Is bisexuality a blessing or a curse?

[KinkStevens]

Being bi brings so much in the way of variety when it comes to sexual fulfilment, I feel blessed that I can be turned on by hot sex with a man or a woman. It took a while, but I’m 100% comfortable and proud of being bisexual.

Once in a committed monogamous relationship though, I can’t help but feel I’m missing out.

I’m with a woman and to put it simply I miss cock. I miss sex with another guy. It’s different and I find it so erotic to suck cock and be fucked.

I don’t really feel the desire to stray and fuck other women though. I’m happy with sex with my wife, that box is ticked.

I won’t stray though, out of respect for her desire to be exclusive, so my cock cravings remain just that.

I’m pretty sure that if I was in a committed relationship with a guy, getting all the cock I needed full time, I’d miss sex with a woman. I’m very attracted to women and I find sex with them very fulfilling too. I doubt I could live without pussy and all that goes with a beautiful woman.

For me I guess the problem is not the bisexuality itself but actually monogamy…..I just think that in my case my bisexuality just exaggerates it and means I can’t really ever be fully satisfied in an exclusive relationship.

I know it’s not the same for everyone who’s bi but I thought it would be interesting to hear others’ views and thoughts…….

I prefer to be in a relationship with a woman who is comfortable with my kinks and occasionally encourages them

 

[AchtungNight]

I’m not bi personally, but for the people I know who are that I want to call friends including my story and role play characters- it can be a blessing and a curse. I imagine my characters all ending up with partners willing to accept their sexuality as spouses or friends with benefits as applicable. I too would like to find such a person as a poly straight guy. It has not happened. The closest person I had in the past divorced me because she decided she would rather be aromantic (and I was very happy with her and never strayed). That was almost a decade ago. I still call her friend but we can’t be anything more than just that. And I don’t see any possibility of anything close to that relationship happening again for me. Would I be willing to give someone else such a relationship? Of course! But it would have to go both ways. This realistic realization forces me to be content with fantasy over reality. Other things keep the situation maintained- the realities of ignorance, deception, and depression for example. This is uncomfortable for me for obvious reasons. I want to change my situation but I can’t. Not alone. Regarding the real people I know struggling with bisexual polyamorous needs- they are all hopefully with people who allow them to indulge such needs, just like my fictional characters. But they don’t easily tell me if this true or not. I just have to believe it and hope it is true too. And if it isn’t- I have to accept that as well.

 

[klippert]

I prefer to be in a relationship with a woman who is comfortable with my kinks and occasionally encourages them

This nails in the simplest sense.
That said:
bisexuality a blessing or a curse.... You can try and justify it, wax it poetically even copy and paste it... in the end 'its a choice'.

 

[JB_betweenboyfriends]

For me it's not 50/50, I am maybe 75% gay. But I have a young son and did love his mother, both romantically and sexually, in spite of that not being my usual preference.

Sometimes you just don't know what's going to happen. I don't consider it to be either a blessing or a curse, it just is what it is.

 

[CEOescape]

speakiiing from a fathers POV i have to say it is a blessing I have met so many wonderful people.

 

[Tinyharold46]

If you are in a monogamous marriage, it is a curse. The battle inside you is a never ending mental torture.

 

[sapphyrix]

i WISH i was bi :/

 

[OnaTangent]

Always good to keep your options open

 

[sapphyrix]

This nails in the simplest sense.
That said:
bisexuality a blessing or a curse.... You can try and justify it, wax it poetically even copy and paste it... in the end 'its a choice'.

definitely not a choice. if it was a choice i would choose to be bisexual but i am not

 

[Bisexguy70]

Always good to keep your options open

Being open to my bi side certainly gave me tons of options and opportunities. If not for that my hand would have fallen off

 

[2tallpaul]

Having a woman that is bi helps. She is the one that brought me out to so many other kinks. I always knew I was different and she released me. She loves to watch and nothing goes behind her back. It's a choice and it's been good in our relationship.

 

[bixxx55]

I’ve always thought that being bisexual was a blessing. It was especially so ewhen my wife and I were attracted to the same man. We ended up in a five year long MMF relationship that was very rewarding. We’d both do it again in a heartbeat.

 

[dodgeboy2]

It's a big blessing such a big blessing!

 

[Mike302]

The desire is what it is. It isn't a choice.

The actions taken or not taken are the choice.

I don't feel "cursed" for being bicurious or whatever you want to call it. But it's frustrating.

Then again, it could just be being married and monogamous is frustrating. The relationship is otherwise great and sexual.

 

[J1biboi]

Charlie,
I like your statement, "It took a while, but I’m 100% comfortable and proud of being bisexual." I am too but it is not something that I'm open about even with my wife.
Is bisexuality a blessing or a curse? Yes. After a couple of early teen experiences with a friend I realized I was bisexual. I didn't know the term then but I knew I liked girls and sucking dicks. I was never self loathing or wanted to hurt myself over enjoying dicks. I just accepted it & wanted more.
The problems were keeping it quiet and hoping the other guy did too. He & I never talked about it or blew each other again. I don't know how he felt about it but I knew I enjoyed having a dick in my mouth. I hoped to get through adolescence without being exposed.
In my mid 20's when I was in the military the desire returned & was strong. I blew 3 guys (Glory Holes) and enjoyed it. But the fear of being exposed and the possible legal & other consequences made me stop. Again I like being bi but other circumstances interfered & I had to keep it quiet.
I'm in my 60's & I have sucked a couple of cocks lately and enjoyed it. But I have to keep it on the DL because my wife wouldn't understand & there would probably be other ramifications.
Is bisexuality a blessing or a curse? For me it depends on how you look at it. I've had to keep it under wraps & not have been able to enjoy as many cocks as I would have liked. Also over the years and only a handful of times I was overwhelmed with desire for a guy I saw or just met and couldn't follow up. Yea. It's disappointing but life is full of choices and disappointments and this is no different.
This is why I like Charlie's statement about being comfortable & proud of being bisexual. Even with the limited opportunities and having to keep things 'in the closet' I have enjoyed sex with a few guys. And it's been awesome.

BTW & this is off topic. Those women who don't like swallowing cum can 'bugger off' because the cum is part of the experience and pleases the other guy. So sweetheart shut up and swallow it all.

I can relate to this.

 

[swflabimale]

I came out to my wife a long time ago that my cousin came on to me and that it went on for about 4+ years, and when she asked me if I was afraid to tell anyone about it, I said no..... that I enjoyed it too much. Knowing what was done to me and what I did in return was a big turn on for her. It opened our sex lives to things I only dreamed about and she was game right from the get-go. The one mistake I made was not telling her about a couple experiences I had later in life with a couple guys. When I told her, she was a little upset with me but she told me she was disappointed that I didn't tell her at the time I did it. I'm sure that if she didn't join in, she would have been right there watching me perform......
In the end.... it's both a blessing and a curse

 

[tedstime]

Being bi is hardly a blessing or a curse. I believe it is an individual thing, and rather than list the pros and cons of it, it is something that a person inherits or discovers at an early age. It may be dormant for meny years, or obvious to the person at a very early age. I have found being bi a pleasant experience most of my life. If I met another male or female and we clicked, well and good ,but living as a 'normal' married man my life has been good. I have felt this way since I was a young boy

 

[ConradBird]

If you are in a monogamous marriage, it is a curse. The battle inside you is a never ending mental torture.

Yes, it has been a curse forever. My life would have been so much easier if I wasn't bi. I'm married and in a monogamous marriage, too. I'm deep in the closet about my fantasies and needs. It always eats at you and leaves you fantasizing about what you can't have. If you DO give in, the guilt is terrible, too. Yes, being bi is definitely a curse.

 

[Edey]

It's more of a blessing. You can enjoy many aspects of life.
You have my respect for staying faithful, it's rare nowadays.
I'm in a triangle MMF, and I'm happy, all is consensual, no cheating, and actually we have an amorous triangle, we love each other. I recommend that, talk openly, if you find another bi hot men, and he would do her well also, she would probably be happy and accepting.

Tits + dicks are the best mix for me

 

[RainyDayPen]

I'm monogamous so I can just fantasize about the other gender I'm not with currently. That's how I know I'm still bisexual, porn (including erotica) preferences lol.

 

[Zrosey]

All I know is, I love being bi

 

[Sunnyade]

very much a blessing

 

[Oldermom935]

Being bi brings so much in the way of variety when it comes to sexual fulfilment, I feel blessed that I can be turned on by hot sex with a man or a woman. It took a while, but I’m 100% comfortable and proud of being bisexual.

Once in a committed monogamous relationship though, I can’t help but feel I’m missing out.

I’m with a woman and to put it simply I miss cock. I miss sex with another guy. It’s different and I find it so erotic to suck cock and be fucked.

I don’t really feel the desire to stray and fuck other women though. I’m happy with sex with my wife, that box is ticked.

I won’t stray though, out of respect for her desire to be exclusive, so my cock cravings remain just that.

I’m pretty sure that if I was in a committed relationship with a guy, getting all the cock I needed full time, I’d miss sex with a woman. I’m very attracted to women and I find sex with them very fulfilling too. I doubt I could live without pussy and all that goes with a beautiful woman.

For me I guess the problem is not the bisexuality itself but actually monogamy…..I just think that in my case my bisexuality just exaggerates it and means I can’t really ever be fully satisfied in an exclusive relationship.

I know it’s not the same for everyone who’s bi but I thought it would be interesting to hear others’ views and thoughts…….

BIG blessing!

 

[Swuchmann]

Being a bi bottom is necessary for me. In my day to day life i am required to take charge. Being the bottom for a top that is dominate helps provide balance in my life. I need that time that I am sub and used for a man’s pleasure.

 

[bi_cpl_with_crossdresser]

When I was younger I could never reconcile the fact that I was a Crossdresser and also possibly Bi, I did not like the ramifications that both could imply. As I grew older and finally accepted my dressing and how fun it could be it was not so hard to accept that I was bi as well and just who I was.

I hope that someday it leads to some new and exciting adventures.