Ladies who have had threesomes,

[Matthew Vivion]

Ladies who have had threesomes, how did the situation arise? Was it a planned or a spontaneous thing? Was the reality as good as the fantasy? I've talked to my girlfriend a lot about having a threesome with another woman, and although she gets hot fantasizing about it, she has little interest in actually doing it. However, she has encouraged me to seek out a threesome with two other women to satisfy my curiosity. She doesn't want to squelch my fun just because she's not into it. What is a good way to make a threesome happen? I would, idealistically, like both women to be strangers. A threesome is not something I would ask any close female friends to do. Any advice? Do you have any thoughts or experiences at all about threesomes that you would like to share?

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[SlickTony]

Yeah--why doesn't anything like this ever come up for me?

Oh, yeah, that's right--because IRL I live in a place where most of the people I know are people I go to church with.

 

[Bandit58]

I had my first and so far only threesome last year with an older guy I was seeing casually and a lady he contacted on a personals site. I had never met her before that night. It was a planned meeting, he was going overseas the next day and he had an expensive hotel room booked so we decided we'd make the most of it.

The reality was definitely as good as the fantasy.....I now know that I am not just curious but I need the sexual contact with women. She was a lovely lady, a couple of years older than me but we were of similar build and my friend said he enjoyed watching the contrast of my white skin and her light brown (she was Polynesian). We were all very at ease with each other which surprised me because I'm usually shy with people I don't know, but I'd waited so long for the opportunity that I just went for it

I would be interested in doing it again, but would also love to have a one on one with a female preferably one I am friends with already. It is nerveracking for me to have sex with a total stranger, my older friend was keen for us to hook up with another couple but the thought of having sex with a man I just met - no way and I told him so. It's funny that I wasn't afraid of doing it with a woman I'd just met though

My friend organised the whole thing, through the initial contact right through to picking her up and bringing her to the room and taking her home again later that night. He chatted online to her for about a month before, I never met her but he did send me pics of her to see what I thought.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you. If you do decide to go through with it, remember the communication with your g/f......make sure it's really what both you AND her are happy with A fantasy isn't worth losing a relationship over

 

[Matthew Vivion]

Bandit58,
Thanks for the reply and advice. It sounds like your experience was really nice. I'll keep looking for that opportunity.

 

[Noor]

I have been involved in a couple threesomes, a FFM with my best friend at the time and her bf, a FMM with another close freind and his best friend. I knew all these people very well for years and we were very close.

My best friend and I also tried it with a guy we met at a conference in DC once, he was good looking and smelled really great but when she climbed into bed with us next to me, he freaked and took off I guess two long haired hippish redheads was just too much for him but seriously he couldn't take our interaction.

I think you just need like minded people with whom you are comfortable. I am more comfortable with all friends than strangers.

 

[Mskey]

My only experiences with a threesome has been MMF with a very good friend of mine and hubby's. Yes it was good and yes I would do it again, but for me it was as good as it was because I did it with a very dear friend. I don't think that I could ever be intimate like that with a total stranger.

 

[shmily]

I have had several
My first FMF - my boss had asked if he could bring a lady friend over. When they got there we had a drink and talked about several things - they finally asked me what I thought about a 3some with them - I was at the time willing to try most anything so we did. It was different. Very enjoyable. I had never been with another woman but really enjoyed it. It was a few years later before I had the opportunity to experience another woman.

 

[Matthew Vivion]

My best friend and I also tried it with a guy we met at a conference in DC once, he was good looking and smelled really great but when she climbed into bed with us next to me, he freaked and took off I guess two long haired hippish redheads was just too much for him but seriously he couldn't take our interaction.

I can't imagine "two long haired hippish redheads" being too much. I wish I had that opportunity.

I think you just need like minded people with whom you are comfortable. I am more comfortable with all friends than strangers. [/B][/QUOTE]

With friends, is it ever strang afterwards. Or, would it be a little weird if a friend said no to the invitation. I'm kind of a loner that doesn't have many really, close, intimate friendships. I have buddies and friends but none that I'm that close with or that attracted to . I will consider the friends route, though. I just thought it would be a cool experience to have with strangers and only have that one memory of them. I dunno.

 

[Matthew Vivion]

My only experiences with a threesome has been MMF with a very good friend of mine and hubby's. Yes it was good and yes I would do it again, but for me it was as good as it was because I did it with a very dear friend. I don't think that I could ever be intimate like that with a total stranger.

Another vote for doing it with friends. Thanks for the advice. But what I wonder, is how did the threesome situation come about and was it ever strange relating to your friend afterwards?

 

[Matthew Vivion]

I have had several
My first FMF - my boss had asked if he could bring a lady friend over. When they got there we had a drink and talked about several things - they finally asked me what I thought about a 3some with them - I was at the time willing to try most anything so we did. It was different. Very enjoyable. I had never been with another woman but really enjoyed it. It was a few years later before I had the opportunity to experience another woman.

How did the second opportunity of a threesome arise?

 

[Mskey]

Another vote for doing it with friends. Thanks for the advice. But what I wonder, is how did the threesome situation come about and was it ever strange relating to your friend afterwards?

A long and complicated story but I'll break it down to the necessary bits and pieces.
The friend and I had feelings for each other that we had never acted on out of communal respect and love for our mutual friend- namely my husband. Neither one of us had any desire to hurt him and neither one of us had any desire to jeopardize what was an incredible friendship by screwing it up with a "relationship". Some years later in my marriage hubby and I were discussing threesomes and the idea of him watching me and me being watched while having sex. The idea was a turn on for both of us but we agreed it wouldn't be a good idea to try anything with some random pickup at a bar or such and so I suggested our mutual friend. Hubby knew all about the attraction we felt for each other and thus the threesome was born.

It wasn't ever strange relating to my friend afterwards but by the same token we discussed the idea to death before we did anything more then flirt with each other. We knew what was allowed and anot allowed and we made sure everyone was sober and of sound mind when it happened and we talked it to death some more afterwards. I do love the man in question a great deal, in fact he is the only person other then my husband I ever considered spending my life with. My husband loves him too. They are as close as two men can be to each other in a heterosexual relationship. The mutual love and respect the three of us have for each other is the reason the threesome worked out as well as it did. I still see the man in question as often as possible and we remain very good friends.

 

[PrincessHoney]

i've never had a full on threeway - but did give an x a great birthday present by tying him to a chair so he could watch me and a female mate getting it on...

needless to say that i spent the night f**king him after she left...

3sums are hard cos of jealousy tho... so beware!

 

[Pinmonkey]

Ladies who have had threesomes, how did the situation arise? Was it a planned or a spontaneous thing? Was the reality as good as the fantasy? I've talked to my girlfriend a lot about having a threesome with another woman, and although she gets hot fantasizing about it, she has little interest in actually doing it. However, she has encouraged me to seek out a threesome with two other women to satisfy my curiosity. She doesn't want to squelch my fun just because she's not into it. What is a good way to make a threesome happen? I would, idealistically, like both women to be strangers. A threesome is not something I would ask any close female friends to do. Any advice? Do you have any thoughts or experiences at all about threesomes that you would like to share?

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If your girlfriend is cool with you have two other woman and not involving her, so with professionals. Go to a brothel, tell them what you want and let them take over. No feelings getting hurt. No fuss, no muss.

 

[Noor]

With friends, is it ever strang afterwards. Or, would it be a little weird if a friend said no to the invitation. I'm kind of a loner that doesn't have many really, close, intimate friendships. I have buddies and friends but none that I'm that close with or that attracted to . I will consider the friends route, though. I just thought it would be a cool experience to have with strangers and only have that one memory of them. I dunno.

It wasn't strange with my friends afterwards, although it did some ways strengten our bonds with each other. To me sex is a form of intimate communication so my friend's attractiveness was not relative, besides once I really like someone I seem to automatically like how they look, it's just part of them.

 

[Matthew Vivion]

I dunno

My dilemma is a little tricky in that my girlfriend doesn't want to be involved. If she were interested in having a threesome, then we could maybe add one of her close friends to the mix. I need to find TWO women who are interested in having a threesome. Would it be strange for them if they knew each other or more strange if they were strangers? It's difficult to know how to set this thing up and where to start, ya' know?

 

[sultresweetie]

There were a variety of circumstances involved in the 3somes or group sex sessions I have been involved with. It was easier when I was in college to meet people in the same frame of mind when it comes to sexuality. I think it has more to do with the people that I enjoy being around. Personality makes all the difference. I'm also like Mskey, in the sense that I would rather engage in this activity with people I love and trust.

My first FFF was with my very best friend that I was in love with, and her boss, who was a much older woman and recently divorced. I wrote a piece about that session, I'm not sure if it is appropriate to post it here...
Her boss was the person to initiate the 3some. I think it was the most erotic I ever had, and the only one that I actually had an orgasm. I find 3somes are too distracting for me to orgasm.

My first MFF 3some was with a married couple. They had to coax me for 6 months to talk me into it. I was 16, and I was afraid that it would be disrespectful. It was not how I was raised. However, I liked both of them and did it as a friend. Unfortunately, it was the male partner that had issues afterward. He felt like he had betrayed his wife (even though she was laying right next to me and had facilitated it) and our relationship was never the same. He was afraid to be alone with me under any circumstances, and our relationship ended shortly afterward.

My first MMF 3some was with my very best male friend and his roommate. My male friend was gay, but was comfortable enough with me that he could have sex with me. It was a bit of a ego boost knowing I was the only girl he could get it up for...
His roommate was bi-curious, and I sorta played the "translator". LOL. This session was so much fun, because I have somewhat of a fetish watching gay men have sex...perhaps because of the aggressive, testosterone induced fucking...lol.
We both sucked him off at the same time -it was so fucking hot... *sigh*

It might be easier for you to hook-up thru online groups like yahoo and MSN. There are a lot of communities out there for people just like you that are actively persuing 3somes and group sex. I will tell you now though, that it is MUCH easier for women to be accepted in this type of scene. If you can befriend a female that is into this, then she can introduce you. It is too bad that your wife doesn't feel comfortable with it, because single men are not very welcome in a lot of these communities.

Good luck!
Sultresweetie

 

[lovechild27]

its cool your gf wants you to be happy...but its really hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that a woman who loves you wants you to sleep with other women...maybe your just a lucky guy....


but good luck to you!

 

[Matthew Vivion]

its cool your gf wants you to be happy...but its really hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that a woman who loves you wants you to sleep with other women...maybe your just a lucky guy....

Very lucky...There is a lot of love between us and never any jealousy.

but good luck to you!