Late Night Lesbian Boredom

[Night_Jasmine]

BBQ in this town is more smoked meat. No chopped beef. I swear, next time I'm back where my dad lives, I'm stopping at Gator Junction for a chopped bbq beef sandwich.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

BBQ in this town is more smoked meat. No chopped beef. I swear, next time I'm back where my dad lives, I'm stopping at Gator Junction for a chopped bbq beef sandwich.

You just made me seriously crave teriyaki beef jerky.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

That sounds good too!

 

[Etoile]

FWIW, my mom takes Lyrica for her fibro. She says it's like waking up feeling like you've been hit by a minivan instead of a Mack truck. Gives her terrible memory problems though, but she feels the pain reduction is worth it.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I'm on that now...no relief at all. I'm glad she's getting some from it. Expensive stuff!

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I have no idea where else to make this post.

I'm feeling more than a little frustrated...I figured the best place to put this was my own thread. Maybe someone has some insights and ideas.

I rent from parents on a monthly basis, as well as paying for the extra charges I incur on the electric bill due to my laptop and dryer use. I buy my own groceries, purchase my own monthly bus pass, buy my own clothes, and do all the same for mine and Luna's 16 month old daughter. I do everything I can to avoid taking/borrowing anything from my folks, with a couple of exceptions.

When I was accepted into AmeriCorps, I understood that I would be working 8 hours a day, 4 days a week, and sometimes extra on the weekends. I asked my mother if she would be willing to babysit. She said yes. Apprehensive though I was about leaving my daughter with her all day, I really financially do not have another option at this point in time.

There are times I cannot be present for my daughter's various medical appointments, and so I have had to sign a consent form here or there allowing my mother or father to take my daughter to her appts. Again, not really a problem.

My daughter was in the hospital for the first seven months of her life. My mother made it a point to be there at the Ronald McDonald House with me 24/7, constantly in my face and in my business. She yelled at every nurse at the hospital, made more than one of them cry, and was required by the head of the hospital to have more than one meeting due to her inappropriate conduct. Most mothers would be there to be a support system, not someone who stands around criticizing everything their child does, from the time she wakes up in the morning to the time she goes to sleep.

It's long been understood in this family that my mother is unstable. She refuses to have a psychological evaluation because she says there is nothing wrong with her. She adamantly calls ME crazy and says I must get it from my father's mother. She has bizarre moods and behaviors and habits. She constantly will refer to my daughter as 'her baby', i.e. "Oh, yes, this is my baby." She is disrespectful and has no regard for any of the things I ask her to do or not do when it concerns my child. My parents have a mean, previously abused pitbull/boxer mix who snapped at my daughter recently. The dog got no reprimand. In fact, the dog received loving baby talk. My daughter however, "should not have been in the way."

All of this among other things....I'm about to lose my mind. I need to know what the hell I can do. Is there special family housing for families that have kids with special needs? I need to know. I need resources. My daughter and I need OUT. FAST.

We live in Chicago...a big city which should have resources...and I haven't found anything along the lines of what I'm looking for yet. Maybe I've looked over something.

 

[androgEros]

Trinique_Fire:: I am so sorry to read about your situation.
My love and support go out to you, and your family.

Your best bet, to get out of your mother's house, is to go to your local branch of Illinois Department of Children and Family Services.

Go to http://www.state.il.us/dcfs/otherServices/index.shtml
Scroll down, and read about "Cash Assistance and Housing Locator Service"

Contact the local branch:

Chicago Headquarters
100 West Randolph Street 6-200
Chicago IL
60601
312.814.6800
TTD 312.814.8783

Inquire about applying for TANF (temporary assistance for needy families). You may qualify for Diversion, or another similar program. Diversion, in my state, may make a one time a year, payment of up to $1500.00, to move a family from unsafe housing, into stable housing.

Department of Family Services is the best, single, resource. They will help you find resources, if you don't qualify with them.

Best of luck. Keep us updated.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Thanks Androg.

I did a quick Google search after reading your post and came up with the Mercy Housing website. Among other things, they help special needs families find affordable, safe housing. Clearly I'll be making a lot of phone calls tomorrow. I'm loath to apply for TANF because it requires a lot of red tape and hoop jumping.

I'll let you know what I find out about Mercy Housing.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Good luck on that Trini

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Good luck on that Trini

Thanks Jazz.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Welcome...

I'd also suggest to your dad about getting her help since she's causing so much trouble. There are ways to do it if she's proving to be a danger.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Welcome...

I'd also suggest to your dad about getting her help since she's causing so much trouble. There are ways to do it if she's proving to be a danger.

He's as bad as she is. And to think, he's a social worker. His advice has always been something along the lines of "Don't let her get to you," and "Just don't upset her."

Dysfunction reaches whole new levels in this family.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Then the best thing for you and your little one is to pull as far away as you can before it affects you even further. *hug*

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Then the best thing for you and your little one is to pull as far away as you can before it affects you even further. *hug*

Indeed. Luckily me and my daughter are on our own today until about 6 pm, so I can make my phone calls without anyone overhearing. I'll be calling all the Mercy Housing numbers and seeing what they offer and what kind of deals/discounts they can provide. Here's hoping I can have something in the works before I have to go back to work on the 5th.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Another thing to look into..most states have a daycare plan to help out working moms.

 

[lightsaver]

Oh God...you sound like me!!

Have you ever eaten iceberg lettuce and mashed potatoes? SO GOOD!!

Iceberg lettuce & (cheesy) mashed potatoes rank up there with french fries and cole slaw for me.
Both are delicious.

 

[androgEros]

*stops in to say a prayer for Trini*...."amen"