How to not mess this up?

[Shenanigans]

Okay, so this is a little embarassing. Actually, a lot embarassing. Really fucking embarassing. Thank god for Internet anonymity.

I just asked a girl out. I've never done that before. I'm 21 and I've never asked a girl out. Until now. And she totally said yes.

Anyway, we're getting together this weekend. I figure, casual dinner, maybe a movie. Little-more-than-friend stuff. But that's not what I'm asking about. I don't really feel like I need people to give me a rundown of all the do's and dont's of dating. I think I'll figure out a lot of that stuff for myself.

Okay, so I'm posting because...

I guess I'm posting for moral support. Y'all here on the boards are great. I've enjoyed lurking here immensely for a while. So now, I guess I just want to get some moral support? Yeah, I think so.

Anyway, I'm a little shaken up, so I'm gonna stop rambling. Here's hoping I don't fuck this up.

Cheers.

 

[cryptictravler]

Do:
Be yourself
Be gentlymanly, opening doors and things of that nature are quick easy and worthwhile
Listen to her
Realize that this is not a once in a lifetime event and fucking it up is not a permanent marr on your life.
Make the date somewhat interesting and plan ahead
Know your boundries going into it, hard and soft
Have an escape plan, even really good seeming dates can go psycho man have an out

Don't:
Lie, it never works
Say you love her if you dont
Forget to get her number or ask for date 2 if it goes well
Stress out

 

[Shenanigans]

Stress out

Oh, realll helpful.

 

[Nackereia]

Ask before you kiss her Some women aren't comfortable with physical affection, and some just don't like kisses much :$

 

[Kissophile]

Treat the occasion as a chance to get to know her - and nothing else. I'm sure that's the way she will see it as well.

Enjoy yourself. Don't think about the future other than to make sure you can ask for the second date if you want one.

Remember the old line about stopping to smell the roses? She's the rose. Treat her like one.

 

[Bobmi357]

Ah yes the first date.

You'll do fine if you forget for a moment that she's a girl and think of her instead as just a person. Talk to her, and LISTEN. Girls are soft and cuddly and have all these interesting playgrounds built in, but the ultimate playground lies between her ears, and its what makes them so much more interesting. Get to know her, not her body, her as a person. If you can learn to see past the boobs and butt you'll find women are wonderful creatures, imaginitive and with a whole host of complex feelings. They make wonderful friends and I heartily recommend them to any guy! Two thumbs up for women!

 

[Lynxie]

Congratulations, Shenanigans! I'm sure you'll do fine. A close friend of mine didn't go on his first date until he was 21, either - he came to me with all the same fears and concerns that are probably running through your head right now. Well, the first date was a success, and now (4 years later) he's engaged to the girl. There is hope for you!

Advice? I'd recommend just being youself. Take the time to get to know her, and treat her like a gentleman. And, most importantly, report back and let us know how it goes!

 

[TamedTiger]

In order to reassure her that you are a good guy, bring the following things:

Driver's license
Birth certificate
A certified credit report
A background check done by a certified agency
A chart from the doctor, including a complete physical exam (bloodwork, urine, and semen samples included)
A psychological evaluation
Three references from previous girlfriends
Two letters of reccomendation
Condoms

I think that about covers it.

 

[theoneadd2]

Every guy does dinner and a movie you should take her bowling.

 

[eepy]

Shenanigans... I like that name You're going to get it spelled a hundred different ways, tho -- I guarantee it. Mine gets all mangled and it's only 4 letters

Movies aren't really great for first dates, but if you do do that, it's best to see the movie first and then have dinner -- that way, if you run out of things to talk about, you can talk about the movie.

And good luck

 

[My Own Way]

I agree with Eepy. If you're gonna go to a movie, go first therefore there will always be something to bring up to talk about. I also reccomend you don't see a movie with anything that might be potentially embarassing...I always think of watching sex scenes on a first date like watching sex scenes with your parents...awkward to say the least...

 

[eepy]

I also reccomend you don't see a movie with anything that might be potentially embarassing...I always think of watching sex scenes on a first date like watching sex scenes with your parents...awkward to say the least...

That's so true!

My first date ever (when I was 16) involved the movie "Titanic" -- with Leo drawing a nude Kate Winslet and then having sex with her in the car. It was really cute, though -- the boy I was with offered to shut his eyes during the drawing scene, and then he asked if he could kiss me -- my first kiss, which was pretty bad, actually, but it was kinda sweet.