It's hard enough keeping a relationship with 2

[CJontherocks]

I guess I have a little bit of an insecure streak in me. I can see myself in that situation where I eventually would feel like I was competing for the attention of one or the other... or both. I sure wish I was more self-confident than that, but there it is. Maybe a few more months here at Lit will free my soul?

 

[SweetDommes]

But is it possible to be in a committed relationship with a man and a woman at the same time? Not just for the sex...but an actual loving relationship between the 3? I don't mean polygamy. (I think this is the word?)

Has anyone experienced this? What was it like? Is it still working?

Yes, it is possible ... but it does take a lot of work. The dynamics of our relationships with our boys makes our situation different from the general masses, I think, but we have to work just as hard, if not harder to keep all four of us on the same page and relatively happy about it.

 

[juliejewel]

I have a husband and a girlfriend and it's a juggling act. BUT, in the beginning it was great. It's the girlfriend that's giving me problems! I think it's all about finding the right person. So, I will keep searching because I do love the fact that I can be intimate with my husband and yet foster my love for women too. Hope this helps.

 

[ReadyOne]

In past lives, several of my primary partners have had close relationships with other people (while we were together). I too had close relationships with other in addition to my primary.

Generally, we knew the other's other partners, at least by some sort of social introduction. In other cases, we knew them for a long time, from taking the same classes in school to frequently attending the same parties, and in one case, being houseguests.

My observation here is that we never really "clicked" with any partner of our partner; certainly not enough to get undressed together, and only one clicked enough to spend extended time with.

My theory is that we chose alternates that extended our lives in some dimension not present in our primary. Since the alternate was off in a very different direction than we were, it's not surprising that we didn't find much overlap with the alternate.
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