along with you!