Ladies, your perfect passionate night?

[Voodoo Child]

Ok, I have been goin out with a girl for about 5 months now and we are both virgins. we have done the foreplay but we're waitin for the perfect night cause we both want it to mean something. how does this scenario sound? i really want this to be special for her..

Start of the night with a candlelit dinner, drink some wine and then nestle down on a rug in front of the fireplace. then after the initial "petting", move onto oral where i use mr g's technigue of g spot along with clitoral which i've used before with great success and then move onto the sex(she already broke her hymen) and then back to some oral and then letting her fall asleep in my arms..

I've read enough on literotica about technique, i just want to set the mood perfectly. i'd appreciate some of the women on here describe there perfect night of passionate meaningfull sex.
thanks

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I really dont know where to begin to describe anything about a perfect night. It's something that just happens. The most amazing night I've ever had ended up not including intercourse at all. And in the end is making me want to return the way he made me feel more than anything. I cant wait for that opportunity.

 

[JRaven]

It's what the two of you make of it

It matters less what you do, more about why you do it.

I would suggest that you make sure you have anything that might be needed handy. Condoms, lube, a grate in front of the fireplace to keep any hot sparks from burning her tits, your balls. No matter how hot that spark may be, it will quickly cool any romance! Have a box of kleenex handy for any clean up. Adding a wet towel on a plate under the coffee table could also be handy. Don't worry about toys at this point. They can cum later.

But above all else, remember that you're doing it as an expression of the love that should already be there.

Jenny

 

[Glistening Girl]

I would add to take your time. Knowing good techniquie is of course very important but not as much as reading her body signals.

Remember to look into her eyes often, stroke her cheek and hair. Whisper sweet romantic words.

Also have a good time. Laughing together is a great way to break any uncomfortable feelings.

Be gentle, just because her hymen was broke doesn't mean there couldn't be pain. Mine was broke in a bicycle accident and I had lots of pain my first time having sex.

 

[Xt4cY]

just for the record i'm a guy...

I don't know about Mr. Gs technique, cuz if u are both virgins and haven't done it, might ruin the evening by probing ur finger around it and if she doesn't know what u'r doing might cancel the whole thing all together
as far as the rest don't be too cliche...
for example instead of bringing her some roses bring like 2 or 3 bouques..and give only one at a time...be a gentleman...kiss her hand when you meet her....try doing something both of you would enjoy and have alot of fun...maybe even a little tiring...then once you get home do a picnic in front of the fireplace....food can be fun and do alot of forplay stuff...to the point where both of you can't hold back..only then move towards sex..and even then extremely slowly...feel every beat of her heart, every twinkle in her eye...because you can never have a second first time..enjoy it take it all in with one kiss at a time

 

[phoenix1224]

I really dont know where to begin to describe anything about a perfect night. It's something that just happens. The most amazing night I've ever had ended up not including intercourse at all. And in the end is making me want to return the way he made me feel more than anything. I cant wait for that opportunity.

 

[thrity]

good for you

you both are a gifted, really know how to enjoy sex.
if i were you, i couldn't help me from doing it as soon as possible. how can you keep cool?

btw, mostly, the first times would not be as enjoyable as we may expected.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

*kisses your nose*




another thing to add to the thread.... since it's the first time, you may want to consider having some lube nearby. it may be necessary to have that little bit extra when you do finally go for it.

 

[Voodoo Child]

cheers, some good ideas about the lube but i dont wanna seem too prepared for this. Is there any sort of natural lube? i dont precum at all really so thats not an option. As for Mr G's technigue, I've used it before but not in the her kneeling over pillows, again I dont wanna make it seem too prepared and without feeling cause its not the sexual act thats important but the intimacy and feeling of it, its hard to explain. its like "I wanna make love with you", not "I wanna fuck you".

 

[Willing and Unsure]

there's nothing wrong with having a bottle of lube sitting in a drawer nearby. I dont think that would come off as seeming too prepared. And it's not so much for you, as it is for her. I can guarantee she'll most likely be nervous and that may cause her to not be too wet from it. I dont konw of any natural lubes off the top of my head, but others may. Keep in mind too that you might want to use a condom too (you can get pregnant the first time.... it happened to my mother).

As far as the rest of it goes, maybe just go for an evening of trying to make her feel good. It's the little things that add up, like opening the door for her, pulling out the chair, etc. I would suggest maybe after a night out sitting home with a movie, give her a back rub. Just think of the things that you think she would like, and she most likely will. There's already a lot of good suggestions here, so try to mix them up some to have your own ideas going for the night.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

its not the sexual act thats important but the intimacy and feeling of it, its hard to explain. its like "I wanna make love with you", not "I wanna fuck you".

and continuing what I said originally off this statement, you can have the feelings you want while being prepared for everything.

 

[Voodoo Child]

i never really thought about what u said about the small things, i'd always be gentleman like but if i pay attention to the small things, then it shud be that much better for her. i can see what thrity meant about first time not being what its expected to be, thats why i'm happy to see so many helpful suggestions to make it as good as possible

 

[H0wl]

Lube is always good.

Definitely a good idea to have lube around. If you don't need it then you never have to let her see it

Going slow is good. Kisses are good, especially in places where she might not expect to be kissed (backs of her knees, inside of the elbow, the wrist, the small of her back).

Every time you look at her make sure she can see how much you love her AND how much you want her.

It's okay to be silly, to laugh and giggle. First times can be awkward so if that helps you break the tension then great!

Pay attention to the way she sounds, to the way she reacts to your touch. If she's comfortable with it ask her to show you how she would touch herself. Thats a great way to learn what she likes.

Have fun

 

[sheath]

Talk to her. Nothing beats communication to make sex absolutely incredible. Ask her what feels good, tell her what feels good to you, tell her what you love about her (and we're not talking about just her body, though that is a plus...).

Technique doesn't matter a bit unless you're both comfortable.

S.

 

[curiousjen]

I don't think you should have so many expectations. Its hard not to on the first time, but honestly its these high expections of rolling orgasms and long bouts of passionate lovemaking that (imho) are usually something you work up to over weeks, months and years and not something that simply clicks into place first time. Just expect to get a little closer, and aim for a more emotional connection. My first time was ruined by my partners high expectations of mulitple orgasms etc, when really the technicalities of sex isn't really what the first time is all about. If you are in love, its about getting closer. Its a rite of passage that can be scary as well as rewarding- things can go wrong. Be grateful that you've got each other to help you through it. and i agree with everyone who says communication is the key. Don't want to scare you, just be aware that it probably will be very different to how you imagined it to be, and you'll be fine.

 

[Voodoo Child]

Unbelievable!!!!!!!

My girlfriend just left and we just did it! so much for planning it. i left this thread up on the computer by mistake and she came into my room to get her phone and she seen the page. When she didn't come back straight away, I went into my room and she was sittin there readin the thread. She was almost in tears after readin how much i loved her and was like "why dont you show me what you learned!" i went down on her for about 45 mins and then we did it. it was so amazin and i'm glad we didn't need lube cause i hadn't got a chance to get it yet! then i went down on her again after i came (btw, we used protection) and after i made her cum again from oral, we "made love" so to speak. it was nice and slow with a lot of kissing and feeling, better than i could have imagined! we lay there for a while talking in each others arms but she had to go to work which was a pity. just as she was leavin though, she said "now you have somethin cool to tell the people on literotica" so here i am!

thx for all the tips even if the big plan of a nice dinner and us in front of the fireplace didn't happen, it was still down to her seein literotica that started the best evenin of my life

 

[thickspear]

I'm chuckling and almost as happy for you as you are...good job..so you had a real life experience and you're gratified and happy..that's about as special as it gets...certainly as much as anyone has a right to expect on the first time..

ts

 

[Voodoo Child]

i just cant get over that this site has not only told me everythin i kno about sex whether it be weird or wonderful but also instigated the loss of my virginity! maybe i should get her to look through this site, who knows what she could find out about herself

and yes i am very happy about myself right now. we both really enjoyed it and it was as perfect as it could have been

 

[H0wl]

Good

Glad you have such a cool GF and you both enjoyed your first time.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I'm glad it all worked out for you. Now you can always take some suggestions that you got here to use in the future....

 

[thrity]

Re: Unbelievable!!!!!!!

My girlfriend just left and we just did it! so much for planning it. i left this thread up on the computer by mistake and she came into my room to get her phone and she seen the page. When she didn't come back straight away, I went into my room and she was sittin there readin the thread. She was almost in tears after readin how much i loved her and was like "why dont you show me what you learned!" i went down on her for about 45 mins and then we did it. it was so amazin and i'm glad we didn't need lube cause i hadn't got a chance to get it yet! then i went down on her again after i came (btw, we used protection) and after i made her cum again from oral, we "made love" so to speak. it was nice and slow with a lot of kissing and feeling, better than i could have imagined! we lay there for a while talking in each others arms but she had to go to work which was a pity. just as she was leavin though, she said "now you have somethin cool to tell the people on literotica" so here i am!

thx for all the tips even if the big plan of a nice dinner and us in front of the fireplace didn't happen, it was still down to her seein literotica that started the best evenin of my life

sounds great!
i guess you would never forget this very day!

 

[Voodoo Child]

I officially have a sex life!

we did it again today but we ended up in the shower together with me holding her up around the wall like in the movies. not very romantic but it was good fun. Maybe i should start a thread "My Sex Diary" so I can tell everybody about what I do each day since i have a 100% record so far!

 

[Voodoo Child]

btw, it was her birthday present!

Im 19