I got what I wanted, so why does it hurt so much?

[SweetCherry]

I've been suffering in a relationship for quite a while that I wasn't happy in and felt no love for my spouse at all, other than as another human being on the planet and as the father of my children. Well, today, we finally decided to seperate. It's what I have wanted for quite some time now, and I was only waiting for him to accept it. So how come now, when I finally get what I have been hoping for, all I wanna do is cry and curl up into a little ball?

 

[Mistress]

Aww baby! Snuggles you and kisses your forehead!

 

[jcgirl]

(((((((((cherry))))))))

Simply put...Its the end of an era of your life.

 

[Canadian Tongue]

You have left your comfort zone and have started a new life. It is always going to be scary and difficult at first. Even though you say it was over a long time ago you have left that security of a long term relationship.

Things will get better!

*hugs you!*

 

[SweetCherry]

Thanx, guys. It's very scarey, facing the future as a disabled single mom, and I know it won't be forever, but I'm very scared and hurting right now. And the fact our anniversary is coming up soon doesn't help matters either.

*curls up in a circle of hugs*

 

[Two2Tango]

(((((((Cherry)))))))))

I know it'll hurt, doll, but we're here for you, whene3ver you need it. As hard as it sounds, just try not to think of it as the end of an era... rather the beginning of a new one. Think positive, sweets. We're here for you.

MB & Feather

 

[Nicole]

You have mail Cherry dear

 

[Mistress]

Smuthers SweetCherry in kisses and snuggles!
You can use me as a play thing if you like! Smiles softly

 

[LordMagicMan]

good luck hun. we are all here for you. Even the newbies

 

[TonyG]

I am both happy and sad for you Cherry. Contact me if you need to.

 

[Blackbich]

Sorry to hear you're hurting Cherry. It's a big change and you'll be scared for a little while but it will definitely get better.

 

[SweetCherry]

Again, thanx, everyone. I hate airing my personal laundry on the board, but I have nobody here to talk to right now and just had to vent.

Nicole, you have mail. hugs!

Mistress, you better make sure you mean that offer. After 6 months of living like a nun, I'm about ready to see if a hard drive is hard enough.

 

[willywanker]

Cherry, I'm on my third marriage so dont take marriage advise from me, but I know about hurting. Try to find some friends to do things with, don't stay locked up in the house. You will feel like a third wheel but your friends won't think of you that way. I'd have never gotten thru the last divorce with out some great friends and then I ended up returning the favor about a year and a half later.

One bit of advise..... this is why I'm married again and spending my time here. Get over this one before you start another relationship. Rebounds feel good at the time but life has a way a showing up sooner or later.

Keep your head up. Tomorrow is a new day.

 

[Mistress]

Purrs and curls up next to you, laying my head in your lap, wraping my arms around you. It'll be ok hun...

 

[KillerMuffin]

It's okay to mourn your loss, you are grieving. But are you mourning the loss of him or the loss of the marriage? The pain will go away and it will be replaced by anger and relief. Just remember to enjoy the moments in your life.

 

[teresafannin]

Major life changes are very scary, but can be exciting too. Take some time to think & know that there are lots of people thinking about you & wishing you all the best. I wish there was more I could do, but sending lots of hugs & good thoughts your way. Teresa

 

[Isolde]

*Hugs ya* Been there and all the advise that you have been given is great. Take and use your circle of friends on and offline...bend their ears and accept their love for you. It will get you through...trust me. A good support group is very important at this time in your life.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

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I know what you're going through...if you ever need me, you know where to find me.

 

[willfulbrat]

SweetCherry, I'm so sorry you're hurting. *Hug* I've been told I'm a good listener, so if you ever want to talk, just talk it out and have a good cry, I'm here. And things will get better for you, sweetie, given time.

Willfulbrat

 

[Laurel]

*hugs*

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Siren]

It reminds me of that saying 'be careful what you wish for you might just get it'

 

[Yoni]

Change , when it happens , is always so hard to accept and scary too.
We have a saying here. "when a door shuts, another opens before you"
Hugs Cherry

 

[SweetCherry]

Thank you all, from the bottom of my heart. I guess maybe I just needed to hea someone tell me I would be OK. you have all been wonderful and kind to me, and it makes me feel beter that there are people out there who are concerned. It's a bit frightening, but I'll get thru it, with the help of my friends and family, both in the flesh and online.

*hugs and kisses to all on the board*