Lifestyle question Rings.. should I wear them?

[FataMorgana]

From forum porn spammer, to relationship guru.

Hahaha.

 

[CandiCame]

And if I were coming to your house to watch a sporting event with your friends. What would you say?

I mean... I'm just gonna be honest.

I wouldn't notice. It wouldn't enter my mind.

I know that probably doesn't help, but I do think most folks aren't super observant. And even if they did see a ring, people wear rings all the time and aren't married. Like that could be your granny's ring that got passed down to you or something for all they know.

 

[Noor]

I'd wear them. I am always myself.

 

[Noor]

I'd wear them. I am always myself.

 

[seeshelly]

The ring thing

I think we would all agree that the concept of a wedding ring is part of social symbolism. But it seems clear that there is a diversity about what the symbolism really is. Some assume that the ring means that both you and your husband agree to be monogamous. But that may or may not be what you have agreed to and what your ring symbolizes. In many parts of the world polygamy is common and the symbolism of a wedding ring does not mean monogamy. That is true historically as well. In fact many people that are offended by polygamy today spring from ancient descendants of Abraham. Abraham's wife Sarah asked her husband to copulate with a servant girl, Hagar, to produce offspring. There is not a whisper of rebuke from God in the account. Following that many of the champions of these religions, like King David, had many wives and concubines. The religious law that he lived under permitted such unions. But somehow today many people have been trained to march to the beat of monogamy. The fact is that both male and female human's crave sexual variety and are capable of loving more than one person at a time. So, if your ring means monogamy to you and your husband and you are sleeping with other men then your ring means nothing. But if you and your husband agree to your enjoying sexual variety then the ring still means you are his wife and that he agrees to share you as per your agreement. Thus your ring symbolizes something different than what it might symbolize for others. The men I fuck all know that I am married and that my husband is aware of our relationship and approves of it. So I keep my ring on.

 

[Conager]

I was told that the point of a nice, snug wedding ring was to cut off circulation.

 

[Debbie]

If you are in an open marriage perhaps for the event pop them on other fingers if that makes you feel more comfortable?

 

[phrodeau]

I would leave your wedding rings on. Men are attracted to something "they cant have". I think you will find that you will be the bell of the ball whichever you choose. Enjoy your time watching Football.

Although, one might find that a ring makes one invisible.

 

[Mtnmike]

I think we would all agree that the concept of a wedding ring is part of social symbolism. But it seems clear that there is a diversity about what the symbolism really is. Some assume that the ring means that both you and your husband agree to be monogamous. But that may or may not be what you have agreed to and what your ring symbolizes. In many parts of the world polygamy is common and the symbolism of a wedding ring does not mean monogamy. That is true historically as well. In fact many people that are offended by polygamy today spring from ancient descendants of Abraham. Abraham's wife Sarah asked her husband to copulate with a servant girl, Hagar, to produce offspring. There is not a whisper of rebuke from God in the account. Following that many of the champions of these religions, like King David, had many wives and concubines. The religious law that he lived under permitted such unions. But somehow today many people have been trained to march to the beat of monogamy. The fact is that both male and female human's crave sexual variety and are capable of loving more than one person at a time. So, if your ring means monogamy to you and your husband and you are sleeping with other men then your ring means nothing. But if you and your husband agree to your enjoying sexual variety then the ring still means you are his wife and that he agrees to share you as per your agreement. Thus your ring symbolizes something different than what it might symbolize for others. The men I fuck all know that I am married and that my husband is aware of our relationship and approves of it. So I keep my ring on.

Well said, you and your husband are a very lucky couple, to know and accept each other unconditionally

 

[ronmcc2448]

And if I were coming to your house to watch a sporting event with your friends. What would you say?

Leave them on!

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Although, one might find that a ring makes one invisible.

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[suurfer]

So at the moment, it seems that the polyamory contract works for both married partners:
they both date +/- form emotional bonds with other people, while the primary source of nurture and life is their home.



But my prejudices about polyamory are these:

1. There's a chance that one spouse gradually starts forming better bonds with their date.
So then what happens, when the balance shifts and the spouse becomes no.2?

2. People get more settled as they age and it's quite likely that one spouse would decide to become monogamous. Earlier than the other.
-- This change of worldview will lead to either divorce, or to them staying in the marriage because the still polyamorous partner is controlling and domineering. If they truly loved their partner and saw them as equal, they'd give up polyamory too.

 

[suurfer]

I would leave your wedding rings on. Men are attracted to something "they cant have".

Like pics. of 19 years old, that men in their 60's spam a discussion board with?

 

[RobDownSouth]

Like pics. of 19 years old, that men in their 60's spam a discussion board with?

Oooooh mark your calendars, folks. Hashie scores a direct hit for the first time in recent memory!

 

[suurfer]

Oooooh mark your calendars, folks. Hashie scores a direct hit for the first time in recent memory!

It's not the content of porn threads that irks me.
The board is actually more relaxed and entertaining with pornsters or Prof Gavs. around.

But Ronmcc purposefully chokes all other voices by spamming the board, 20 thread bumps in a row, twice a day.


He's an entitled asshole who trips on other people.
Not a victim or a champion of freedom of speech. Like he&the AM pics fans so disingenuously characterize him.

 

[suurfer]

What 20 twice a day? Well over 25 porn thread bumps, in one go.
And there are days when he spams the board three times a day.

 

[georgerb]

Blushing thank you.. to your first part..

My date just texted me back. There will be 10 people there. 3 married couples (men and women) 1 gay male couple, and 2 single men (both divorced) he wasn’t sure if then were bringing any one with them..

I asked him if I should wear my rings. His reply was. “I’m not sure anyone would even notice.”

Haha.. I love men.. I wanted to reply. “Trust me everyone is going to notice.”

Yep. Without a doubt.

 

[old_hippy_46]

My wife dates other men, most of our married life together. She has gone out with either the wedding ring on, or at times off.
The ring ON gets the strongest response from potential suitors. She follows up with a conversation about how her husband doesn't satisfy her.
That comment puts guys over the top, they work hard to impress her.