How to STOP Email Annoyance/Harrassment

[sheath]

Okay, here's the deal.

Everybody knows by now that the Music Man and I are over. Kaput. Done for good. And this is a GOOD thing.

I purged his addy from all my email accounts, and I blocked his addresses so I never see any mail, it just goes straight to the graveyard of deleted emails.

The problem?

His new fiance/girlfriend/whatever is now emailing me. All the damn time. At first I just blocked her addresses and thought, okay, we're done with that. BUT. Now she is filling out new email accounts and using THOSE to get past the blocks. I have something new from her all the damn time, especially over the last few days. It is getting VERY tiresome.

Is there any way to stop this kind of harrassment? Or do I simply have to keep deleting messages, over and over?

I should note there are no threats or anything like that in these emails...they are simply her wanting to tell me all about her 'new man' and yada yada yada. Things like that. She's got the maturity level of a snail, but that's beside the point.

Any ideas? Anybody dealt with this before?

Thanks, all.

S.

 

[midwestyankee]

Maybe one of the more technically sophisticated types will know how to block email coming from a particular IP address, or if such a thing is possible.

Good luck.

 

[sheath]

Maybe one of the more technically sophisticated types will know how to block email coming from a particular IP address, or if such a thing is possible.

Good luck.

I hope it's possible. I've dealt with more than enough of this already.

Thanks for the lucky rose.

S.

 

[Mary Hall]

You could change your email account

 

[sheath]

You could change your email account

I did consider that. I changed my yahoo messenger account. However, I have five email accounts...and three of them are my 'work' accounts. For instance, one of them is not only for my access, but for that of my promotional team. Those are accounts I simply cannot change.

S.

 

[Astrum]

Hmm... Because she's registering new e-mail addresses there aren't any true ways to block her completely. If she signs here e-mails with her name you can set up a spam filter to remove all messages containing that name.

You can also go to a judge I believe and get a restraining order. I'm pretty sure that includes all forms of electronic communication, but don't hold me to that.

It's pretty difficult to do anything else really. Hope that helps.

 

[sheath]

Hmm... Because she's registering new e-mail addresses there aren't any true ways to block her completely. If she signs here e-mails with her name you can set up a spam filter to remove all messages containing that name.

You can also go to a judge I believe and get a restraining order. I'm pretty sure that includes all forms of electronic communication, but don't hold me to that.

It's pretty difficult to do anything else really. Hope that helps.

Thank you for that...I did notice one of my email accounts allows custom filters that are based on many things, one of which is name. But she seems to get around that, too...by using other names, or other versions of a name.

I would get a restraining order, but I don't know her real name. Her first name, yes, but not the rest of it. Is there any way to determine from an email what her name is and go from there?

*sigh*

I just want to be left alone.

S.

 

[Bobmi357]

A friend of ours went through a similar problem. She tried going to the sheriff's department to lodge a complaint. Their response was "Unless the person sending the emails makes a threat against your person, there is nothing we can do about it".

Now IF a threat has been made, you can go to the police and file a harassment charge. Make sure you save any emails with the threats in them. Don't move them to any special folders, just leave them as emails so that the police can examine the full mail headers.

If she hasn't made any threats then you're nearly shit out of luck legally. If those emails are going to 100% business email accounts, you might have a civil case if you wish to go through the expense.

And finally, you can fight fire with fire. Simply forward each of these emails as you get them, unread, to musicman with a simple "These forwards will stop when you make her stop, you started her on the crusade, now put a leash on her".

 

[sheath]

A friend of ours went through a similar problem. She tried going to the sheriff's department to lodge a complaint. Their response was "Unless the person sending the emails makes a threat against your person, there is nothing we can do about it".

Now IF a threat has been made, you can go to the police and file a harassment charge. Make sure you save any emails with the threats in them. Don't move them to any special folders, just leave them as emails so that the police can examine the full mail headers.

If she hasn't made any threats then you're nearly shit out of luck legally. If those emails are going to 100% business email accounts, you might have a civil case if you wish to go through the expense.

And finally, you can fight fire with fire. Simply forward each of these emails as you get them, unread, to musicman with a simple "These forwards will stop when you make her stop, you started her on the crusade, now put a leash on her".

Good points all, Bobmi.

No, she has not threatened me. Not in the least, and believe me, I have been looking for that. If she even breathes a word of a threat, I can tar and feather her ass in court, and I will not hesitate. Tennessee law is good that way.

Fighting fire with fire is a good idea, but not really an option at this point...I want to avoid any contact with that man, any at all.

A good friend of mine has volunteered to let me bounce the emails to his account and then let the games begin...but I'm not sure I want to involve another person either.

Shit. Shit. SHIT. He did enough to me while we were together...I shouldn't have to put up with this!



S.

 

[Falkieri]

I think you're only option is to let that friend "filter" your emails for you. You should be able to filter all email from people on your contact list into a seperate folder, and then anything unknown could go into another folder to be forwarded to him. Otherwise theere is nothing else open to you outside of trying to file harassment charges and deal with this in civil court.

 

[sheath]

I think you're only option is to let that friend "filter" your emails for you. You should be able to filter all email from people on your contact list into a seperate folder, and then anything unknown could go into another folder to be forwarded to him. Otherwise theere is nothing else open to you outside of trying to file harassment charges and deal with this in civil court.

I think that is what I will wind up doing. I cringe at the sight of another email from yet another address...It will be harder to filter my work accounts than my personal ones...

Thinking out loud here...

Okay, I think I'm going to be working with accounts for a while.

S.

 

[webber1998]

Two questions for you...

1) are they all from like yahoo or hotmail accounts ???

2) and depending upon the more sophisticated spam filters that are available, they work best on Outlook, so what type of email do you use ?

Have had to deal with this a little myself, until the person got over it. But I know what you mean about things just popping up now and then.

 

[sheath]

Two questions for you...

1) are they all from like yahoo or hotmail accounts ???

2) and depending upon the more sophisticated spam filters that are available, they work best on Outlook, so what type of email do you use ?

Have had to deal with this a little myself, until the person got over it. But I know what you mean about things just popping up now and then.

Yes. They are all from yahoo or hotmail, so far.

I use hotmail and yahoo. I also use other email providers, but they don't have access to those accounts.

S.

 

[BlueSugar]

Invite both of them over and make a cucumber salad... calmly tell them ... and tell them you don't care, you've moved on this is your peace offering.. stop sending the emails.

Or, well, go over her... she'll be steamed, but tell him what shes doing.

Though, it'll loose the umphf once you ignore her a little longer and she sees you don't care to read the emails.


oh, and add pics to Lit of you making your special cucumber salad? hehehe (J/K)

 

[Ugod]

It's not an option to point out to your ex how utterly ridiculous this is and ask him to call off the dog? That's what I'd go for first. Otherwise I'd just inform my clients/staff to use a specific subject line or something (send a memo saying "all inquiries should be labeled "blah") and delete the ones that don't. Emails are NOT precious, and you're not gonna miss much that way.

 

[Weird Harold]

Yes. They are all from yahoo or hotmail, so far.

I use hotmail and yahoo. I also use other email providers, but they don't have access to those accounts.

S.

I believe the addresses you need are abuse@hotmail.com and abuse@Yahoo.com.

Every e-mail provider should have an Abuse@... address for complaints against their clients.

If those addresses don't work, use the "contact us" links at Hotmail and Yahoo tomake a complaint against her for spamming you.

If she's harrassing you through your work accounts, take the problem to your IT department to find out how to block everything except business e-mails.

 

[CelticFrog]

It's not an option to point out to your ex how utterly ridiculous this is and ask him to call off the dog? That's what I'd go for first.

Um... Just in case you haven't been following the other threads dedicated to the despicable deeds of this man...

He has less maturity than my 20 month old son.

If sheath tried to point out how ridiculous they were, he would take that as a sign that at least they were getting to her and renew his (and his girlfriend's) attack.

Sheath, check into the whole restraining order thing for me. I know you have one, so look at the specifics.

Hell, your lawyers owe you a favor. Get THEM to look into it and draft a nice professional letter to the two childish fucks.

Ang

 

[CelticFrog]

If she's harrassing you through your work accounts, take the problem to your IT department to find out how to block everything except business e-mails.

*smirk* sheath, am I your IT department?

hehehe... you have an IT department.

Weird Harold, this is absolutely hilarious... even though you probably didn't mean it that way. I just got the visual, however, and that was enough to have to snicker out loud.

Ang

 

[horny_boi]

is she actually e-mail bombing you? because if she is, 100% illegal, just as illegal as hacking someone's computer or creating a virus

 

[herecomestherain]

Nothing to offer technically Sheath my sweet, would a collective hex on their heads help in anyway. Nothing drastic, just a gentle " A Pox on Your Heads" from the great mass of Literoticans... For the love of God, do folks have nothing better to do than send dumbass emails to people?

I'm truly hoping you get past this crappy little chapter soon. Good luck.

 

[LiteRain]

Okay, here's the deal.

Everybody knows by now that the Music Man and I are over. Kaput. Done for good. And this is a GOOD thing.

I purged his addy from all my email accounts, and I blocked his addresses so I never see any mail, it just goes straight to the graveyard of deleted emails.

The problem?

His new fiance/girlfriend/whatever is now emailing me. All the damn time. At first I just blocked her addresses and thought, okay, we're done with that. BUT. Now she is filling out new email accounts and using THOSE to get past the blocks. I have something new from her all the damn time, especially over the last few days. It is getting VERY tiresome.

Is there any way to stop this kind of harrassment? Or do I simply have to keep deleting messages, over and over?

I should note there are no threats or anything like that in these emails...they are simply her wanting to tell me all about her 'new man' and yada yada yada. Things like that. She's got the maturity level of a snail, but that's beside the point.

Any ideas? Anybody dealt with this before?

Thanks, all.

S.

Why do you think the emails are from her? Unless you had words with this immature woman ...I'm betting the emails are still from him....If he knows your screen name at Lit i'm betting he now knows he 's getting to you...just my thoughts
Whatever the case ends up being I wish you strength on getting past this .

 

[ABN_Ranger]

Hell babe, you know what I'm gonna say. But here's what you should do... Print out all the E-Mails, put them in a nice pretty folder, take them to your lawyer and then possibly the cops. Because believe it or not... that's considered a form of stalking, and since it's via computer... in some cases, it's big enough to get the FBI involved. And once ya got the FBI lookin in on ya... yeah... you get the idea. Just some helpful advice from your friendly neighborhood poster boy for the "Very Special Forces"

J

 

[BlueSugar]

I still say there should be another cucumber salad if all else fails
















((juuust trying to make a few smiles and giggles, not trying to put down severity of situation... don't hate me ! ))

 

[sheath]

Morning, everybody!

Well...lots of posts since I was last here. Let's see...

BlueSugar: Are you going to make me get that recipe out again? I might have to look that up in a minute.

Ugod: What Ang said is right...only I think she was pretty generous when it came to defining his maturity level. Honestly.

Weird Harold: Thank you for that advice. I'm self-employed, so an 'IT' department doesn't really exist. My promotional team has one, though, and I will be speaking with them today.

Ang: I'm checking into the restraining order, to see if it might include third-party contact. As for the rest...now you are my IT department, too? Along with harem mistress...and your hubby is my Hazmat team...soon I will be a huge corporation unto myself.

horny_boi: What would be considered 'bombing'? More than three or four emails a day?

herecomestherain: Baby, every little bit helps. A hex sounds fabulous to me!

LiteRain: Good questions. Actually, I think they might be writing these emails together. Or he is telling her what to say. Some of them are definitely from her, but I can't be sure about all of them. And yes, he does know my screen name at lit. I don't know if he ventures here anymore.

ABN: If it doesn't stop VERY soon, I will be contacting the authorities about stalking, just to see what my rights are. I've dealt with 'stalking' in the past, but it was always more than just emails...I'm not sure how this stacks up against the law, but it won't hurt to find out.

S.

 

[Mary Hall]

Report her to her ISP and get her kicked off