How to start a sexual odyssey...

[UKHorn]

So here's the deal...

I've only ever really been in long term relationships before and had great sex in pretty much all of them. However, I really want to explore my sexuality to the maximum and experience situations that I never have before.

I'm a 26 year old English male who adores virtually everything sexual. I've already had a lot of sex, including sex outdoors (which I would love to have more of), but I would love to have threesomes, foursomes and more kinky sex.

What I need is a girl or number of girls who would like to share these experiences with. The question is: How do I find them and how do I tell them about the sexual odyssey I want to embark upon? How would you do it? Where can I find ladies (any age from 18 up to about 50 I guess) who would be open to this and up for genuinely meeting up, having lots of sex and exploring all avenues of orgasmic bliss? It would help if they were secretly sluts too I guess.

Any ideas welcome. Let the odyssey begin!

 

[SweetErika]

Is this a rather thinly veiled ad, or are you genuinely seeking advice?

If it's the latter, have you looked into sex-positive/sex-enthusiast groups and events in your general area, including the nearest larger city? If you do enough googling and networking, you should be able to find places to meet people who are also interested in sexual exploration. Couple that with well-written and well-placed personals, and you'll have a shot at meeting like-minded women.

But, like anything else, you should probably expect to put a good amount of effort into meeting people and cultivating relationships.

 

[UKHorn]

Genuinely seeking advice

As it says above, I'm genuinely seeking advice. Thank you for yours. I'll place an ad in the personals if I want to write an ad.

I'm good at cultivating relationships, having only ever had good, positive friendships and more intimate relationships so that shouldn't be a problem.

Does anyone know of any good groups or organisations in the UK or the States (I live in the UK but visit the US every so often)?

 

[SweetErika]

Does anyone know of any good groups or organisations in the UK or the States (I live in the UK but visit the US every so often)?

What's the point in suggesting specific groups/events when you may never get anywhere near the part of the country where those events are held? The least you could do is be more specific about where you are often enough to make suggesting worthwhile.

Also, how are you defining "good," exactly? IOW, what specific activities and qualities are you looking for and opposed to (if applicable) in a group or event? For instance, a lot of "sex-positive" organizations have BDSM and fetish events or are heavy on BDSM and fetish members; some people are opposed to this, and prefer a "sex-only" environment, so they'd likely do better in a sex-focused or swinging club.

The only way you're going to know what will/won't work for you, specifically, is to search, network and check things out for yourself. I can tell you there's a large sex-positive organization in Seattle with all sorts of events and members, but that won't really help you unless you're willing to research it and go see what it's like for yourself. It's tough to give referrals on this sort of thing without having a clue of where the interested party is/goes, what they like, what their standards are, etc.

 

[UKHorn]

Fair point...

Hi SweetErika,

Yes indeed, you're right. I should be more specific. I forget that the US is so colossal in size compared to the UK. I mostly visit New York city and the surrounding state.

I'll carry on my research and perhaps post how I get on. If anyone knows or recommends any of the sex dating sites, let us know.