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[ADIDAS0226]

my guy is really into kink. and im kinda new at it all. i try and be open but some things i just cant or wont do. so in order to further his kinkiness and still oblige myself to what i want. i need ideas on some things we can do

any ideas welcome.

 

[Blindinthedark]

my guy is really into kink. and im kinda new at it all. i try and be open but some things i just cant or wont do. so in order to further his kinkiness and still oblige myself to what i want. i need ideas on some things we can do

any ideas welcome.

There are lots of kinds of kink, do you know what kind he'd be into? What has he mentioned/done so far?

 

[ShinigamiSama]

my guy is really into kink. and im kinda new at it all. i try and be open but some things i just cant or wont do. so in order to further his kinkiness and still oblige myself to what i want. i need ideas on some things we can do

any ideas welcome.

heres one you should like
cock/prostate milking
gives you total control
theres a couple threads around here and bdsm

taking pictures of each other is also good
even if you dont post them they're fun to take

also getting one of those egg vibrators and playing with his cock maybe

 

[Bandit58]

Do a google on "BDSM checklist". If both of you fill it out together it will give you some idea on who is into what, and it's also good for initiating discussion between you two.

Everyone has limits. You have to decide which ones are "hard limits", which can't ever be pushed, and "soft limits", which can slowly over time be resolved and come to be enjoyed. I do things now after three years which were once considered to be limits, but with time and trust have been overcome.

 

[oldkinky]

Here are some true ideas from our sex life.

After 42 years of marriage my wife loves kinky sex as much as ever and I love it too. Usually we orgasm from intercourse about twice a week and the other times we orgasm either from oral sex or from mutual masturbation.
Our most recent intercourse session began with us both showering. As I was drying off, she began to trim her pubic hair as I watched(I love to watch). Then I shaved some of my hair with my Norelco razor. We went to bed and put on a group sex DVD and began light mutual masturbation. We kissed and told each other how much we loved each other. As we lay there masturbating we fantisized how it would be to do the things that they were doing in the video. Then we got to the scene where two couples were having hot sex together-touching and rubbing each other as well as having oral sex and swaping intercourse partners. My wife began masturbating faster and she was about to cum when I went down on her-tonguing and licking her clitoris. She had a tremendous orgasm. We then began deep kissing as I shared her juices with her with my dick in her vagina in the missionary position-she loves the taste as do I. Then I withdrew and put our Trojan Vibrating Ring on my dick. We continued having fucking in the spoon position so that we could both see the video. I pushed my dick deep inside her as we told each other how good it felt. She loved the vibrating ring. After a few minutes we changed to doggy. It wasn't long before we were both cumming-what an orgasm!!! Then we lay side by side with my dick still in her. I withdrew my cum-covered dick and she licked the cum off. By then I was getting soft and we thanked each other for a great time and went off to sleep.

 

[M's girl]

Here are some true ideas from our sex life.

After 42 years of marriage my wife loves kinky sex as much as ever and I love it too. Usually we orgasm from intercourse about twice a week and the other times we orgasm either from oral sex or from mutual masturbation.
Our most recent intercourse session began with us both showering. As I was drying off, she began to trim her pubic hair as I watched(I love to watch). Then I shaved some of my hair with my Norelco razor. We went to bed and put on a group sex DVD and began light mutual masturbation. We kissed and told each other how much we loved each other. As we lay there masturbating we fantisized how it would be to do the things that they were doing in the video. Then we got to the scene where two couples were having hot sex together-touching and rubbing each other as well as having oral sex and swaping intercourse partners. My wife began masturbating faster and she was about to cum when I went down on her-tonguing and licking her clitoris. She had a tremendous orgasm. We then began deep kissing as I shared her juices with her with my dick in her vagina in the missionary position-she loves the taste as do I. Then I withdrew and put our Trojan Vibrating Ring on my dick. We continued having fucking in the spoon position so that we could both see the video. I pushed my dick deep inside her as we told each other how good it felt. She loved the vibrating ring. After a few minutes we changed to doggy. It wasn't long before we were both cumming-what an orgasm!!! Then we lay side by side with my dick still in her. I withdrew my cum-covered dick and she licked the cum off. By then I was getting soft and we thanked each other for a great time and went off to sleep.

And your point is...? Where's the kink in all this?

 

[oldkinky]

Here is another kinky thing we like.
My wife always uses an anal toy to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. She lubes an anal toy and inserts it in my anus. Our toys are a Spectragels Anal Tool, Anal E-Z Bend, Anal T and Anal Beads) Really intensifies my orgasms. She talks about fucking my ass while she does this. Then she sucks my dick until I fill her mouth with cum. I am straight as an arrow. Years ago I would not do this, but as I began to understand the prostate better, I decided to try it and I was amazed. My wife love to do this. Nothing gay about this.

 

[ecclectic]

Here is another kinky thing we like.
My wife always uses an anal toy to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. She lubes an anal toy and inserts it in my anus. Our toys are a Spectragels Anal Tool, Anal E-Z Bend, Anal T and Anal Beads) Really intensifies my orgasms. She talks about fucking my ass while she does this. Then she sucks my dick until I fill her mouth with cum. I am straight as an arrow. Years ago I would not do this, but as I began to understand the prostate better, I decided to try it and I was amazed. My wife love to do this. Nothing gay about this.

Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

 

[pandoravampire]

in order to appeal to the kinky side of someone, you have to understand how it is working for them.

If after a particularly good session, you could talk about what did it for him, why, how. Then use that knowledge to creat new ideas.

ask him to pop over to the bdsm story board, select one he finds pushes his buttons, and discuss it. Seek something that appeals to both of you, and re-inact it.

communication is the key

pandoravampire

 

[Eilan]

How do you define kink?

How does he define kink?

 

[Mazuri]

How do you define kink?

How does he define kink?

Kinky uses a feather and perverted uses the whole chicken?


For some, kinky sex is anything but missionary, for others it's bondage, for still others it's golden showers....everyone's kink is different and everyone's limits are different.

If there are some things you simply will never do, let him know this so he doesn't try to get you to do one of them unknowingly. If there are some that you are iffy on, then let him know that you are willing to consider it, but it has to be on your terms. But mainly, follow Bandit's advice on the checklist. Most I've seen are full of almost every sexual variation you can think of and lets you state your comfort zone and/or experience level (done it, YES!, maybe, no, and oh hell no not if you paid me). Once you've both filled one out, compare the lists, discuss the YESes and the OH HELL NOs to put everything in perspective and to ensure there are no misunderstandings. After that, you can start talking about the Maybes and see where things go from there. Feel free to reassess and redo the checklist whenever you think something has changed if it helps you discuss with your SO. Sometimes that resounding YES! can turn into an OH HELL NO! after experimentation. It's all a personal choice.

Should be fun to try, though

 

[ADIDAS0226]

tried..some things

well initially i was never really into doin things. but i'll do things to please him. however i have yet to orgasm. ON ANYTHING. so he gets frustrated about this as well. plus my birth control tends to make it so that i am less horny and since he just got back he is really horny all the time.

recently i gave a handjob while using one of his dildos in his ass which he enjoyed. however i dont wanna just be doing these such things. and have vanilla sex.

there are limits to what i will and wont do and he knows that. so i just need numerous ideas.

 

[an_angels_wings]

I'm not incredibly experienced in this area, but something you said caught me:

but i'll do things to please him.

Be very, VERY careful with this. I've found myself falling into this pattern, too. "Well, I love him, and it makes him happy ... so maybe it's not such a big deal that I go down on him even if I'm not quite ready for it yet ... " If you get pressured into things (and you're probably thinking right now that it's fine, you want to do it), it'll end up bothering you and you may resent him because you may realize that you felt pressured. Just a thought, not saying that's what's going on with you or anything.

If he's the one who's kinky, why do you have to go and look things up? Why doesn't he just suggest some stuff he's into and ya'll two could talk about it? Also, try getting him to concentrate on pleasing you. It's not fun and really wears on you when you're giving him pleasure and O's all the time and you've gotten maybe a handful (maybe); or, well, in this case, you haven't yet. This may also be where you come in. Do you masturbate? Try finding out what you like and then you can teach him. Then you're both happy.

 

[ADIDAS0226]

do u have any specific ones in mind about this checklist that u are certain like a link or somethin?

 

[SweetErika]

do u have any specific ones in mind about this checklist that u are certain like a link or somethin?

I use this Excel checklist because it's easy to modify and share: http://www.kufs.org/docs/bdsm_checklist_shevah.xls

There are several in the BDSM Library sticky, and a ton of others if you google 'bdsm checklist' though - IOW, if you can't find a good one, you haven't looked.

 

[excitablegirl]

do u have any specific ones in mind about this checklist that u are certain like a link or somethin?

Hey sweetie, how old are you? You haven't ever had an O or just never with this guy???? Why on earth not?????

 

[ADIDAS0226]

Hey sweetie, how old are you? You haven't ever had an O or just never with this guy???? Why on earth not?????

I'm 19 but have been sexually active since i was about 17 or so. I havent orgasmed i believe at all however with one guy we think i did. and he thinks i have more than once however if i came it was nothing special obviously cuz i didnt know.