How to bring up

[bicuriousmom79]

I have a question how would you bring up the subject that you would like to be with a female to your other half that is male? I have always thought females were pretty but there are some that just turn me on. And I would like to try to be with a female just as friends with benefits but I don't want to hide it from my man but then I don't think he would approve if I did it.

 

[Carnevil9]

I am assuming that you are a female too. If I'm wrong in that assumption, please ignore my advice.

You have NO PROBLEM!! Every man would love to watch his lady with another woman. Just tell him point blank about your idea. Then watch the shit-eating-grin spread across his face. He'll be all for it. I guarantee it.

If I'm wrong, I'll be glad to make it up to you by servicing you and a gal-pal of your choice all night long......Carney

 

[emap]

I'm not sure just out and saying it would work. There are many guys who aren't into sharing their wife/girlfriend, especially with another woman.

That whole she's going to go lesbian on me.

So of course you know him much better tahn any of us do, and if you think telling him flat out will work, do so. Otherwise, incorporate it into your love making, maybe get some porn and watch it with him, especially good idea to say it while he's going down on you, if he does of course.

That way you can loosen him up to it so to speak, of course him being in the room with you while your with another woman is something to say alot to. Even something along the line of while he's on top or doggie ask him how much he'd like to watch you eating a woman while he's fucking you. After a while, he will be looking for another woman with you no matter what.

Well unless he's super religious, course if he was I doubt you would be asking this here.

 

[SweetErika]

I am assuming that you are a female too. If I'm wrong in that assumption, please ignore my advice.

You have NO PROBLEM!! Every man would love to watch his lady with another woman. Just tell him point blank about your idea. Then watch the shit-eating-grin spread across his face. He'll be all for it. I guarantee it.

If I'm wrong, I'll be glad to make it up to you by servicing you and a gal-pal of your choice all night long......Carney

Some men don't fantasize about seeing two women, and it sounds like the OP may be wanting to be alone with the other woman, which is perfectly normal.

Bicuriousmom, there are great threads in GLBT Chatter and other forums on how to bring it up to your S.O. I asked my husband if the idea of two women appealed to him (like most guys, it did), then worked up the courage to tell him I was curious about being with a woman. He started thinking 'threesome' but I told him it was something I felt I needed to try on my own first, and he agreed that was okay the first few times.

A couple of years later I met a woman, he gave me his blessing to be with her alone, and I came back home with a determination I was bi and gave him all of the details. Then we figured out what we were going to do from there, and once he realized it wasn't easy to find women who would want him there or particularly fair to limit my interactions to threesomes with him, we agreed I could have my own relationships but would include him when possible. This required plenty of reassurance I was committed to him and would never leave him for anyone else.

Basically you just need to work up the courage to start those conversations in whatever way you think will work best for you two. I wouldn't advise limiting it to a sexual setting - we all know fantasy and reality are very different, and he may mistake your pillow talk for fantasy alone.

 

[uncle easy]

How to help

This is just an idea to try. When the two of you are out in the mall and you see an attractive female that you know he would like,,,, ask if he would enjoy doing her. Do this with a smile. When he says he would,,, then you say that you would too. This has worked before. I know this for sure. My wife did it with me. She also stole one of my hot girlfriends from me. But she always shares. Try it,, maybe it will work. If not then you can say that it was just a shock thing.