Inexperienced submissive F, need some guidance

[goodgirlLin]

I’ll keep looking lit Sherlock Holmes

 

[kyblue12]

Just tap the breaks a bit and move slowly. From your posts I am not seeing if you are more a sub or little.... If you are a little, there are some good places here at lit to check out and get to know the community a bit. I think even as a sub you might be welcomed there as you learn.

 

[goodgirlLin]

Just tap the breaks a bit and move slowly. From your posts I am not seeing if you are more a sub or little.... If you are a little, there are some good places here at lit to check out and get to know the community a bit. I think even as a sub you might be welcomed there as you learn.

I don’t think I know either. Yes, you’re probably rolling your eyes at that! Same! I want to spank my own bum for even uttering that, I just don’t know, I love so many facets of it, maybe I’m just a well rounded waitress/servant. I should definitely not make another drink though. Oef.

 

[kyblue12]

I don’t think I know either. Yes, you’re probably rolling your eyes at that! Same! I want to spank my own bum for even uttering that, I just don’t know, I love so many facets of it, maybe I’m just a well rounded waitress/servant. I should definitely not make another drink though. Oef.

May I send a private message?

 

[Utmale48]

I don’t think I know either. Yes, you’re probably rolling your eyes at that! Same! I want to spank my own bum for even uttering that, I just don’t know, I love so many facets of it, maybe I’m just a well rounded waitress/servant. I should definitely not make another drink though. Oef.

Let someone else do the spanking. . Embrace the parts you like. You don’t have to be just one thing.

 

[goodgirlLin]

May I send a private message?

Yes of course

 

[kyblue12]

Let someone else do the spanking. . Embrace the parts you like. You don’t have to be just one thing.

Yup.... what ever relationship you develop, just let it be what you both want it to be. If it meets the 3 S's as posted earlier and makes you happy it is a good one.

 

[goodgirlLin]

Let someone else do the spanking. . Embrace the parts you like. You don’t have to be just one thing.

The renaissance sub
I like it
Should definitely go to bed and say no more stupid things

 

[Utmale48]

The renaissance sub
I like it
Should definitely go to bed and say no more stupid things

You’re not saying stupid things at all. You’re new and curious. Nothing wrong with that at all.

 

[Utmale48]

The renaissance sub
I like it
Should definitely go to bed and say no more stupid things

If you are going to med sleep well.

 

[goodgirlLin]

If you are going to med sleep well.

Seems sensible
I’m becoming rowdy
Night x and thanks for the advice, very very much appreciated

 

[Utmale48]

Seems sensible
I’m becoming rowdy
Night x and thanks for the advice, very very much appreciated

I don’t mind rowdy at all. But a persons got to sleep. Feel free to ask anything anytime.

 

[Littlewolf8258]

I think my insecurities of being so new to it all took over and I made some poor decisions.

This happened for me as well. It’s a learning process. It’s ok not to have it all figured out right out of the gate.

I could be the problem here
Love the feeling of being swept up and losing myself in that. But, I lose myself so quickly that way. Yup, it’s me, hi, I’m the problem it’s me…

I feel this so much. The excitement of being at the beginning of something new and feeling that rush of jumping into the deep end… but I’ve gotten overwhelmed and allowed myself to do things that aren’t really my character because of it, so I know I need to thread more carefully now.

 

[gaindianguy4u]

Set the expectations ahead for him to work at your own place fast or slow or a mix of both . A good and real dom will always put his submissive first, care for her aside his ego. Happy to chat more over DMs.

 

[goodgirlLin]

After a week I though I would update, sorry if you wanted me to fuck off

It’s been interesting. A lot of messages, some great advice, some dubious (like, no I don’t want to meet you in an Asda car park after 2! Messages. I’d need atleast 4.

If any subs are interested, I would love to know how you found that connection that works for both of you. How do you get to know each other better and also stay within your sub position.

 

[Jake6900]

Hey,

I would love to hear some tips on how to start an online dom sub relationship with someone who understands that I’m quite new but very eager to learn? I’ve tried it but it went too quick and I panicked a bit and pulled back. I know I want to, just feel overwhelmed when it goes too fast. Does that make sense?

Contact me pig

 

[asian_xdr]

a good dom knows where his subs head is at… some dom’s are just guys that want what they want, others are listening while they are actIng and are in tune with their sub, even as they ‘push their subs limits, it’s like a guy who knows how to listen to the female voice of the sub and react to it.

 

[submatsi]

Hey,

I would love to hear some tips on how to start an online dom sub relationship with someone who understands that I’m quite new but very eager to learn? I’ve tried it but it went too quick and I panicked a bit and pulled back. I know I want to, just feel overwhelmed when it goes too fast. Does that make sense?

In my opinion the Dom should know your limits, now from the start he wont know them and eventually he would need to ush you to discover those limits. You both should have discussed your and his wants and desires. Then when your both confortable he should proceed. I think the first thing you should do is take off all your clothes stand in front of a mirror and describe what you see. Describe your person you flaws and perfections and when you are sure what you see then you should convey those thoughts and wishes to your Dom. When you are confident with what you want then the excitement and pleasure will come easy. One last thing any Dominate that walks away from you because you have reached a point that you are not comfortable about you are better off and he doesnt deserve your submission to him.