It's Interesting

[lady_jennaxx]

Fingers crossed for that, I would be happy to help set up/moderate if there's interest! Although it would be great to have a few Lit veterans on board.

Well let's hope that invitation draws some Lit veterans willing and able to assist

 

[jaycolt]

Fingers crossed for that, I would be happy to help set up/moderate if there's interest! Although it would be great to have a few Lit veterans on board.

I think that sounds like a good plan. I would sure want to follow that group and some who would be in it.

 

[ReaperW]

I’m counting on you being right about that Supercollider

I agree, perhaps they could create two rooms; one for DF/SM and one for DM/SF. Could be a nice way to cultivate a community of like minded people (further cultivate anyway).

I like the idea but it's very hetronormative, and therefore actually possibly more divisive than inclusive. The Bdsm forums have some nice threads specifically about femdom but I think perhaps starting some topics with df/sm might be a way to get more from that point of view. I might have a look later and start a thread or two this way.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I like the idea but it's very hetronormative, and therefore actually possibly more divisive than inclusive. The Bdsm forums have some nice threads specifically about femdom but I think perhaps starting some topics with df/sm might be a way to get more from that point of view. I might have a look later and start a thread or two this way.

Thanks ReaperW

 

[Eloquent_Hedonist]

I like the idea but it's very hetronormative, and therefore actually possibly more divisive than inclusive. The Bdsm forums have some nice threads specifically about femdom but I think perhaps starting some topics with df/sm might be a way to get more from that point of view. I might have a look later and start a thread or two this way.

That’s an excellent point Reaper! I didn’t think of that. A broader femdom thread could solve that problem, the more the merrier!

I’ll keep an eye out for those threads

 

[lady_jennaxx]

That’s an excellent point Reaper! I didn’t think of that. A broader femdom thread could solve that problem, the more the merrier!

I’ll keep an eye out for those threads

I'm excited about potential progress

 

[teohamilton]

Deployed Soldier (Dom)

Hi,
I am a deployed Soldier. Looking for a female sub to do my bidding.
Help me pass these long hours.
Pm me.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Hi,
I am a deployed Soldier. Looking for a female sub to do my bidding.
Help me pass these long hours.
Pm me.

Thanks for your service but you may want to create your own thread for this request

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Summer Sunday bump *

 

[ChasBozwell30]

Great thread. I'd like to chat with more women about these themes. About submission, role play, fantasies, ideas etc. Never the easiest subject to broach...!

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Great thread. I'd like to chat with more women about these themes. About submission, role play, fantasies, ideas etc. Never the easiest subject to broach...!

Nice to see you Chas

 

[ChasBozwell30]

Nice to see you Chas

Always a pleasure to see you x

All of your threads are VERY good reading. Hope you've had some interesting replies! x

 

[ThePhun1]

I find it hard to put out a personal stating that I am seeking a dominant female because in many ways it can be taken out of context. I would like a dominant female, but it is not always centered around bdsm or humiliation which it seems so many take and run with.

Pain and bondage can be fun and pleasurable, but it is not the constant I seek. Certainly it adds some excitement, but there are many more avenues to find pleasure in as well.

I would like a dominant female in my life, but one that varies and seeks a wider range of pleasure for both of us. One that is dominant in clearly describing what it is she wants, desires and needs. And then making sure that her man clearly carries out her directions and works to serve her to those ends.

I’d be willing to talk more about this for further clarification.

The power exchange is what does it for me

 

[SteelPoint]

That there regularly seems to be a plethora of men claiming to be dominant who are looking for submissive types (male or female), yet the same can't be said for dominant females.

I think that needs to change. If you'd like to discuss, feel free to PM.

Yawn.

I do believe the French exclamatory "Quelle surprise!" would be appropriate here.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Yawn.

I do believe the French exclamatory "Quelle surprise!" would be appropriate here.

Thanks for sharing.

 

[Eloquent_Hedonist]

Yawn.

I do believe the French exclamatory "Quelle surprise!" would be appropriate here.

I think most Lit users are aware of the practicality issues related to female dominants being public with their identities (spam and whatnot) but I believe the spirit of Lady Jenna's original statement, and please correct me if I'm wrong, relates to how these issues can be addressed or minimised in the hopes of fostering an environment where female dominants feel comfortable 'in the open'.

EH

 

[SteelPoint]

I think most Lit users are aware of the practicality issues related to female dominants being public with their identities (spam and whatnot) but I believe the spirit of Lady Jenna's original statement, and please correct me if I'm wrong, relates to how these issues can be addressed or minimised in the hopes of fostering an environment where female dominants feel comfortable 'in the open'.

EH

Yawn again.

Predictable, self-ingratiating c- - p.

There is one reason and one reason only for the greater preponderance of Doms as compared with so-called "dommes".

We all know what it is and, when it's a total doddle to be anonymous online, we all know it has sweet FA to do with "being public with identity".

 

[Eloquent_Hedonist]

Yawn again.

Predictable, self-ingratiating c- - p.

There is one reason and one reason only for the greater preponderance of Doms as compared with so-called "dommes".

We all know what it is and, when it's a total doddle to be anonymous online, we all know it has sweet FA to do with "being public with identity".

I'm just going to assume whatever 'one reason' you're referring to is just some reductive heuristic, and since you don't seem to be genuinely engaged in the subject matter I'll leave it at that to make way for more productive responses to this thread.

Side note: The whole 'yawn' thing was over in 2009

EH

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I'm just going to assume whatever 'one reason' you're referring to is just some reductive heuristic, and since you don't seem to be genuinely engaged in the subject matter I'll leave it at that to make way for more productive responses to this thread.

Side note: The whole 'yawn' thing was over in 2009

EH

EH...such a dear

 

[SteelPoint]

I'm just going to assume whatever 'one reason' you're referring to is just some reductive heuristic, and since you don't seem to be genuinely engaged in the subject matter I'll leave it at that to make way for more productive responses to this thread.

Side note: The whole 'yawn' thing was over in 2009

EH

And... yawn.... "reductive heuristics" to you, too. With a side helping of fried onions.

We who have the difficult task of living in the real world actually know why more men are dominant than women. That reason doesn't sit well with "equality" and political correctness but, as they say, there you go...

Those who wish for their own reasons to engage in cosying-up-to-the-OP tactics can engage in dissimulation until the cows come home. That won't force black to become white. The rest of us will get on with actual life rather than fantasising...

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Your Ladyship

Perhaps I can rescue your thread from the pointless sarcasm.

I have in the past been struck by the fact that you seem to be almost unique in your open and active posting from the female dominant perspective. I know of other dommes, but I can't think of any others who post regularly.

I think these points have been made, but I may be able to pull them together a bit. Which I hope will justify me concluding with a question for you:

1. Simple supply and demand. There are lots more men to start with in these fora. And I think that, in our culture, the submissive male is the most likely to hide his tendencies, to have few socially acceptable outlets for his interests, and to be likely to hide them from his partner/spouse. There is a lot of shame associated with being a submissive male. That is why a professional domme can command high compensation.

2. Since the sub males are so prolific in advertising, dominant females can search for a type that appeals without having to advertise.

3. Many of the sub males on this forum are pretty half-assed subs. Like me, I have a vanilla marriage, and I'm not willing to commit too much of my life exploring these desires. I would think that many domme's would find this to be off-putting.

4. Finally, as has been said, and related to all of the above, a domme like yourself who puts herself out there in this forum must be simply inundated with males seeking to attract her attention. This happens to any woman on here who expresses any kind of sexual interest. For a dominant woman, given the number of sub males seeking attention, it must be overwhelming.

Again, none of this is terribly original, but I hope it helps to move this discussion forward in a productive fashion.

Now, if i may ask you. If it is not presumptious of me to presume (which it of course is by definition), may I inquire as to why, despite all of these considerations, you have become such an active participant in these fora?

mike

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Thanks, Mike, for the very well stated (and much appreciated) explanation

To answer your question simply, I'm stubborn. As long as I have been on the site, one would think I should be jaded, impatient and just plain ornery, lol. Yet if there is one thing I've learned is that there is always something positive to be gained if you choose to maintain that mindset.

So since I refuse to give up on the fact that I can and will find what I want, here I shall remain

 

[Blankman13]

Thanks, Mike, for the very well stated (and much appreciated) explanation

To answer your question simply, I'm stubborn. As long as I have been on the site, one would think I should be jaded, impatient and just plain ornery, lol. Yet if there is one thing I've learned is that there is always something positive to be gained if you choose to maintain that mindset.

So since I refuse to give up on the fact that I can and will find what I want, here I shall remain

Not to post in another one of your threads, but I have also found it rather difficult to find a dominant woman, especially one that isn't just mean, but actually dominant.
There is a fine line between dominant and controlling, and just controlling and mean, and some unfortunately fall onto the wrong side of that line...

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Not to post in another one of your threads, but I have also found it rather difficult to find a dominant woman, especially one that isn't just mean, but actually dominant.
There is a fine line between dominant and controlling, and just controlling and mean, and some unfortunately fall onto the wrong side of that line...

I agree and also believe that's one of the reasons it's difficult to find someone to truly understand and appreciate it.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Thanks, Mike, for the very well stated (and much appreciated) explanation

To answer your question simply, I'm stubborn. As long as I have been on the site, one would think I should be jaded, impatient and just plain ornery, lol. Yet if there is one thing I've learned is that there is always something positive to be gained if you choose to maintain that mindset.

So since I refuse to give up on the fact that I can and will find what I want, here I shall remain

I think that the best bet at getting other dominant women to post, then, would be for YOU to encourage them to do so. To explain that you find it useful and valuable and rewarding, and that it is not an insurmountable problem to delete and ignore the weenies who do not interest you.

Something like" From one dominant women to others: why I post on LIt and why you should too."

Hope you decide to give it a shot.

mike