I hope this is the right spot this time

[FrankR88]

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[FrankR88]

shameless bump?

 

[Kain__Thornn]

I've missed you...

 

[FrankR88]

Dude please don't do that again to this thread. I moved it and everything. I'm just trying to find people to talk to, not deal with trolls. Please.

 

[Kain__Thornn]

Playground is a much better place to talk with people. GB is a haven for all that is wicked here, that's why I'm there. Best of luck to ya eh?

 

[FrankR88]

Thank you bud. And sorry for calling you all assholes, eh? I was a bit hot under the collar last night and it just wasn't necessary.

 

[Kain__Thornn]

Thank you bud. And sorry for calling you all assholes, eh? I was a bit hot under the collar last night and it just wasn't necessary.

Don't sweat it, I've properly earned every time I've been called asshole.

 

[FrankR88]

One more shameless bump before bed =(

 

[ima6uldv8]

Welcum to Lit, hon I'm sorry things got off to such a bad start. I hope you like it here and gain lots of confidence.

 

[koalabear]

shameless iggy......

 

[asian_princess]

Hi Frankie...and yes, i peeked at your myspace so i know you don't like being called that, but hey... think of it as your first lesson... people, are going to tend to do what you specifically ask them NOT to do. It's the deliciously sadistic nature in us.

alright, here it is up straight, k little frankie?!

*pats you on the head..*...i'm OLD i get to do that...it comes with the walking cane.

No one... ANYWHERE is going to do you any favours. Something went awry with the whole "extra friendly happy doo da love all fellow humans" coding in our DNA... instead we all got some mutated horny gene.

Once inawhile, you'll come across a freak of nature who will go out of their way to make life a little bit easier for you.
But please don't be holding your breath, we don't have room for corpses around here, our sex toys take up most of our storage space.

So...what do you gotta do??

Just get out there. Make things happen yourself. No one will talk to you? Keep looking until you find someone who will...trust me, i'm tried and true evidence that that works. Just relax and be you, do things you enjoy and people will be attracted to that natural glow of just being happy.

19? wow, you haven't had sex in the 1 year that it's been legal for you to do so.
I've had icecream headaches that have lasted longer than that...

If just getting laid really is your goal and you're not getting it, you're just not hanging around bars at closing time... and for this, i like you

Seriously..., it's not big deal.

as long as you're not hermit-ifying (and it is sooo a word, i went to college) yourself, and still giving yourself some kind of chance of meeting people...your time will come.

And i take offense to you implying that an atrocious beast might not have a partner... I've dated !!!!

So just be patient. Keep that tender mushy side... just trust me on that. It'll come in handy...on that next date and you can keep up with all her pop culture chick flick references, you'll be a seen as a god.

And until you find that confidence... do what my friend once told me to do if it's 3am, he's showing no signs of finishing, you wanna go to sleep and your left leg is starting to cramp up... fake it baby, just fake it.

see ya 'round the PG

I'm Appy, and I carry a big stick



PS: i wouldn't advise getting into it with Kain...he's got a big stick too

 

[Kylan]

I've been on lit a while but usually just frequented the "how to" section. Anyway, I have a slight problem if you will and after getting flamed to hell and back in not one but two forums on Lit I was discouraged. However, I thought I would give it one more shot in a forum that sounded a bit nicer.

I find myself wondering if a fear of getting ‘flamed’ in real life is a contributor to your self perceived lack of confidence…perhaps you should try and look at any ‘flames’ you get on the various BB’s (Bulletin Boards) as a practice run for real life. You will get into disagreements and at times feel offended on BB’s perhaps even more so then in ‘real life’ whatever that is…

<snip>… I was much more content staying inside playing video games. Sad.. I know. Regardless that is how it was. I never really cared much about relationships so I was never in one during high school.

Why is it ‘Sad’ to spend time doing something that you yourself say you were content to do at the time? You didn’t feel the desire back then for relationships, you were happy as you were. That’s now changed…I fail to see how the contentment you felt back then can be viewed as ’Sad’ in any way.

I'm in college now and because of either the lack of experience dealing with females or the lack of confidence, I have absolutely no luck. Sure, I've gone on my fair share of dates since I graduated almost a year ago and came into my own and out of the watchful eye of my parents. No relationships though. Hell, I have never been past "first base".

I have become some hopeless romantic with no luck since I have started caring. I often envision romantic rendezvous with my love and I watch "chick flicks" during which I sigh and become more depressed. I live a normal life. I go out with friends, I go to class, etc etc but when it is just me I'm often depressed with a feeling of being unwanted.

I don't think I'm some atrocious beast. I'm heavy. I don't think I'm fat. Just heavy and unconfident. About 5'9 200 pounds and pretty broad-shouldered.
www.myspace.com/voteforfranklin if you care to see pics. Anyway, I'm not entirely sure where I was going with this post aside from trying to find someone to talk to.

You’ve been on dates so how could you possibly be hideous? I’m curious as to who asked who out. If you made the approach doesn’t this point to a certain level of confidence, if He/she made the first move, you had the confidence to accept…sometimes it’s easy to miss the obvious, especially in oneself.

To recap, I'm almost 19 with no history of a standing relationship or any kind of "physical" experience and a lack of confidence. Should I be worried? I always hear people (especially on here) talking about being experienced young but I'm an adult now with none to speak of.

Should you be worried? Nope, enjoy your time. If you don’t, I reckon you’ll be looking back in years to come wishing you had.

Welcome to Lit FrankR, I hope you have a blast

@>,-'Kylan,-'​

 

[Sulk]

Welcome to Lit, kitten.

The GB snobs flame for the same reason a dog licks it's balls; because it can.


Now, relax. A relaxed attitude is much sexier ..

 

[WantonWitch]

Oh well, seems you got loads of good advice there, I'll just reiterate what Sulk said.... relax... enjoy the flow and ebb of life, when you're not actively hunting/looking for a relationship they usually appear.

Go out, mingle, chat, forget about getting laid, just enjoy.

Oh and welcome to the PG, we are a much nicer crowd, we only bite if you ask very nicely

 

[thiscouldbtricky]

I've been on lit a while but usually just frequented the "how to" section. Anyway, I have a slight problem if you will and after getting flamed to hell and back in not one but two forums on Lit I was discouraged. However, I thought I would give it one more shot in a forum that sounded a bit nicer.

Ok so I'm sure this is the last thing anyone cares to read but I've lurked these boards for longer than it was legal and there aren't many flamers so I figured this was a good spot to pour it all out.

Right now I am an 18 year old guy from georgia. I'll be 19 in June. I have always been the extremely shy type and so I never really went out while I was in high school. I was much more content staying inside playing video games. Sad.. I know. Regardless that is how it was. I never really cared much about relationships so I was never in one during high school.

I'm in college now and because of either the lack of experience dealing with females or the lack of confidence, I have absolutely no luck. Sure, I've gone on my fair share of dates since I graduated almost a year ago and came into my own and out of the watchful eye of my parents. No relationships though. Hell, I have never been past "first base".

I have become some hopeless romantic with no luck since I have started caring. I often envision romantic rendezvous with my love and I watch "chick flicks" during which I sigh and become more depressed. I live a normal life. I go out with friends, I go to class, etc etc but when it is just me I'm often depressed with a feeling of being unwanted.

I don't think I'm some atrocious beast. I'm heavy. I don't think I'm fat. Just heavy and unconfident. About 5'9 200 pounds and pretty broad-shouldered.
www.myspace.com/voteforfranklin if you care to see pics. Anyway, I'm not entirely sure where I was going with this post aside from trying to find someone to talk to.

To recap, I'm almost 19 with no history of a standing relationship or any kind of "physical" experience and a lack of confidence. Should I be worried? I always hear people (especially on here) talking about being experienced young but I'm an adult now with none to speak of.

Welcome...

Since you already seem to have gotten enough advice, and I can't add anything new to the conversation just yet, I'll just wish you luck. I really hope things come through for ya...
I will tell you this though... Nothing new, just a different way of saying it... I know it's easy to think that you're doing something wrong because there seems to be something that "everyone else is doing" and you're not. First of all, NOT everyone else IS doing it, so don't feel obligated to rush things, it will come. Secondly, I found out a long time ago that when I stopped trying so hard TO get it, it all happened a lot quicker, and that truly does go for relationships as well as sex... at least it did for me.
So, to repeat what has been said several times already... Relax, and just go with it. Being 18 and a virgin doesn't make you some freak of nature or anything, don't worry bout it.

 

[Essa]

Welcome FrankR88 The playground is really a fun place to be, find some threads that you like and get involved, you'll have a great time

 

[FrankR88]

Just wanted to thank everyone for the kind words. I'm afraid I was misunderstood but such is the way of talking online. No big deal anyway. But in fact, I have turned down sex from a long-time friend of mine who is into the whole friends with benefits "thing". Alas, my trouble is with getting a relationship. I find sex to be something that should only be done with a person you love anyway but that is simply my personal opinion. I'm not saying "no sex until marriage" because 1) that's crazy 2) I'd be forever a virgin and 3) it just SOUNDS silly to me but regardless... Anyway, not going on that rant right now.

Again, thank you all for kind words. I'm glad I decided to try one more time. Third time was the charm.

 

[done_got_old]

I find myself wondering if a fear of getting ‘flamed’ in real life is a contributor to your self perceived lack of confidence…perhaps you should try and look at any ‘flames’ you get on the various BB’s (Bulletin Boards) as a practice run for real life. You will get into disagreements and at times feel offended on BB’s perhaps even more so then in ‘real life’ whatever that is…



Why is it ‘Sad’ to spend time doing something that you yourself say you were content to do at the time? You didn’t feel the desire back then for relationships, you were happy as you were. That’s now changed…I fail to see how the contentment you felt back then can be viewed as ’Sad’ in any way.



You’ve been on dates so how could you possibly be hideous? I’m curious as to who asked who out. If you made the approach doesn’t this point to a certain level of confidence, if He/she made the first move, you had the confidence to accept…sometimes it’s easy to miss the obvious, especially in oneself.



Should you be worried? Nope, enjoy your time. If you don’t, I reckon you’ll be looking back in years to come wishing you had.

Welcome to Lit FrankR, I hope you have a blast

@>,-'Kylan,-'​

What? A sensitive and caring Kylan? I must be dreaming. Just kidding. Frank stop worrying and enjoy your life. Try looking at the 40 Year Old Virgin and few times and realize.......it won't take that long.

Welcome to lit.

 

[Kain__Thornn]

PS: i wouldn't advise getting into it with Kain...he's got a big stick too

That was supposed to be our little secret dear, now the whole world will know how big my walking stick is, dang...

 

[Kain__Thornn]

Don't mind if I call ya "kid" I'm better than twice your age, so I've been there where you are etc... (I sound like a parent huh?) All those young hotties on your Myspace page and you aren't dating, talk to them, kid, they like when guys talk. I talk a lot here, probably too much, thus I has me a harem going on ya know? Ladies, sound off for my boy Frank here...

 

[Kylan]

What? A sensitive and caring Kylan? I must be dreaming. Just kidding. Frank stop worrying and enjoy your life. Try looking at the 40 Year Old Virgin and few times and realize.......it won't take that long.

Welcome to lit.

What’s this? The exquisite DGO that makes me feel warm and happy inside when I see her posts. Yes, indeed it is. I am so pleased it’s not a dream but a reality.

I also echo Kain__Thornn, FrankR...well, without the harem.

 

[Kain__Thornn]

What’s this? The exquisite DGO that makes me feel warm and happy inside when I see her posts. Yes, indeed it is. I am so pleased it’s not a dream but a reality.

I also echo Kain__Thornn, FrankR...well, without the harem.

Harems are fun, everyone should have one/ be part of one...

 

[TheDivineMsM]

But in fact, I have turned down sex from a long-time friend of mine who is into the whole friends with benefits "thing".

Why?
1. I figure if its a long time friend, you must like her, maybe even love her as a friend? so why wouldnt you let her pop your cherry, espically if she just wants a no strings sort of thing?
2. a friend who has experience can show you in a very tender and non-threatening way the ropes. Make mistakes, be unsure, she is your friend, and if she is a good friend, she will be nice. I say work out sex issues with her and when you find the one you love, you will be halfway to stud in le sac mode.


Oh and welcome to the Playground......

 

[done_got_old]

Harems are fun, everyone should have one/ be part of one...

I'd never be a part of a harem! I'm too special for that.

 

[TheDivineMsM]

I'd never be a part of a harem! I'm too special for that.

is it still a harem if there is a woman and many men?
Would that be more like a stable?
i am confused