love from a first sight?! and money....

[cecelia]

I think men can deal with it more now than they could in generations past but there are still many who feel that they must have the upper hand in a relationship and money brings a sense of empowerment.
It's amazing - and a little sad, in a way - at what money can do. I know a couple of women who entered a 'tradtional' relationship in which their role was the nurturer and peace maker. When these women came into money, they found the courage to stop taking some of the crap they'd been dealing with. Money seemed to give them confidence and a sense of independence. In one of the cases, her spouse dealt with it just fine. Their partnership became more balanced and equal and they became more open with each other. The second case involved a couple in their 40's and he didn't take to the changes as well. Suddenly, his wife was more vocal in decision making and he became convinced that she didn't need him anymore. His 'manhood' felt threatened, especially when she began buying things that they couldn't afford before and some of his friends began to tease him a little.

Generally speaking, I think that if these roles are reversed, it does change things.

 

[H0wl]

Maybe?

I'm trying to think if I've ever experienced this and I don't think I can say I have.

I've made that instant connection a couple of times, where something about the other person absolutely entrances you (and the feeling is mutual) and you just dive into the relationship without thinking about how deep the water is.

And that can lead to love, very quickly. But the connection itself...I dont think thats love.

Even when you're telling yourself to slow down, it's like driving on ice...you're out of control and physics has you in its grip and all you can do is ride it out. Which makes it sound like a bad thing. Its not. Its SO not. But it is an overpowering experience.

I've been in love and been heartbroken. I don't think theres ever been a relationship I've been in that wasn't worth the cost.