I fall in love with the gender

[Etoile]

For me it's kinda of different. I guess you could say with me it is gender specifically.

I'm Bi but my attraction to guys is purely sexual, I've never had even the slightest romantic feeling towards any guy, ever, and I'm extremely particular about the kind of guy I'm attracted to. My wife says I'm too damn picky (she's bi, too).

I've heard this perspective, too. I'm curious - do you feel that kissing a guy is a romantic act, or can it be part of lustful sex?

By the way, nice quotes in your sig from Tshirthell.

 

[Milkbone69]

I've heard this perspective, too. I'm curious - do you feel that kissing a guy is a romantic act, or can it be part of lustful sex?

By the way, nice quotes in your sig from Tshirthell.

Thank you

Part of lustful sex. A kiss is just like sex, it's the feeling behind that makes it stand apart from romantic or lustful...like making love or fucking...the acts are the same but the feelings behind them make them two very different things.

 

[Netzach]

Here's what that means to me.

I love M. M is a guy, albeit a girly one, but a guy. I like his suits, his shaving, his cologne, his thing about cars, the boy things that are him.

If he were to wake up ina girl body, I'd miss that stuff, but I'd still be in a relationship. In fact I'd probably fall madly in love all over again.

If he were to take enough hormones as to be something in between boy and girl, that would be cool, too, for different reassons.

I notice gender, I think it's part of what makes us...us, but I don't use it as the major overriding criteria for whether I can fall in love with someone. Wait, that's too dry, I don't think we get to pick and choose. I think I tend to get whacked upside the head with mad sexual passion and it's about 50% of the time for men, 30% of the time for "other" and 20% of the time for women, if we were to do ratios.

When I'm madly into a woman though, it's not less madly.