Im 19, shes 31

[comebackkidd]

(I just posted this in general but they felt it would be better for over here....sorry ima n00b)

Well, ill be 20 at the end of the month but yeah, heres the situation. I met a girl snowboarding who is a lot older then me but shes awsome. We like all the same stuff and she acts and looks to be right around my age. We are both into everything but we dont have too many ideas to try. We are gonna have anal sex for the first time tomorrow...any tips? Also is there anything I should know about having sex with older girls? Any info about the situation to make things more fun would be great, Thanks!

 

[M's girl]

Well..... she is roughly 10/11 years older in 'solid years' to start with and then there's the fact that most women are more mature than men their age anyway so, yes, I would say there are things you probably need to learn (about life, relationships and sex) when you succesfully want to be with her in a relationship.

Then again, everyone is different so it all depends on you and her and how you 'work' together. It's not impossible but if all you worry about right now is the sex (I'm not saying that's what you do) then you could be in for an unpleasant surprise sometime soon.

Check out The Blank Manual though (sticky at the top of How To's index page) and you will finds loads of information/topics/threads, also on anal sex.

Good luck!

 

[lik_m_ade]

(I just posted this in general but they felt it would be better for over here....sorry ima n00b)

Well, ill be 20 at the end of the month but yeah, heres the situation. I met a girl snowboarding who is a lot older then me but shes awsome. We like all the same stuff and she acts and looks to be right around my age. We are both into everything but we dont have too many ideas to try. We are gonna have anal sex for the first time tomorrow...any tips? Also is there anything I should know about having sex with older girls? Any info about the situation to make things more fun would be great, Thanks!

Hi,

I think M's girl is definitely on the right track in her reply: you should think in terms of getting ready for the relationship with the same effort you've put in to get ready for sex.

Best advice I can give you in general is WATCH, LISTEN, FEEL and ASK.

During foreplay, WATCH her reactions, does she look like she is enjoying herself, what is her skin doing, is there any flush developing, does she look relaxed, happy, excited, aroused, bored or something else? what do you see in her eyes? What is her expression as you explore areas of her body? If you decide to perform oral sex (and I would recommend that you do), take a good look before you start, know what you want to do and which parts are which.

At the same time, LISTEN to her, what she says, how she says it, her breathing, any sounds she makes, and compare that with what you are seeing. As you are enjoying each other, there should be visual and verbal signs of it.

Use your sense of touch to FEEL what is going on is she becoming warmer, wetter, clenching (good) or tensing (bad), how is her body responding to your touch? How much pressure is she using to push toward you? How does her body respond as she looks and sounds more aorused? What are her muscles doing?

As you begin to explore new parts of her body, try new things or aren't sure what her body's signals are telling you, then ASK. If she knows you are interested in her pleasure and that she won't have to tell you "everything" because you are paying attention, she'll let you know what works best for her, what she likes and what to do next if you aren't sure.

I know that seems like a lot, but it makes such a huge difference in everyone's experience by being aware and in the moment. If you know that she is enjoying things it should make it even more of a turn-on for you.

As far as anal sex in general, use lots of lube, plenty of time to warm up and relax both of you, starting with fingers and whatever else tickles your fancy-the worst thing that will happen if you are taking too long and she's enjoying it will be that she'll tell you to start now, so don't worry. And if by some chance you decide that it's not the right time to do it, let your prep become play and simply transition to another activity, don't get hung up on the agenda. She'd rather enjoy her time with you than review "What went wrong".

I hope this was helpful and that you'll also pursue M's girl's suggestion to look other aspects as well. Good luck!

 

[cricketbug]

I've been in, basically, the same situation...except I was 19, he was 32. Communication is open and I second what lik_m_ade said... "Best advice I can give you in general is WATCH, LISTEN, FEEL and ASK."

 

[cmore]

(I just posted this in general but they felt it would be better for over here....sorry ima n00b)

Well, ill be 20 at the end of the month but yeah, heres the situation. I met a girl snowboarding who is a lot older then me but shes awsome. We like all the same stuff and she acts and looks to be right around my age. We are both into everything but we dont have too many ideas to try. We are gonna have anal sex for the first time tomorrow...any tips? Also is there anything I should know about having sex with older girls? Any info about the situation to make things more fun would be great, Thanks!

I was having sex with an older woman once. Strangely she used to get off on being older and me as a younger "boy" Not sure what that was all about but hey, she loved it which made it wild for me! She definately knew how she wanted it and wasted no time to make sure she got it. I suppose each experience is unique to itself. Good Luck!

 

[sapos]

I'm going to be the devils advocate A-hole (sorry)

I'm thinking unless you both live on the mountain this in a winter thing for the both of you, meaning that once the season/vacation is over and you go your separate ways except for some calls/letter/emails that will be it. So my advice is HAVE FUN that's what it is all about with those tipe of relationships. Also she is more experienced than you so you need to listen to her. In other words do what those other posts said.
When its over accept the fact cherish the memories of that fling you had that winter of '07 and enjoy the new experiences you have under your belt (no pun intended).
Now if it isn't like that, and there is something between you two that is real then go for it make it work and more power to you.