I hate to admit this, but I am a virgin and nearly 21. I am not hideous or some obvious reason like that. I think I have just had very bad luck. Is there anyone in south Texas who might be willing to share photos and after making sure we are both comfortable, teaching me? Married or unmarried. I am sincerely honest with this.
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PowerLifter84
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Unless you really want to lose your virginity, why not keep it till you meet a great girl? It may suck until that point but when you meet her, you may be glad to give her something many men cannot.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
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Virginity is over rated. It doesn't do anything for you. It's just in the imagination. I don't see how it could be a "gift" that you give somebody. Any rational girl should prefer a guy who at least knows his way around the plumbing.
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You know, I am not a huge fan of threads like these for a number of reasons. First off, I don't like this thing about virgins wanting to know how to pleasure a women. They want to "learn" how to. In reality, as soon as you start having sex, you learn, so I think the question needs to be rephrased into "how do I lose my virginity" because everyone really wants to learn more all the time. That's what makes sex fun, learning new things about your partner.
The next thing is this idea that the only way to learn is through actually doing it, which is totally untrue. You want to learn more, read up on it. Honestly, reading about the female body helps alot and calms you down. Others have heard me say that Lit has been a great help to me and it has. My girlfriend was the first women I was with, and I knew what to do. I wasn't nervous, well as much, and I just went with the flow. Afterwards, she didn't believe me about being a virgin. I later told her it was because since I wasn't "getting any" I researched the subject and learned as much as I could. Why sit around waiting and have my first expernse be bad, when I can be the student teacher and actually show her new things.
I agree with what was said about waiting for a great girl. I was like you, I bitched, complained and went on about not getting any for so long. My friends all knew it, and I was sick of it, but I look now and I am glad I waited for the girlfriend and some I loved because it made things easier because I knew she loved me, and what ever happened, she would still love me and work through it. If you are so interested in learning, then why are you giving yourself to someone you don't care about. Thats not how you learn. Sex is suppose to be about people who care about each other mentally, connecting physically. When you lose the mental part, your really not getting much out of it. You'd be surprised about how much you learn when its with someone you care about.
In the end, its up to you. I am just saying, there are other ways to learn and good things to your virginity. But if its so important to lose it, then by all means go nuts. But please don't think you are going to learn a huge deal when its not someone you care about. Because that person will only teach you what they like physically, and not teach you about the mental enjoyment of sex.
Ravin
The next thing is this idea that the only way to learn is through actually doing it, which is totally untrue. You want to learn more, read up on it. Honestly, reading about the female body helps alot and calms you down. Others have heard me say that Lit has been a great help to me and it has. My girlfriend was the first women I was with, and I knew what to do. I wasn't nervous, well as much, and I just went with the flow. Afterwards, she didn't believe me about being a virgin. I later told her it was because since I wasn't "getting any" I researched the subject and learned as much as I could. Why sit around waiting and have my first expernse be bad, when I can be the student teacher and actually show her new things.
I agree with what was said about waiting for a great girl. I was like you, I bitched, complained and went on about not getting any for so long. My friends all knew it, and I was sick of it, but I look now and I am glad I waited for the girlfriend and some I loved because it made things easier because I knew she loved me, and what ever happened, she would still love me and work through it. If you are so interested in learning, then why are you giving yourself to someone you don't care about. Thats not how you learn. Sex is suppose to be about people who care about each other mentally, connecting physically. When you lose the mental part, your really not getting much out of it. You'd be surprised about how much you learn when its with someone you care about.
In the end, its up to you. I am just saying, there are other ways to learn and good things to your virginity. But if its so important to lose it, then by all means go nuts. But please don't think you are going to learn a huge deal when its not someone you care about. Because that person will only teach you what they like physically, and not teach you about the mental enjoyment of sex.
Ravin
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Firstly, how do you have a join date of Dec 1969? This site (and the internet) didn't even exist then. 
Secondly, if your original post is serious, try reposting it in the Personals forum.
Secondly, if your original post is serious, try reposting it in the Personals forum.
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It sure wouldn't have worked that way if SHE had been a virgin. I assume she wasn't?Ravin the Poet said:
From the other side, I was "taught" by a guy who didn't who didn't have very much in common with me and didn't become my bf. We just had sex a couple of times. And I was VERY glad of it. Because research doesn't make up for actually touching that genitalia and going "Oh, that's what it feels like! That's why all those stories say that...." For being allowed to look and play and explore and test...rather than preform right out of the box.
Or for a guy who took the time to say, "Some penises are like this, some are like that...most guys are really sensitive here, but not here...."
Sure, a lot of teachers will tell you what they like and nothing more--but a good one will give you great insight into the anatomy, into some tricks you can try that work on most folk. Nothing wrong with research--I certainly recommend it. Read the erotica here--lots of great ideas. But hands on really helps. Because then, if the person you're having sex with isn't having a good time, you can try other things until they do have a good time. Rather than thinking, correctly or incorrectly, "I'm a virgin and fucking up and that's why they're not having a good time."
I agree that one should find the right person to be that first and not jump into bed with just anyone...but I also believe that, unless it's part of your religious values, virginity is nothing special and should be gotten rid of as soon as you feel you're ready.
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1stClassNiceGuy
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I have to agree with alot of what Ravin said.
I lost my virginity right around my 18th birthday...
I have had sex several times since, and while I will admit that I learned a few tricks through experience, the most useful and practical (And, goddamnit, fun!) things I learned through things I have read.
Hell, half of what I know I learned right here on Lit.
The only thing you can really learn through experience is that every woman is different and every experience is different, its figuring out what works -this- particular time that can be part of the fun.
Yes, as 3113 said, you can learn -some- general tricks and advice that will work -some- of the time on -some- people, but the reality of it is, each and every woman you have sex with there will be alot that you will have to relearn.
At least, from my experiences.
I lost my virginity right around my 18th birthday...
I have had sex several times since, and while I will admit that I learned a few tricks through experience, the most useful and practical (And, goddamnit, fun!) things I learned through things I have read.
Hell, half of what I know I learned right here on Lit.
The only thing you can really learn through experience is that every woman is different and every experience is different, its figuring out what works -this- particular time that can be part of the fun.
Yes, as 3113 said, you can learn -some- general tricks and advice that will work -some- of the time on -some- people, but the reality of it is, each and every woman you have sex with there will be alot that you will have to relearn.
At least, from my experiences.
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