How to get my wife...
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Offer to do it for her as part of foreplay....
GuiltyPleasure
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Tell her exactly what you've said in your post, if she loves what you do she'll trim it. 
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Tell her exactly what you've said in your post, if she loves what you do she'll trim it.
When you talk to her, get right to the point. Don't beat around the bush.
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LOL That worked for me!! It was fun and very much worth it!
Lizzie_Borden
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Just ask nicely?
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I disagree
Leave it long . . . let me play in it. I'll run my hands though it, tug on it and twirl it with my fingers
Please post a couple of photos
Leave it long . . . let me play in it. I'll run my hands though it, tug on it and twirl it with my fingers
Please post a couple of photos
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Give her hints like this:
http://www.openlettersmonthly.com/issue/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/landing_strip_2.jpg
http://www.openlettersmonthly.com/issue/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/landing_strip_2.jpg
silverwhisper
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what vixandra said. trim yourself: she'll find it's easier to give you head that way, i'm sure. my bet is she'll get there soon after.
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Reba67
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I don't think he wants her bare, just trimmed.
My only suggestion is to ASK HER. Outside of the bedroom and not when you've got your head down in her snatch.
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Thomash, I was in a similar situation about 1 1/2 ago ... Today, she's totally shaved. Your approach depends on your wife. My wife is somewhat conservative, so I had to ask when we were in those sweet cuddle moments that she loves. I put my hand on her (then) bush ... and whispered "Have you ever thought of shaving?"
Since she, like most women, have at one time or another have thought of it ... it got her sharing from her point of view. Once I realized that she was considering it ... it wasn't much to push her over the edge after a few more well timed hints.
The funny part is, now that's done ... I don't think she'll ever go back. She loves it! She feels more clean ... and we both think it way more sexy!
Good luck!!
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You could always go the direct route. Say sweety. I really want to ask you something but I don't know to say it I am afraid of you being mD at me ect. I love going down on you but lately have swallowed some hair ( she should really sympathize with this) is ther any chance you'd let me trim you? Or maybe the lead by example trick might work. If you noticeably make a chnage on yourself, then show her and ask her if she likes it/ finds it any more of a turn on, she may follow suit. Be sure to ask her opinion directly though, no hinting or hoping she"ll notice. Or you could say you watted to try something new.. Ie kinky.. Give her a seductive bath that includes a tirm and maybe a leg shave, just to see how you both like if/ something new. Once trimed, over the next week then make comments about how you like it, it's more of a turn on ect. But please if you can post back to say what worked! I'm alwYs curious!
Avon makes a GREAT hair removal cream as well....used it this morning before I got in the shower....my "friend" was pleasantly suprised this afternoon with the TOTAL lack of hair or razor stubble.....and I was rewarded with a GREAT licking.......
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I've always been wary of hair removal creams on my sensitive bits.
Was it really ok? No icky sensations afterwards or anything?
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This worked for me. And as a bonus I get more oral attention myself. Everyone's happy.
I've used it for years Lizzie....it's GREAT!!!!!! The make one for your face as well if you'd rather try that one on the sensitive places but it comes in a very small tube.
I turned a bald friend onto the stuff because he hates shaving what little hair he does have on his head so often and he loves it!!!!!!!
Start simple
Based on what I've read and experienced, stick to the word "trim" and don't let yourself utter the word "shave", at least at first. A lot of women trim or wax for swimsuit reasons and that might be an opening you could use for the conversation. (I completely agree with everyone who said to talk to her and ask.) Trimming is something minor and simple that can be done with a pair of scissors or hair clipper, with very little risk of hurting yourself. Shaving, however, is much more involved, requiring either razor or a cream and thus posing a higher risk of hurting yourself. Granted, all of us who do it know that the actual risk is still quite low, but to the first-timer it can seem a lot riskier. Besides the risk factor, some women consider shaving to be infantilizing - they don't want to look pre-pubescent and get turned off by a man who wants them to look that way. So again, simply trimming a bit is likely a much easier sell.
Another approach you might consider, especially since you've already demonstrated repeatedly your love of going down on her, is to remind of how much you love it and tell her you'd enjoy being able to better see what's working so well, to see what it is that she enjoys. You could further try mentioning that with a bit less hair, the feeling would likely be more intense.
Lastly, I'd suggest that whatever approach you use, you make a point that you just want to TRY it and see how it goes. This isn't a request for a permanent change, just a test period; if either or both of you dislikes the trimming, you simply let it grow back over a couple weeks - no harm, no foul.
Good luck!
Based on what I've read and experienced, stick to the word "trim" and don't let yourself utter the word "shave", at least at first. A lot of women trim or wax for swimsuit reasons and that might be an opening you could use for the conversation. (I completely agree with everyone who said to talk to her and ask.) Trimming is something minor and simple that can be done with a pair of scissors or hair clipper, with very little risk of hurting yourself. Shaving, however, is much more involved, requiring either razor or a cream and thus posing a higher risk of hurting yourself. Granted, all of us who do it know that the actual risk is still quite low, but to the first-timer it can seem a lot riskier. Besides the risk factor, some women consider shaving to be infantilizing - they don't want to look pre-pubescent and get turned off by a man who wants them to look that way. So again, simply trimming a bit is likely a much easier sell.
Another approach you might consider, especially since you've already demonstrated repeatedly your love of going down on her, is to remind of how much you love it and tell her you'd enjoy being able to better see what's working so well, to see what it is that she enjoys. You could further try mentioning that with a bit less hair, the feeling would likely be more intense.
Lastly, I'd suggest that whatever approach you use, you make a point that you just want to TRY it and see how it goes. This isn't a request for a permanent change, just a test period; if either or both of you dislikes the trimming, you simply let it grow back over a couple weeks - no harm, no foul.
Good luck!
You have some great ideas already posted
When you want to try something sexual with her.. what approach works?
Perhaps use that as a guidline as to what approach might work best with her & this hairy topic
Communication is so important for a sexual relationship
You could try the coy approach of something like "honey, I have been wondering, when you go down on me do you have a problem with my hair?.... because I have been thinking about trimming so that we both can enjoy oral sex better & wondered what your thoughts are on it....." then, from there you are set up to take it further.... "Why don't we trim each other & try this out to see if we like it?"..... and then make it into sensual foreplay... take a bath together, trim each other, etc................
I think you should just come out and ask. I'm not saying to be rude, but I don't see anything wrong with saying "Baby please shave this off". It's in a woman's nature to want to please a man just as much as it is a man's nature to want to please his woman. If she realized that this is important to you, she will most likely do it.
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hmm...
My now ex-husband told me once that he'd shave off his pubic hair if I did the same. Well, one day, I surprised him with a bare pussy and he never did shave his genitals. (hey, I was tired of the hair in my mouth too and he never even went down on me) Since he didn't keep his word, I never shaved it again until after we split up. I love having my pussy bare; somehow, it makes me feel more womanly. I'm not even having sex with anybody ('cause my bf is in Australia), and I still shave it.
My now ex-husband told me once that he'd shave off his pubic hair if I did the same. Well, one day, I surprised him with a bare pussy and he never did shave his genitals. (hey, I was tired of the hair in my mouth too and he never even went down on me) Since he didn't keep his word, I never shaved it again until after we split up. I love having my pussy bare; somehow, it makes me feel more womanly. I'm not even having sex with anybody ('cause my bf is in Australia), and I still shave it.
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The most important part of a marriage is communication. You're not telling her she smells or is too fat. If you can't talk about something as simple as that, it is going to be hard to have the communication necessary to talk about other things as well.
