IS TEXTING CHEATING?

[TraumaNurseMan]

If you are engaged in text exchanges with a person of your preferred sex, but are keeping that fact concealed from your spouse/partner/SO, are you cheating on them? The texts are simple, innocent, friendly exchanges, with no openly sexual content or undertones—nothing racy, saucy, or naughty. There is no pressing reason to hide the texting connection from your SO, yet you keep it that way.
I’m not asking that you make a moral judgement here between right or wrong , just a simple choice:

CHEATING or NOT CHEATING

Feel free to give reasons for your decision, especially if you feel strongly about the issue.

I like sexting, I could get laid but really like sexting and phone or facetime. I've been married for 7 yrs and my Common Law wife and I don't has sex anymore and it was very good. She knows I sext of facetime. I really like chatting with a lot of ladies on here. One day I'm going to get on here and write one of my Harlequin short storie. I have a very vivid imagination. Written a couple and a few nurses I work with have read them and said it really got their attention and easy to hot. But no, I think it goes by where the " boundaries " are set in a relationship.

 

[Bayzapper10]

If it's what's described in OP's post, why hide it from your partner? What's there to hide?

If you feel like you HAVE to hide it, that's another conversation about communication etc.

I used to look down on monogamous couples who shared passwords etc. I used to defend the idea it's healthy to have secrets (& I think it's true that most people have at least one or two). But a friend of mine recently said "imagine if your wife had a locked safe in your house that you weren't allowed to know the combination to or ask about? Even if it was full of Pokemon cards, it would be weird." & I've been musing on that a bit lately. It feels a bit like the story of Bluebeard.

I'm currently in a semi-open relationship where it's not an issue that I keep my devices locked but now I wonder if I'd rethink it if I ended up in a serious committed relationship one day.

Kinda love everything about this

 

[TraumaNurseMan]

Kinda love everything about this

My partner knows.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

If you are engaged in text exchanges with a person of your preferred sex, but are keeping that fact concealed from your spouse/partner/SO, are you cheating on them? The texts are simple, innocent, friendly exchanges, with no openly sexual content or undertones—nothing racy, saucy, or naughty. There is no pressing reason to hide the texting connection from your SO, yet you keep it that way.
I’m not asking that you make a moral judgement here between right or wrong , just a simple choice:

CHEATING or NOT CHEATING

Feel free to give reasons for your decision, especially if you feel strongly about the issue.

As you describe it ... NOT cheating. Every person is entitled to have friends, outside of their marriage/relationship.

 

[ydahecnot]

IS ALL-CAPS YELLING?

 

[Oralexplorer]

If you are engaged in text exchanges with a person of your preferred sex, but are keeping that fact concealed from your spouse/partner/SO, are you cheating on them? The texts are simple, innocent, friendly exchanges, with no openly sexual content or undertones—nothing racy, saucy, or naughty. There is no pressing reason to hide the texting connection from your SO, yet you keep it that way.
I’m not asking that you make a moral judgement here between right or wrong , just a simple choice:

CHEATING or NOT CHEATING

Feel free to give reasons for your decision, especially if you feel strongly about the issue.

If you have to hide it, it's cheating. Just own it