Lost in Illinois....(bondage virgin)

[Soulfiregirl]

- EDITED - KEEP READING FURTHER DOWN TO SEE WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR.

 

[ILL-thoughts]

Hello, I too am from illinois, and am interested in bondage related activities. Ill be honest, i have little real life experience (light bondage with ex-girlfiends, light spanking ). I would be interested to communicate with you, perhaps if we mesh we could some time down the road meet in person, and if not it never hurts to have an online acquaintance.

btw im 27 and male, with a dominant preference, but i could be open too switch possibly. If You're interested in communicating, feel free to drop a line in here, or pm/e-mail me.

ive borrowed ur eyes long enough, sweet dreams

and i hope your surgery goes well!!

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Hello, I too am from illinois, and am interested in bondage related activities. Ill be honest, i have little real life experience (light bondage with ex-girlfiends, light spanking ). I would be interested to communicate with you, perhaps if we mesh we could some time down the road meet in person, and if not it never hurts to have an online acquaintance.

btw im 27 and male, with a dominant preference, but i could be open too switch possibly. If You're interested in communicating, feel free to drop a line in here, or pm/e-mail me.

ive borrowed ur eyes long enough, sweet dreams

and i hope your surgery goes well!!

Thankyou kind sir. (where do you live in Illinois just out of curiosity?) No hurry.

 

[ILL-thoughts]

You're quite welcome.

I'm from Decatur, do you know where that is? Where are you from?

 

[Dom68005]

Close to Chicago?

If you are close to Chicago, there are a number of organizations. This list is not comprehensive, but will gvie you places that you may meet in a social setting without getting static.

http://www.galleriadomain.org/Munches.asp

Similar groups exist around the world.

 

[envymyc5]

28/m/naperville

anyone close?

 

[xxfactor]

31 male in Chicago

 

[blondeandtan]

erotic email exchange

Hey soulfiregirl,

I, too, would love to have email correspondence with you. Not interested in traveling and meeting-at least not for now. I have little experience, but am well-read on bondage, etc. Email me if you'd like. I am a 38 year old guy and am great-looking.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

You're quite welcome.

I'm from Decatur, do you know where that is? Where are you from?

Wow, you're way down by Springfield. (I'm way up north in Lake County...north of Chicago)

Damn, that's the problem with putting up an ad. It's hard to localize it you know? That's why I tired Yahoo Personals last year when I met my ex because you can narrow it down by zip code. But a lot of other sites don't have that feature. (not the kinkier ones like this one anyway) It's kind of hit or miss as far as "meeting" someone who lives closer. If I didn't have constant car problems, I wouldn't have to be so damn picky about the distance. Sorry guys.

I have to keep putting little "updates" in this thread because I honestly don't want to waste anywone's time if I "meet" someone on here eventually and we decide to actually persue things. So, if I seem picky about the distance thing, it's because I have to be. (I have to family members who live with me so even if someone could "meet" me at my place eventually I have no privacy)

Goddamit this sucks. Maybe I shouldn't have bothered to have put an ad up in the first place since I have to be so picky about the distance. *sigh* Ah well. Thanks for the interest in my ad so far guys. I wish all of you the best of luck on your quest for finding somone.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

If you are close to Chicago, there are a number of organizations. This list is not comprehensive, but will gvie you places that you may meet in a social setting without getting static.

http://www.galleriadomain.org/Munches.asp

Similar groups exist around the world.

Thankyou Dom. I always appreciate links. I did find a group in Park City (Lake County) but they are more of a "hookup" group then support group. (and they meet in a smokey bar and I have asthma....dammit)

Yep, I'm gonna make a great dominitrix one day. LOL. Let's see, I have asthma, can't drive too far because of my car, my mom and brother live with me so I have no privacy....oh yeah, I'm just a guy's dream. LOL. Ugh.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

anyone close?

Not yet apparently. *sigh* (thanks for posting your location though. I appreciate that)

 

[ILL-thoughts]

Yeah that is a pretty far drive, Too bad you're not a little closer. Don't feel bad about not being able to meet someone closer to you yet, I'm having the same problems (minus the car one). So, I kind of know how you feel. Look at it this way, noone even responded to my personal thread. So you must be doing something right

Btw, how did your surgery go? Good, I hope

 

[Terry288]

Finding a balance

Bondage is about finding balance, finding the OPTIMUM between partners. not the maximums. Self Control; using a minimum of technique, applied slowly. The success of the bondage is determined by the value the two of you together get out of it. It is not there to please either one of you alone. Make sure you communicate honestly and well with 'whom' you play.
On a personal note I'm W/M 56 (probably your fathers' age), live in Joliet, but work throughout the six county area. Open marriage. Prefer rope. Willing to help with your understanding, with view toward safety.
PS my daughter in Wisconsin has many of your same issued. Lots of Luck.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Yeah that is a pretty far drive, Too bad you're not a little closer. Don't feel bad about not being able to meet someone closer to you yet, I'm having the same problems (minus the car one). So, I kind of know how you feel. Look at it this way, noone even responded to my personal thread. So you must be doing something right

Btw, how did your surgery go? Good, I hope

Thankyou sweetie. (sorry to hear no one replied to your ad...keep trying!) Surgery went well. Partial hysterectomy. No more cramps! Yipee!

Keep me updated on your dating progress if ya meet someone. I wish you luck.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Bondage is about finding balance, finding the OPTIMUM between partners. not the maximums. Self Control; using a minimum of technique, applied slowly. The success of the bondage is determined by the value the two of you together get out of it. It is not there to please either one of you alone. Make sure you communicate honestly and well with 'whom' you play.
On a personal note I'm W/M 56 (probably your fathers' age), live in Joliet, but work throughout the six county area. Open marriage. Prefer rope. Willing to help with your understanding, with view toward safety.
PS my daughter in Wisconsin has many of your same issued. Lots of Luck.

Wow. Well, she's lucky to have you for a dad if she needs to talk to you about these issues. (my ex lived in Joliet....small world) Thankyou for the offer but I prefer singles only. Did I specify that earlier in this thread? I bet I didn't. Dammit. I have to keep "tweeking" this ad all the time. Annoying aren't I guys? Ha.

 

[A-Heart-On]

Welcome back.....

I'm glad to see your back. Hope your feeling better.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

I'm glad to see your back. Hope your feeling better.

Hi sweetie. I'm tired but better. Back to work on Thursday. After I get all healed up, I'm going to put more energy into getting back into the dating game. I guess I am ready to start dating again. Maybe not a heavy duty relationship just yet, but dating a special someone would be nice. And now that my uterus is gone I can have lots of unprotected sex!!!! LOL. (I'm kidding, I know I still have to be careful...lots of STD's out there)

When I first joined this board a couple months ago, I figured all I could handle was pen-pals, but now that some time has gone by and I've gotten a better idea of what I want, dating someone would be lovely. But, I realize it may take a while to find someone. (especially since I seem to live so darn far away from everyone....darnit)




Just a side note to other people who reply to my ad....I dig guys who are more chatty. (I don't have to say this to girls who might reply because we women tend to be more chatty by nature...ha) If you send me a PM with just a "Hi, nice to meet you, wanna chat?"....that doesn't leave me much to work with and then I'll lose interest quickly. So for anyone who decides to reply don't be afraid to be chatty and tell me more about yourself. Because I mean damn, look at how many times I've tweeked my own ad. I'm chatty! If you want to sent me paragraph after paragraph about yourself in PM's, that's no problem. But if it takes me forever to get anything out of you, I just don't have the time or energy to "carry the conversation" all the time.

Anyhoo, that's my latest "tweek" for now. Stay tuned for more tweeks as I continue to change my fickle mind on things.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

THIS IS WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR... (Please read ENTIRE ad so that we're not wasting each other's time...thankyou)


You know I'm going to do this to help simplify things since I've tweeked my ad so much since I first posted it. That way, if anyone wants to reply, you'll have a better idea of what I'm looking for. Hope this helps.

Sex: Yes!....kidding...I'm female....duh.

What do I look like: Honestly, a bit flabby and out of shape. I need to start exercising. Brunette hair. Glasses. Green eyes. Pale skin. (yep, a white girl) Tend to dress like a dowdy librarian.

Age: 30

Height: about 5'5''

Living situation: My mom and brother live with me. (I'm supporting them due to their health problems...mom works sometimes and brother is on disability)

Location: Lake County, IL.

Occupation: Office clerk

Interests: Movies, comic books, anything sci-fi related. I'm an artist so I like erotic and pin-up art. I like to write a bit. (nothing published) Working on ideas for my own graphic novels. I like horses. I love music. I've been told by the few people who've I've let hear me that I have a decent singing voice.

What I'm like: Well, I'm bipolar (manic depressive) so I can get moody, depressed, etc. BUT, I am kind, caring, compassionate, goofy, a smartass, have a good, bent sense of humor. I'm very patient. I'm very open minded about things...especially where sex is concerned. I'm bi. (I dig chicks too) More of a couch potato but I'd like to become more active and get into better shape. I'm too young to be so damn out of shape. It's pathetic really.

Health problems: I have asthma. A bit sensitive to the sun so more of a night/indoor person. Mild acid reflux. Just get tired sometimes from my daily responsibilities.

What I'm looking for: You must LIVE in my area: Lake County, or at least the east side of McHenry County. (in Illinois that is, not Wiscsonsin, not Indiana...ILLINOIS only) I just can't afford to drive that far. (and I have a "touchy" car) Would be cool if we had similar interests. Such as sci-fi, etc but it's not a half to. I like learning new things so I'm always interesed in other things as well. Would like someone who's a little more chatty. I can be quiet and shy so it would be nice to meet someone who can bring me out a little bit. (I'm working on that myself) Ya gotta be STD free, not married, and just a decent person. Guess I'm looking for a "nice guy" who's weird like me. I would like to date someone eventually but starting with a good friendship is cool. No pressure. I have no interest in getting married and now that I'm uterus free, no kids to offer either. (if you have kids from a previous relationship, I don't mind)

What I'm interested in exploring sexually: Bondage. It's taken me a bit to learn this but I'm not into S&M. I'm also not really into an intense sub/dom deal. If we practice the sub/dom deal I'd prefer it to stay in the bedroom only. I'm not looking to live an entire sub/dom lifestyle. I just want kinky sex in the bedroom. Now, having said that, if you want me to "dominate" you in the bedroom or visa-versa, we switch, that is perfectly fine. That would be fun. I mentioned using a strap-on with someone earlier as a fantasy but it's not a requirement. If it's something you'd enjoy trying, cool. If not, no biggie. It's the bondage that I'm craving. Being tied up, or tying you up, etc. Being chained to someone while they spank me and/or drag me around or I do the same to them. Hair pulling, oral sex, spanking, sex toys, masturbating each other, watching each other masturbate, watching porn together...those are my interests. I really enjoy playful sex. It doesn't always have to be so intense for me. I don't need a "mind fuck" to get off. I just want nasty, dirty sex. Dirty talk is good too. I love leather. If you like the idea of me decked out in a dominatrix outfit while I pull you around on a leash, then I'm your girl! Or, you do the same to me. I love the leather outfits they make for men now. So hot. I love collars. Whips, riding crops. Oh, and since I'm bi, a threesome could be a possibilty but I'd like to meet someone who wants to start off with one-on-one first. Maybe if you are a bi guy (or gal) that would work too? My main concern is that whoever I meet, we treat each other with respect and kindness and patience.

What am I: more of a switch then a dom or sub. I like to play BOTH sides.




Anyway, hope this helps a bit. I keep getting PM's from folks who ask me what my interests are because they haven't seen this ad, so I figure I can point them to this post and make it easier. I don't want to waste anyone's time if I'm not what they are looking for.

If you have ANY other questions, just ask. I'll be happy to answer.

 

[Guarddogg24]

hey soulfiregirl and masochistictoy I to am a virgin in this area and am willing to talk with you to share ideas and incites about it. also I already own 6 pairs of handcuffs and 4 pairs of leg shackles and I am the same as you I like the idea of bondage but am not into the whole pain aspect . Please feel free to pm me if you would like to continue conversations...

If I said you had a beatiful body would you hold IT against me
I'll try any thing once, Twice if I like it, And won't stop doing it if I enjoy it

 

[envymyc5]

hey soulfiregirl

please pm me..im from naperville...were rather close and id love to talk to you...**************** to exchange some pics.....thanks...

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[Soulfiregirl]

hey soulfiregirl and masochistictoy I to am a virgin in this area and am willing to talk with you to share ideas and incites about it. also I already own 6 pairs of handcuffs and 4 pairs of leg shackles and I am the same as you I like the idea of bondage but am not into the whole pain aspect . Please feel free to pm me if you would like to continue conversations...

:

Where do you live hon. I've got a distance rule due to my car and money being tight for us.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

please pm me..im from naperville...were rather close and id love to talk to you...*********** to exchange some pics.....thanks...

Dude, you live waaaay too far South. But thankyou for your interest. I wish you luck!

 

[tall758]

Hope you find what you're looking for

Hey Soul,

I hope you find the guy or gal to bring you into the next experience.

The kind where they will fasten your wrists above your head, and pull your legs apart. Have you ever felt honey dripping down your spine toward your crack? It drips slowly, leaving a cool trail. But when it hits bottom, there's a warm tongue waiting for it, waiting for you. The tongue licks until the honey is gone, and then it continues while the hands begin to reach around to explore the treasures found in front, from the nape of your neck, to your sexy collarbone, down your cleavage, until spreading side to side as they brush your nipples.

But you're helpless, your nipples are erect and your flesh clenches into a wild array of goose-bumps. The hands continue, they brush lightly against your ribs, down to your waist, where fingers trace light lines across your stomach toward your button. Then they go back. This continues until your stomach muscles contract and you groan for them to move downward.

But nothing has touched your pussy yet. Yes, a tongue licked honey in your crack, but nothing made it down to your lips, I wouldn't let it.

You're still helpless as I walk around to the front and kneel down to worship and tease you more. I tell you how puffy your pussy lips are, and I watch as the mosture collects near the bottom of your slit. Fingers trace your slit lightly, enought to get slippery wet, and then they rub the moisture into your inner thighs. Then a tongue appears again and tastes the mixture of pussy and thigh. Your heat can be felt as a forehead is inches away from the source of your pleasure. Enjoying the taste, the tongue begins to migrate upward, searching for the source of the treasure.

And you're still helpless. Yes, you begin to ask for pleasure, you thrust your hips at the head in front of you. But the mouth simply moves in close enough to blow hot air across your wetness. Yes, the goose bumps begin to boil again and the moisture is becoming a lake inside, but your lips remain closed, untouched until the master thinks it's time.

But, you're still helpless. You're back has the sheen of sweat and drops can be tasted between your breasts. And it's decision time. Does the master want to drink from your fountain of pleasure, or does he want to give you a small reward? Or both? I think it's time for a small reward. Yes, the master brought a small vibrator and stands to let you hear it buzz against your chest. Across your nipples as he asks if you want to cum. At first you just moan, you want it so bad, but a moan isn't going to make it happen. The master asks what you want, the vibrator sliding from breast to breast, keeping the nipples at their peak. It goes on like this until you say the words; "Please let me cum".

You're still helpless, and the master isn't cruel, he justs wants to tease. The vibrator goes straight to your pleasure pit and he holds it steady and lets you rub yourself where it feels best. At this time, he delights in watching your orgasm overtake you. He stands at an arms length and watches your eyes lose focus before closing, then your teeth lightly bite your lower lip and you submit to pleasure.

Then, master unties you and carries you to the nearest soft spot, where he delights himself with your charms.

Don't give up the search!

 

[Soulfiregirl]

Hey Soul,

I hope you find the guy or gal to bring you into the next experience.

The kind where they will fasten your wrists above your head, and pull your legs apart. Have you ever felt honey dripping down your spine toward your crack? It drips slowly, leaving a cool trail. But when it hits bottom, there's a warm tongue waiting for it, waiting for you. The tongue licks until the honey is gone, and then it continues while the hands begin to reach around to explore the treasures found in front, from the nape of your neck, to your sexy collarbone, down your cleavage, until spreading side to side as they brush your nipples.

But you're helpless, your nipples are erect and your flesh clenches into a wild array of goose-bumps. The hands continue, they brush lightly against your ribs, down to your waist, where fingers trace light lines across your stomach toward your button. Then they go back. This continues until your stomach muscles contract and you groan for them to move downward.

But nothing has touched your pussy yet. Yes, a tongue licked honey in your crack, but nothing made it down to your lips, I wouldn't let it.

You're still helpless as I walk around to the front and kneel down to worship and tease you more. I tell you how puffy your pussy lips are, and I watch as the mosture collects near the bottom of your slit. Fingers trace your slit lightly, enought to get slippery wet, and then they rub the moisture into your inner thighs. Then a tongue appears again and tastes the mixture of pussy and thigh. Your heat can be felt as a forehead is inches away from the source of your pleasure. Enjoying the taste, the tongue begins to migrate upward, searching for the source of the treasure.

And you're still helpless. Yes, you begin to ask for pleasure, you thrust your hips at the head in front of you. But the mouth simply moves in close enough to blow hot air across your wetness. Yes, the goose bumps begin to boil again and the moisture is becoming a lake inside, but your lips remain closed, untouched until the master thinks it's time.

But, you're still helpless. You're back has the sheen of sweat and drops can be tasted between your breasts. And it's decision time. Does the master want to drink from your fountain of pleasure, or does he want to give you a small reward? Or both? I think it's time for a small reward. Yes, the master brought a small vibrator and stands to let you hear it buzz against your chest. Across your nipples as he asks if you want to cum. At first you just moan, you want it so bad, but a moan isn't going to make it happen. The master asks what you want, the vibrator sliding from breast to breast, keeping the nipples at their peak. It goes on like this until you say the words; "Please let me cum".

You're still helpless, and the master isn't cruel, he justs wants to tease. The vibrator goes straight to your pleasure pit and he holds it steady and lets you rub yourself where it feels best. At this time, he delights in watching your orgasm overtake you. He stands at an arms length and watches your eyes lose focus before closing, then your teeth lightly bite your lower lip and you submit to pleasure.

Then, master unties you and carries you to the nearest soft spot, where he delights himself with your charms.

Don't give up the search!

Thankya.

 

[truecelt2]

Be yourself

Soulfire, good luck on your quest. Be patient, follow your dreams and be yourself. Forget the so-called 'experts' who brazenly define what is D/S.

That lot crack me up -- as if they have their D/S version of the Boy Scout manual and they go to the department store for their all the same uniforms. As if! And D/S has to be how they define it. Give me a break. D/S doesn't have to mean degradation, disrespect, pain and humilitiation.

Noted: to some it does and all the power to them - just not my cup of tea. I'm not telling them they're wrong. We're all different, and the trick is finding someone who enjoys the same flavor as we do. Live and let live.

D/S is whatever the individual involves wants it to be. It is to you what it is -- for whatever reason. Never apologize for what flips your switch.

I've had my own epiphany on this journey - thought I was weird, different coz I enjoyed d/s, tho back in the day I didn't know there were others who felt the same let alone there ws a name for it. Funny that. We all feel alone at times, and have no idea someone around the corner feels just as we do.

Seeking out here in SE McHenry county -- MWM 45. Not your preference but perhaps others will see this thread.

Keep looking Soul, keep casting a wide net and stay true to yourself.

Slainte'