I like bi sex, not foreplay

[neonflux]

Due to a very recent experience, this really struck me...

I wonder if what you're experiencing has anything to do with how men are conditioned in this wonderful society of ours to NOT express affection with each other - and I definitely appreciate what others have said about this phenomena being independent of sexual orienation / identity.

Last night, I had my first sexual experience with two bi men since college. They had been friends for a while, sexual with each other for several months. Both are jocks and identify as primarily straight. They are wonderful, sweet, kind men and the emotional affection they have for each other was immediately obvious to me the first time I met them.

They admitted, at the start of yesterday's encounter that they'd never kissed each other before last night - I think that somehow the presence of a woman finally made it safe for them to physically express feelings they'd had for a long time. I have to say that once they started kissing, they didn't stop - definitely completely hot for me, LOL. I suspect this isn't an extraordinary experience, but not being a man, would certainly love to hear some men "weigh in" on this.

~ Justine

Maybe I need a pshrink, but this is cheaper. I really enjoy sex with other men, particularly making them cum. I like giving and getting oral, I like being fucked, but I have no interest at all in foreplay, kissing, cuddling, etc. With women, I really enjoy the foreplay etc as well as the sex, but as for men, they can just cum and go for all I care. Am I just a slutty freak for men, or what?

 

[badger9]

...I think that somehow the presence of a woman finally made it safe for them to physically express feelings they'd had for a long time... I suspect this isn't an extraordinary experience, but not being a man, would certainly love to hear some men "weigh in" on this...

I think for most bi men, the great draw is the other guys cock and balls. And for some guys, some anal play too. That's all most are really comfortable with, and probably interested in. They're more attracted to women, they look at women, lust at breasts and legs, etc., but are also curious about some cock.
Now, as you mention, when there is a woman involved, it changes the dynamics of the situation. Emotions and hormone levels rise. Everyone gets a little more ambitious and risky. A hug or kiss happens. And it's cool. The woman gets off on it, and the guys get further excited by her reaction. So it builds on itself.
Not for all guys, and that's ok. Whatever rocks your boat.

 

[usetwicedaily]

It's okay!

As long as the two of you are comfortable, that's all that counts.

 

[mansome]

I think too many bi men are still worried about what others think about them in the bedroom... if you don't mind putting a cock in your mouth what's wrong with letting yourself go and having fun with another man.. feel every part of his body.. taste every part of his body.. *kiss* his mouth.....

If you are worried about being gay ...... I think it's way too late... might as well feel good and express yourself sexually and intimately.....

 

[pcarp]

Maybe I need a pshrink, but this is cheaper. I really enjoy sex with other men, particularly making them cum. I like giving and getting oral, ......... but I have no interest at all in foreplay, kissing, cuddling, etc. With women, I really enjoy the foreplay etc as well as the sex, but as for men, they can just cum and go for all I care.

I understand exactly. I have only had one experience with another guy and that was at the urging of my g/f. It started out as a mfm 3some with a mutual friend. I never believe that I would actually do it when she stopped sucking him and said "why don't you come up here and help me with this." I helped her until she pulled away and then I just kept going until she came from watching. She was playing with herself and moaning encouragement the whole time.

I have no desire to go find a guy for sex, but as long as she is there I will continue to suck a cock if she wants to watch.
Now she wants to watch me swallow a load of cum from the source. I've been sharing my own cum with her for years, his can't be much different, and if it makes her cum to watch......
Too bad our friend isn't interested in a repeat performance.

 

[neonflux]

you give such a gift to your girlfriend - she is very, very lucky to have you...

P.S., read your post in the "will I regret?" thread - loved your "share" so thank you!

I understand exactly. I have only had one experience with another guy and that was at the urging of my g/f. It started out as a mfm 3some with a mutual friend. I never believe that I would actually do it when she stopped sucking him and said "why don't you come up here and help me with this." I helped her until she pulled away and then I just kept going until she came from watching. She was playing with herself and moaning encouragement the whole time.

I have no desire to go find a guy for sex, but as long as she is there I will continue to suck a cock if she wants to watch.
Now she wants to watch me swallow a load of cum from the source. I've been sharing my own cum with her for years, his can't be much different, and if it makes her cum to watch......
Too bad our friend isn't interested in a repeat performance.

 

[human_male]

I think that's totally common, and fine if the other guys cool with it.

Seriously, it's so common there always seems to be a thread like "I like girls. I'm not gay, I'm not attracted to men at all but I like to suck cock and get fucked in the ass." It's way common and you seem to be at peace with yourself about it so enjoy!

 

[conntom2002]

im with ya

making a dick cum is awesome


but kissing and cuddling is only enjoyable with a chick

 

[badger9]

I think that's totally common, and fine if the other guys cool with it. Seriously, it's so common there always seems to be a thread like "I like girls. I'm not gay, I'm not attracted to men at all but I like to suck cock and get fucked in the ass." It's way common and you seem to be at peace with yourself about it so enjoy!

Well said. I am at peace too.

 

[agr814fun]

I Know what u mean.

I cuddle and kiss with women, but only want that cock up my ass with a guy. Oh well, back to pscyh class.

 

[badger9]

I cuddle and kiss with women, but only want that cock up my ass with a guy...

I'd add a woman-with-strap-on to that list of things that go up my ass.

 

[sugarplumfairy_]

I'm normally pretty conservative in bed but I don't know what I'd do in a threesome. I might be willing to take a cock in my mouth (something I've never done before) or I might even take it up me virgin bum.