looking for a mentor...

[still_wondering]

EDIT: I think I' going to go ahead and call this thread closed.

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I've been in and out of literotica for quite some time, but decided I should stop being so selfish and get involved instead of just reading.


I was in an online BDSM relationship about 6 years ago that ended very poorly. I didn't know what I was doing as a new sub and I got myself into a situation that was terrible for me physically and emotionally, that ended with suffering (on both sides, I suppose).
For the past 6 years I've stayed away from anything having to do with BDSM, I'm in a completely vanilla relationship, and about 6 months ago I had a realization. I realized I'd been hiding from what happened instead of getting over it (as I assumed I had). Lately I think I've realized, also, that BDSM wasn't the problem, and that it had maybe been right for me.

Right now I just want a little companionship while I get my bearings again, nothing serious. I just want to figure out somethings for myself, and if it goes farther than that, so be it...

I guess I really just need someone to lead me through this, not so much a relationship. Friendly mentor-ship? That looks dumb, but perhaps makes sense?

Feel free to ask me to clarify anything, I'm still working on transcribing how I feel about all of this.

-C

 

[troubledone]

I've been in and out of literotica for quite some time, but decided I should stop being so selfish and get involved instead of just reading.

I was in an online BDSM relationship about 6 years ago that ended very poorly. I didn't know what I was doing as a new sub and I got myself into a situation that was terrible for me physically and emotionally, that ended with suffering (on both sides, I suppose).
For the past 6 years I've stayed away from anything having to do with BDSM, I'm in a completely vanilla relationship, and about 6 months ago I had a realization. I realized I'd been hiding from what happened instead of getting over it (as I assumed I had). Lately I think I've realized, also, that BDSM wasn't the problem, and that it had maybe been right for me.

Right now I just want a little companionship while I get my bearings again, nothing serious. I just want to figure out somethings for myself, and if it goes farther than that, so be it...

I guess I really just need someone to lead me through this, not so much a relationship. Friendly mentor-ship? That looks dumb, but perhaps makes sense?

Feel free to ask me to clarify anything, I'm still working on transcribing how I feel about all of this.

-C

You need to switch your PMs on

 

[still_wondering]

*blush*

Thank you for letting me know.

 

[BehaviorMod]

Sent you a PM little one; I hope you find time to read it and respond, at least to say one way or the other of your interest. Or lack there of I wish you luck in finding someone to help guide you through all this; it can certainly be difficult.

 

[SpiritRider]

As long as it centers on the friendship part of you looking for a mentor I'll gladly help with any questions you may have. Won't pretend that I know everything and if I don't know the answer I'll be direct and say just that.
PM me if you wish.

 

[loves2spank]

i have just sent a pm to you

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

Good luck.

 

[still_wondering]

Good luck.

Thank you!

 

[vigilant_vixen]

Good luck

I hope you find what you're looking for