How to make getting preggers fun?

[juturuna]

So me and my husband have been talking about having kids for a while now. Actualy he's a little bit more excited about the subject than i am, which i think is sweet. He's told me that not only would he love to be a dad, but he also loves the thought of me being pregnant. He thinks i'd be a beautiful pregnant mum. Now i'm happy and more than ready to become a mommy, I'm hoping to havelots of boys, because they are so much fun to me. Sports, bugs, days spent rolling around in dirt, that would be great!

So...anyone know how to make it..****? Not like "Okay lets get this over with..."
but maybe like going out and spending a week in a secluded cabin...as well as the whole...process?

Get my drift? Thanks in advance!

 

[sunandshadow]

Er, you realize it can take months or a year to get pregnant even for couples where neither person has a problem with infertility? Other than having a check to make sure neither of you have any obvious problems, and some preparation like making sure you have good nutrition/vitamins and avoiding cigarettes, alcohol, etc., probably the best thing to do is just continue your sex lives as usual but with no birth control. Optionally, add some sexy talk about 'knocking up' and possibly lactation to your usual routine.

Not that there's any reason not to take a sex vacation and if you want to get pregnant you may as well schedule it for a week you expect to be fertile, but be aware that it can be really disappointing if your period arrives as usual despite your best efforts.

 

[PhilGarlic]

, I'm hoping to havelots of boys, because they are so much fun to me. Sports, bugs, days spent rolling around in dirt, that would be great!



Get my drift? Thanks in advance!

You think you can't do this with girls?
shame on you.
As for fun, don't think about it just enjoy.

 

[sutherngent985]

Er, you realize it can take months or a year to get pregnant even for couples where neither person has a problem with infertility?

The how is it that teenage girls seem to get pregnant at the drop of a hat, or quicker?

Seriously tho my gf and I have been talking about this. She will be moving to my city (yea LDR for the moment) in about a year then we will talk about it more seriously.

Just remember to practice ALOT

 

[starrkers]

Umm, why would it not be fun?

Don't think of it as 'getting pregnant', that's creating an aura of stress if you fail to fall immediately and stress makes getting preggers harder.
Sex is fun isn't it? So, don't "get pregnant", have sex.

 

[infinity706]

It seems like the best way to get pregnant is to not want to.

 

[satindesire]

The how is it that teenage girls seem to get pregnant at the drop of a hat, or quicker?

*Snip*

Teenage girls are generally speaking...younger and hence, more fertile than most stable, committed married women.

 

[emap]

I am pretty sure the not fun part is when the two are planning on having kids, buying all of those tests and such and following a set plan. Having sex the moment she ovulates, checking temperature every day, making sure to assume the 'position' after.

Seriously takes the fun out of sex when your following a program. Well heck to me a program is the best way to not have fun, no matter what it is.

Jut really the only way to keep sex fun while trying is to actually not try. Stop using protection, and stop thinking about it. Just enjoy your sex for sex, if you get pregnant dance a jig, if you don't get pregnant but still enjoyed the sex, dance a jig.

Oh I would say that you should put a pillow under your butt after so you don't lose any sperm right after. Really good to get held after the great sex to, you can put the pillow under you grab onto him and shake him so he stays awake and holds you.

Now if you want to make sure he stays excited about the sex, really all you gotta do is be there and strip, he will enjoy.

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

I agree with emap. Evidently she has been through this. I have as well so I'll share the male perspective.

First, I'm just going to repeat what emap said. Getting pregnant is great, but do not focus on the end result. Focus on getting to the end result (the sex).

I have been married for 22 years and went for 17 years using no birth control. We did fertility drugs, and all sorts of stuff like pillows under her bottom, staying still for 1 hour after sex so no sperm dumped out of her, etc. None of it worked. We never had children.

My reason to mention my own experience is to tell you very concisely that if "you" are meant to have a baby, you will - with all likelihood - regardless of how you do it. If not, it probably won't happen no matter what you do either. I don't know if you're religious, but I think of it as it it is up to God, not me and he decides these things for a reason I would probably never understand. I'm happy with his decision however.

Bringing this conversation back to you and the current SEX situation...I know it's exciting to imagine the possibilities of becoming pregnant, but my advice is that if you have a child, you're going to spend the next 18 years with your child being somewhat of an automatic birth control device. You won't be able to have sex any old time you want, wherever you want. Think of it like this. Your child will have as much to do with your future sex life as YOU do. Therefore, before you actually get pregnant, you should preserve the joy of all the sex you have to yourselves. It isn't gonna be this way forever...so cherish it. Keep your sexual focus on both of y'all having orgasms and having a great time! Your baby will come along in due course.

Cheers
Jack

 

[juturuna]

I ho[pe that that last bit when i said i hoped to have lots of boys, i meant as in baby boys, not...you know. Of course if its a girl, i'll still be happy and love her.

I am scared that something might go wrong and it will take years, but im 20 so it wont be hard?


Thanks all for the help =]

 

[Lady_Moldovie]

I agree with the last two posts above yours.
From my experience the more it became about getting pregnant and the less it became about just having a long hot lovemaking session or a quickie before we went out, the less i actually wanted sex, don't think about it and just enjoy all the sex you can.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

I was one of the lucky ones in that with both of my children, they were planned/discussed before they were conceived.. actually, truth be told, they happened at the same time we discussed them. We were fortunate.

Mehcanically speaking there are some excellent books out there that break down the woman's cycle and tell you how and when the best time to have sex is. Problem I see with that is people get so caught up in the trying that the act loses some of it's joy. It becomes cold and mechanical instead of the hot, steamy, intensely fun thing it should be.

It's been a while, but basically, about 14 days before the first day of a woman's period she ovulates. Sperm can survive up to 5 days inside of a woman. Male sperm swim faster but die quickly. Female sperm swim slower but live longer. On the day of ovulation there is a short window of opportunity when the woman can become pregnant. Actually, when you think about it, it's damned amazing that the world is as populated as it is currently with all the things that procreation has going against it. You don't want to be having sex daily or even several times a day. Once every couple of days is supposed to be ideal. What worked for me was for my ex to orgasm just ahead of me, flooding me with his semen, then for me to orgasm right afterwards. The back of the vagina becomes a holding receptical and the cervix will *dip* down into the pool of semen sort of sucking it up. As I said.. this is the basics.

Heat kills sperm, so he might want to consider switching to boxers instead of briefs. No long baths or dips in the hot tub.

Biggest thing you should do tho.. relax. As I was told a long time ago, babies happen when babies are ready, and not before.

Good luck and happy baby-dancing...

 

[Eilan]

There's a lot of good advice in this thread. I have nothing to add to it, really, since all I ever had to do was look at pictures of sperm in order to get pregnant, which is probably why I had four children in five years and eight months.

My husband and his ex struggled with infertility--they tried unsuccessfully for six years, four of which were without medical intervention. He had a surgical procedure to correct a varicocele and they went through two IUI's and were saving up for in-vitro when their relationship imploded. It can really take a toll; there was eventually a point where the sex wasn't fun for them. She started blaming him because she couldn't have a baby, and she used this blame to justify a lot of bad behavior.

My husband and I decided that, given his history of a low sperm count, even after surgery (I already had two children), we'd just TTC for a few months and see what happened, figuring that we'd need some sort of help eventually. We just tried to relax and have fun with it, and we ended up conceiving on the first cycle that we made a serious effort and ultimately having two children in just under 13 months (my husband's an older daddy, and his age was the reason our two youngest children are so closely spaced). Other people's mileage may vary, obviously.

Oddly enough, my husband's ex also went on to conceive with another partner--after she'd given up on ever having children. Three or four years ago, she went to her yearly OB/GYN appointment and told her doc that she no longer had a need for BC pills, since she obviously couldn't get pregnant, and she was pregnant a month later!

Also--an acquaintance of mine got pregnant after she threw away a year's worth of fertility charts and her thermometer. Go figure.

Good luck to you and your husband!

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

Oooo.. that reminded me of something Eilan. My mother's boss and his wife tried for years to have children. After some time they decided to adopt, and got a boy, then a little girl. Then got a HUGE surprise of their own. They now have 4 children, 2 adopted, 2 bio. I think there's a lot of wealth in that *just let it happen* thing. Enjoy the trying and don't go crazy if it doesn't work the first time out.

 

[bobcat533]

You may be happier without children

http://www.newsweek.com/id/143792

a recent article from Newsweek

 

[emap]

Actually no I've not been down that road, I've babysat many times and the moms always seemed eager to relate the tricks to getting pregnant. Not to mention the many times they are put into a magazine or TV show or movie on occassion the news. Anybody remember way back when Gloria Estefan was big and famous and trying to get pregnant?

She related some of what they did in an interview.

Now as for the newsweek article bobcat was kind enough to point out. Yes yes they show all the negative feelings and thoughts parents have in relation to having kids. There is a big old problem with that article though. Yes childless couples are happier overall, parents have problems being happy because they tend to be worried around their kids. Not to mention childless couples can have sex anytime and where they want, parents can only sneak it in when the kids are asleep or visiting friends.

This is where we come to the problem. The article doesn't mention the reason for the worries, added stress and so forth that come with having kids. Namely, they are kids, and yours. Parents have to deal with is our little bobby clumsy or just growing, can he hear can he see, can he get us grandkids someday, is he only liking other boys, is he going to graduate out of gradeschool or stay behind, is he going to be a problem child, is he going to get enough to eat.

That is only the barest tip of the iceburg when it comes to being a parent. A parent is going to worry about at least 20 things when they are with their kid, and at least 60 when the kid goes out. The number will vary by parent and child, the bigger billy is the less things there are to worry about when he goes out cause he can take care of himself, not to mention the parent. If the parent see's 20 problems that can come out of leaving a pill laying around they are going to worry about way more things than a regular parent.

A child is a bundle of joy though, watch parents send their kid off to college, watch parents as their kid just won the championship in little league, watch a mom who's kids just handed her a ripped up flower. Kids add tons of worries, kids also add tons of joy just by being a kid.

 

[glynndah]

Start taking folic acid now. It's essential for formation of the spinal cord and needed very early in the pregnancy, often before a woman even knows she's pregnant.

And as far as making it special, I was in the throes of the worst bout of a cold/flu/sinus infection/sickness I've ever had and think I slept through most of my son's conception.

 

[cd1_christine]

Fun?

So...anyone know how to make it..****? Not like "Okay lets get this over with..."
but maybe like going out and spending a week in a secluded cabin...as well as the whole...process?

Get my drift? Thanks in advance!

Well, there have been many long, drawn out responses of how it should be fun, but I'm going to put it a little more succinctly:

I would think that the fact that you need to, well, fuck, in order to get pregnant, would make it fun in itself.
Just make sure you do it a lot.

 

[SweetErika]

Well, there have been many long, drawn out responses of how it should be fun, but I'm going to put it a little more succinctly:

I would think that the fact that you need to, well, fuck, in order to get pregnant, would make it fun in itself.
Just make sure you do it a lot.

Yeah, you'd think so, but having sex every day or every other day on schedule can take a lot of the fun out of it real fast. In addition to that, there are things you must and must not do (e.g. use most lubes), and it's stressful when your period comes month after month, separated only by miscarriages.

Juturuna, I'd suggest reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. You'll learn a lot of stuff you need to know in general and it'll help explain how you can conceive more easily by watching your body and timing sex with ovulation.

Other than that, just take away the birth control and don't try. At 20, you have lots of time to just let it happen, without really trying. Older parents are often better parents, anyway.

 

[Selena Down]

Re:

20 years old? Seems TOO young & unexperienced with life. Have you guys been together a long time? Have you had to deal with life struggles? Have you taken a cruise & traveled the world & done what you want with yourselves? Yes, older parents make BETTER parents for a darn good reason. They are not bitter; they have had time to enjoy their MARRIAGE & spouse, before taking on the life-changing responsibility of kids.

BTW, I'm 29, husband 38, together 10 yrs, do not want kids. We like our lives the way we are & wouldn't DARE risking it making a family. Other friends, well, they learned it the hard way.

 

[ttm_mtt]

It seems everyone is different

Well, we have 2 kids and had 1 mis carriage.

The first time, of course we were planning for it, but had gone a couple of cycles with no luck. Then on the night of my wife's high school reunion, we went out and dined, danced and had a few. We got REAL horny on the way home (I think my wife was proud about showing me off to her high school crowd) we pulled over on a secluded road and she jumped on my cock after I pushed the driver's seat back. Just as we were both cumming, a car with high school kids drove by, and they ended up laughing and such because it was obvious what we were doing. We just didn't care. Sure enough 2 weeks later she start feeling "funny", and that was it.

Second time was all the gimmicks. Feet on the headboard after sex. Timing ovulation down to the hour. Special meeting a few hours early in the afternoon. No certain how and when, but she ended up with triplets, which she later mis-carriaged.

Third time is easy to recall. Christmas eve, after seeing friends and church, and after setting up presents for the little one,, and getting prepared for the big day (gifts and 2 parties to go to) we had a quickie about 1 am. Since we didn't have sex for 3 days after that, it seems that was the magic moment.

So my advise is relax, and take it as it comes. But realize you will probably need sex every 3 days, minimum, to stand the best chance.

 

[Eilan]

Other than that, just take away the birth control and don't try. At 20, you have lots of time to just let it happen, without really trying. Older parents are often better parents, anyway.

This has nothing to do with the thread, really, but. . .

My ex and I were living in a somewhat affluent suburb of one of the largest cities in our state when our oldest child was born. Among our circle of acquaintances, fellow preggos, etc, we were the youngest parents--24 at the time.

I'm living in a rural, higher-poverty area now, and when my youngest was born, less than a month shy of my 30th birthday, I was one of the older mothers.

I'm approaching my mid-thirties, and I don't really consider myself an older mom (yet! ), but it seems that I am when it comes to local demographics. We won't go into how my husband occasionally gets mistaken for the girls' grandpa!

 

[HarddHornyDad]

well...

all of ours were planned....at least the pregnancies were if not the number of kids...but I have to say....no matter how long it took for each of them, it was always fun...we didn't change much other than making sure that the final position we used left her hips higher than her shoulders...

 

[Bellajack]

In my personal experience....My husband and I just left it up to nature...I went off the pill and said "what happens, happens" and it happened 3 months later. The only thing I would worry about is what date you start your period each month....that is important for your due date! Good Luck,
BellaJack

 

[Mr.G]

Same As All The Other

POSTS.

Take Folic, and a good multiVit, cut out nicotine, most caffiene & alcohol , most sugar, cut back on salt.

The rest is bloody well self evident. Fu¢king FUN. No B/C is natural result of this type of FUN. WHY would you complicate things with feelings of obligations or "duty" or anything else that denigrates or pigeon holes what comes naturally??

Just ENJOY and quit THINKING !!!