How to tell

[Nwestin75]

Honestly what is the best way to tell your partner that you don’t want to be married anymore. It isn’t an issue of not having love for one another but feeling like we would be better people being separate.

Any suggestions would be appreciated and all advice is welcome!

 

[davion2308]

It's you and your relationship. It simply depends on how you and the other person relate with one another. I can tell you that I have been in an abusive, aggressive, painful marriage for the past 18 years and I'm currently in the divorce process. I'm the one who initiated and even in all the fear and pain and hurt and how much better I feel having separated from my spouse, it's so hard to navigate. I feel all the emotions of her blame and aggressive because I'm the one who's making the change.

I can tell you that waiting around to do it is much harder than actually taking the step. If you're serious, if you're really serious and you think there's no recovery, there's no chance of finding a different way to live together and be together and succeed as a team, you should consult a lawyer, file first, then tell the other person. But before that, I recommend therapy both for yourself and for the two of you as a couple.