Long Distance Love

[silkynsmooth]

Hi - need input please....How do you make a long distance relationship work. I have 2 friends that love each other so much yet they are countries apart.

I would like to hear from any that have or know of anyone that has overcome that big obstacle of being in different countries.

Any and all suggestions are appreciated.

 

[Neftoon_Zamora]

This is an awesome thread with a lot of great info and input. It's kind of long, but there is some great words of wisdom there.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/sho...d=54172&highlight=long+distance+relationships

I'm also in a LDR, with a man half a world away. It's not easy, but do-able. Takes love, patience and understanding.

Good luck!

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Hey Silkie and Neftoon_Zamora

Sign me up to this thread. OK Neftoon what country are you dealing with. Mine is Oz.

Peace,
Tulip
Hugs to you Silky

 

[Neftoon_Zamora]

Re: Hey Silkie and Neftoon_Zamora

Sign me up to this thread. OK Neftoon what country are you dealing with. Mine is Oz.

Peace,
Tulip
Hugs to you Silky

<sighing> Germany.

Time Zones suck.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Neftoon_Zamora

I hear you about time zones. Now what about phone bills?

I am thinking there are positives that yours is in Germany and negatives. It is a beautiful country. One problem is language for you unless you speak german. The flight from NY for me wouldn't be that bad as compared to oz, but either way it gets frustrating. Somebody has to give some how. One or both has to sacrifice things if one or both moves.

A friend of mine married a German woman in the states. Unfortunately the dynamics in the relationship had changed. He has given me suggestions that burn within my mind from time to time. If I move to Oz I would be solely reliant on aussie. At least for a while. The language is not a problem unless I turn on my shrill nanny voice.

It is amazing how I have learned about international marriages. It seems like laws at that have been changing. To get married in the states one has to be 100% sure before the other arrives here. You have to get a fiance visa and get married within 9 months. The person would then have to leave and be re admitted within the states. If you change your mind or have a fight or whatever and do not get married in that time you cannot reapply for another five years. So basically you have to make sure of it all.

I know for me if I make this step there are many things I have to consider. I am a United States citizen and proud of it. I want my children to be citizens also. Some countries offer dual citizenship. Some do not.

When I was in Germany two summers ago I know they were looking for work force. They seemed to be very welcoming to others that had certain occupations. It did not seem getting a visa there would be difficult.

Sigh!

Hugs to all!

Peace,
Tulip

 

[Gil_T2]

Re: Hey Silkie and Neftoon_Zamora

Sign me up to this thread. OK Neftoon what country are you dealing with. Mine is Oz.

Peace,
Tulip
Hugs to you Silky

But I've seen you 2 together and know you will be in each others arms again soon ....... .......OK so it isn't soon enough but it will be really.

I think you should fly into Sydney and stay where you stayed last time too.

I'm counting on it being a very LONG term relationship too as you are both great people.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Hugs Gil

He is my best friend! I cannot seem to find the words to explain what I am feeling but I can relate to the fear element. Something has to give and hopefully it is not the relationship. I just hope that we are both strong enough for this.

So anybody out there that has done the cross international country relationship thing and it worked?

Peace,
Tulip
Gil you are a great person too sweetie. Muaaaahhhhhh!

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Hugs Gil

He is my best friend! I cannot seem to find the words to explain what I am feeling but I can relate to the fear element. Something has to give and hopefully it is not the relationship. I just hope that we are both strong enough for this.

So anybody out there that has done the cross international country relationship thing and it worked?

Peace,
Tulip
Gil you are a great person too sweetie. Muaaaahhhhhh!

 

[silkynsmooth]

I'm getting there!

Ok Tulip - this is my 3rd post...i'm trying to catch up to you..

Come on people...dont' be shy we want to hear it all. And yes you both are strong and will make it. I am believing in that and going with it.

You need to bitch or cry or moan...call me i'm there for you.

Huggsss sweeetie...you'll get there!

 

[silkynsmooth]

I'm getting there!

Ok Tulip - this is my 3rd post...i'm trying to catch up to you..

Come on people...dont' be shy we want to hear it all. And yes you both are strong and will make it. I am believing in that and going with it.

You need to bitch or cry or moan...call me i'm there for you.

Huggsss sweeetie...you'll get there!

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Bumping thread....

so others can post.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Bumping thread....

double post jeessshhhh sorry about that folks at least it is getting bumped again.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[Vapidness]

Only done it once, was amazing when we were together but apart for long periods was hurtful.

My honest advice is think VERY carefully, try to use your head and not just your heart, because you can end up putting yourself under more pain and stress than it's worth, and that may sound cold but you really have to understand the situation. People who do the long distance thing for long periods will understand what i'm talking about.

Sorry realised it was really that relavant, but might be useful to someone for later

 

[graebeard]

hmmmmmmmmmm !!!!

Interesting topic........ close too my heart.... so to speak.....
gil my sentiments excactly....... ^5.....

Tulip.....fancy meeting you here.....lol

Grae

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Vapidness

thank you and it is relevant. Long distance thing is very strainful. Your heart wants to be with that person but it is not a reality in being together in the physical sense. Family, friends, work and things come into play. You want to jump but then the responsibilities come into play. Some days you question is it all worth it? Will it happen? Will it happen fast enough? When finally together did we waste all that time worrying over nothing? So many emotions hit from time to time.

Again somebody has to make a sacrifice. Somebody will ultimately give up everything they know to relocate if that is the path they will choose.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[graebeard]

hi vapidness...........a fellow aussie on the boards....ye haaaaa...lol

i hear what your saying..... it is a hard thing to do......

Grae

 

[graebeard]

hi vapidness...........a fellow aussie on the boards....ye haaaaa...lol

i hear what your saying..... it is a hard thing to do......

Grae

 

[silkynsmooth]

Thanks for your input Vapidness. The head and the heart working together can hopefully prove this can happen. If the two want this bad enough then problems can be solved and move forward to get to that spot together.

It's a very big move....but well worth it I would think, no I do know especially for these two.

Grae - heyyyy good to see you here. How about some enlightenment on what you would do, hypothetically of course *wink wink*

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Grae you

see so many emotions about. It is inevitable. Sigh. I think so many of the heart cause the heart is missing that important physical contact and prescence.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[graebeard]

ok.... when some posts a reply.......how do you see it.......without leaving the page?????

Grae

 

[graebeard]

ok.... when someone posts a reply.......how do you see it.......without leaving the page?????

Grae

 

[tulip2lipservice]

What are you asking Grae?

1. You just read what the person responded back to you and reply.

or

2. You hit that quote button on the bottom and type in response to a thread.

I hope I answered your question.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[graebeard]

not rally tulip.......... but thanx for the reply.... Hugssssssssss

Grae

 

[graebeard]

ok.... i'm bringing the hugs in here with me.......lol

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((( TULIP )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


Grae TULIP TULIP TULIP

 

[silkynsmooth]

Hugs are good anywhere and I believe this one will make me a NON-virgin now....woooo hooo. Feels good now!!!

Wait where did these 2 kids come from, <shrugs> oh well who knows.

Happy Happy day everyone.