Is edging, as a task, different for women?

I have edged for years. It's almost become my normal way of "life", even though quick release is nice too.. :)

Don't know if anyone can relate, but I sometimes edge to an extent that it affects my sleep, purposely that is. Edging keeps me awake if I do it right, keeping the level of arousal high enough to block sleep, and then when release finally comes..? Oh yes..

I write a lot, and the last year participating in sexual role-plays here, I find it exciting to write (edge), wait for a reply (maybe with some assistance of porn), edge again, write.. and so on.

Switching between vaginal and anal play is also a good approach, I have found.
Very nice! To have that control for that precious release!
 
Edging definitely seems more of a male thing to do, women edging is much less talked about.

I really enjoy it and enjoy it for longer periods, too. Edging combined with denial and ruined orgasms is pretty much my jam, although sometimes quick orgasms are kinda nice, too. Edging gets my head all mushy. I love how desperate I get when I edge without a release for longer periods of time. After a certain point it all just sort of blurs into a lovely haze.

If I edge very long, the first orgasm after often isn’t they spectacular. It can feel like a little bit of a failure to me, so usually after longer stints of edging I prefer intentionally ruining the first orgasm and then the second one is kind of stellar. 💫💫
You just introduced a completely new for me concept - female ruined orgasm. I have no idea what this is, will have to google.

With the rest of it - yes! The brain starts to go on vacation after a while. Though your while and my are very different, it is minutes for me and months for you :)
 
You just introduced a completely new for me concept - female ruined orgasm. I have no idea what this is, will have to google.

With the rest of it - yes! The brain starts to go on vacation after a while. Though your while and my are very different, it is minutes for me and months for you :)
It’s essentially the same, just without semen. Stop all stimulation at the right time and you end up with a ruined orgasm. I absolutely love how it feels when the pussy clenches and clenches and gets nothing, just sad emptiness and desperation.

And my while hasn’t been months since 2020. I think the longest I’ve gone without after that is around 6 weeks. 😂
 
It’s essentially the same, just without semen. Stop all stimulation at the right time and you end up with a ruined orgasm. I absolutely love how it feels when the pussy clenches and clenches and gets nothing, just sad emptiness and desperation.

And my while hasn’t been months since 2020. I think the longest I’ve gone without after that is around 6 weeks. 😂
Oh, got it. I don't get to have vaginal orgasms at all, that's why the whole concept did not click. With clitoral there is no additional stimulation needed after it gets going.
 
Oh, got it. I don't get to have vaginal orgasms at all, that's why the whole concept did not click. With clitoral there is no additional stimulation needed after it gets going.
I mostly have clitoral, too. And when I ruin, it’s always clitoral. I don’t know if it varies from person to person, but there definitely is a spot when, if you stop all stimulation, you will end up having an orgasm physically but it doesn’t feel like a regular orgasm. Might take a while and require some experimentation to find the right time when to stop and still get the contractions.

I know I’m not the only woman to experience this and play with this, so it’s not just a quirk I have.
 
I mostly have clitoral, too. And when I ruin, it’s always clitoral. I don’t know if it varies from person to person, but there definitely is a spot when, if you stop all stimulation, you will end up having an orgasm physically but it doesn’t feel like a regular orgasm. Might take a while and require some experimentation to find the right time when to stop and still get the contractions.

I know I’m not the only woman to experience this and play with this, so it’s not just a quirk I have.
Thanks for the details.
Experimentation is in order.
 
I mostly have clitoral, too. And when I ruin, it’s always clitoral. I don’t know if it varies from person to person, but there definitely is a spot when, if you stop all stimulation, you will end up having an orgasm physically but it doesn’t feel like a regular orgasm. Might take a while and require some experimentation to find the right time when to stop and still get the contractions.

I know I’m not the only woman to experience this and play with this, so it’s not just a quirk I have.

Huh, I know what you mean now.
I’ve just never thought of them as ruined, just different.
 
Huh, I know what you mean now.
I’ve just never thought of them as ruined, just different.
To me they are very different and very much ruined if timed right. It feels incredibly frustrating (and thus awesome) to lose the pleasure that comes with an orgasm and end up with just the contractions. Doesn’t really feel like an orgasm to me at all, but maybe I’m greedy? :)

Sometimes I have sort of half orgasms as well that aren’t quite full orgasms but not exactly ruins either. When I’m in charge of my own orgasms they’re always either ruins or nice, full orgasms. But when it’s someone else who’s administering them, they sometimes end up being those half orgasms. Quite often actually, because I have issues.
 
Maybe I have to think about "ruined" orgasms differently... I have to admit the times I have experienced what Seela is describing it has not been a happy thing for me.
 
I’m so happy that edging and especially ruins have gotten some interest among the womenfolk here, too. :) Besides humiliation and emotional masochism it’s my favorite kink.

I used talk about these edgy and ruiny topics with likeminded people on Tumblr back in the day, but it kind of broke at the end of 2018 when they banned the porn and I haven’t really been there since.

(It was a very unfortunate timing, too, because my No Nut dear diary thing was supposed to happen there and then I had to bring it here because of the great meltdown of Tumblr and going through with it without a community who’s into that thing was quite different than I had thought what it could be.)
 
I’m so happy that edging and especially ruins have gotten some interest among the womenfolk here, too. :) Besides humiliation and emotional masochism it’s my favorite kink.

I used talk about these edgy and ruiny topics with likeminded people on Tumblr back in the day, but it kind of broke at the end of 2018 when they banned the porn and I haven’t really been there since.

(It was a very unfortunate timing, too, because my No Nut dear diary thing was supposed to happen there and then I had to bring it here because of the great meltdown of Tumblr and going through with it without a community who’s into that thing was quite different than I had thought what it could be.)
I followed your no nut thread. I too feel the loss of what tumblr was. I am so sorry you didn't feel supported here with that project --- hugs.
 
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I followed your no nut thread. I too feel the loss of what tumblr was. I am so sorry you didn't feel supported here with that project hugs.
I don’t know if it was support that I was after so much, necessarily. Maybe general interest towards the subject, which is not really present here so much, because this covers a wider range of topics rather than that one very niche thing that I used tumblr for.

And I’m not completely anonymous here, whereas on tumblr I was. The lack of complete anonymity curbed what I was able to share here. I think that was the biggest issue.

Anyway, edging yay! Been doing that for about a week now and it really shows in my headspace and a little in how I act, too. I have to check myself a little, here too. I have standards and an aloof image to uphold. 😜
 
For me, edging is a way of life.
I never start masturbation or sex in any form really, with the thought of climax.
I edge myself alot.
I like the intense stimulation, the oh so close and stopping. I love being aroused all day for long periods of time without release. The orgasms then are very strong and intense.
I also love phone sex with either gender where they are more dominate and I service them, getting them off while I edge and am denied.
Yeah, edging is my way of life.
 
For me, edging is a way of life.
I never start masturbation or sex in any form really, with the thought of climax.
I edge myself alot.
I like the intense stimulation, the oh so close and stopping. I love being aroused all day for long periods of time without release. The orgasms then are very strong and intense.
I also love phone sex with either gender where they are more dominate and I service them, getting them off while I edge and am denied.
Yeah, edging is my way of life.
This is much how I feel as well, it’s become sort of a way of life for me, too. ☺️

It’s been two weeks of regular edging for me now and I’m really feeling it in the best and worst of ways. About two weeks of edging is what it takes for me to reach the point where my brain goes a little gooey and things start to feel way different.
 
I have a difficult time climaxing, probably because of my crazy pills, and edging for too long makes it even harder.

But the thought of being instructed to edge for a while before a date with Bull. Possibly having Bob locked in his cage, shaving me, dressing me and edging me orally. Prepping me for the date.

Then having the date with Bull. being teased, spanked, thoroughly and repeated fucked, and denied orgasm for the night or weekend.
Then to be sent home to Bob as a horney Cream Pie.
That sound delicious.
I know Bob would appreciate it also.
 
This is much how I feel as well, it’s become sort of a way of life for me, too. ☺️

It’s been two weeks of regular edging for me now and I’m really feeling it in the best and worst of ways. About two weeks of edging is what it takes for me to reach the point where my brain goes a little gooey and things start to feel way different.
After about 2 weeks I'm constantly wet and horny. I think the longest I've gone is 6 weeks. I was so horny I would have fucked anything that moved. To quote Eddie Murphy, " hell, I go over to a friend's house and their fish stop swim
ming."
I love to edge men, women, I love getting them off while I stay denied. Love phone sex too.
 
You just introduced a completely new for me concept - female ruined orgasm. I have no idea what this is, will have to google.

With the rest of it - yes! The brain starts to go on vacation after a while. Though your while and my are very different, it is minutes for me and months for you :)
I have found, as a female, I respond like I male when the orgasm is ruined.
The body goes through the motions of an orgasm, but I don't feel the pleasure of it, I feel nothing without the stimulation during.
Afterwards, I might as well have not cum at all. The arousal level is still amped up, still extremely wet and horny. I will stay that way until I get the release with stimulation.
 
I have found, as a female, I respond like I male when the orgasm is ruined.
The body goes through the motions of an orgasm, but I don't feel the pleasure of it, I feel nothing without the stimulation during.
Afterwards, I might as well have not cum at all. The arousal level is still amped up, still extremely wet and horny. I will stay that way until I get the release with stimulation.
Interesting. Thank you for the description.

I tried a couple times, but did not succeed yet. So far I can either edge, or cum, whether I have any stimulation after there is no return doesn't not seen to matter much, I actually much prefer NOT to have the stimulation during an orgasm.
 
Interesting. Thank you for the description.

I tried a couple times, but did not succeed yet. So far I can either edge, or cum, whether I have any stimulation after there is no return doesn't not seen to matter much, I actually much prefer NOT to have the stimulation during an orgasm.
Maybe you’re built differently?

I don’t like stimulation during an orgasm either, but there’s still a window between edging and a full orgasm for me, and that’s where the ruins live. ☺️
 
I have nothing to contribute with regard to the difference between male and female edging, but I don’t see why a sub’s gender would make it particularly different as a task.

PSA: Besides the rush of sadism and control, I love the psychological and dynamic aspects of edging. I’ve found it strengthens feelings of submission in the edgee. If your dynamic needs a recalibration, it’s a perfect way to get things back on track and clarify. I didn’t expect that.

Ask your doctor of Edgusubix® is right for your dynamic.
 
I cannot really edge myself. Maybe a few times. My SO can edge me for weeks. When we were on vacation last time she edged me almost every night a little and most nights for an hour or two. One day short of three weeks she finished me off. I think I had bruises from the contractions of cumming that night. I was really desperate to cum about a week into it. So it was an intense tease.
 
I've never had a partner deny my orgasm until my current dynamic with my daddy. I've been in a few situations where I've controlled a man's orgasms, but not until recently have I had mine controlled with edging.
It's a new sensation giving up that much control.
 
I agree.. if I play the edge game too much it is much harder to reach orgasm....
Yes it might be different for you if you were being instructed or doing this as a task. Like after edging 30 minutes you will orgasm. Then 35 the next time etc to see how the orgasm intensity changes
 
I've never been given the task of edging, which is fine with me. Once I'm going, I don't want anything or anyone stopping me. :)
That’s how most women feel and it’s understandable. But don’t be afraid to have someone try it with you sometime
 
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