male needs advice on first time

[lingvisto]

I'm a 27 year old male and a virgin, the main reason being that I've always been painfully shy. I'm going to Europe on vacation soon, and I hope to come out of my shell a bit and maybe finally get laid! My problem is that although I've had quite a few years of practice on my own, I'm worried that the sheer newness of the situation would provoke a premature response and a bit of embarrassment. I suppose I need to loosen up for one, but any advice you all could give would be helpful and appreciated.

Thanks,
Lingvisto

 

[Willing and Unsure]

dont really know what to tell ya since I'm not a guy. The only thing really that I can say for sure is that when you do go for it, you may be a bit premature, but at the same time you may never cum. it could go either way.... just dont let it frustrate you and do what you can to please the woman you're with (she'll be begging for more if you do that)

 

[bourbonslut]

I'm sure that lots can be explained as the excitement of "vacation sex!" Just relax and a cocktail or two (no pun intended) goes a long way to relaxing and slowing things down!

enjoy yourself above all! be sweet and respectful!

 

[hogjack]

You live in New Orleans and you've never had, uh... ?

It must not be the same New Orleans I've visited a few times.

 

[human_male]

Try having a wank before you go out.

 

[princess4u]

my advice: don't worry about the premature response

a few years ago i met someone that i had chatted with for several months online - he was 28 at the time - and the first time we were together, it took very few thrusts before he "responded" - but that was ok - made me feel kind of good that i had that effect on him - and anyway, being young, i'm sure it doesn't take long for you to be ready for another round

good luck

 

[Jaded Jayne]

Try having a wank before you go out.

If you feel comfortable, tell her. Maybe she can make it a much less stressful event for you.

I've had my share of virgins *cough*slut*cough* and it's been the same every time. Kinda quick. Okay, really quick.


I think it's interesting that you've waited this long and now you want to go boink someone you don't really know. Maybe that's just the "mom" in me.

Have fun, whatever you decide. And don't forget your galoshes. (two of 'em)

 

[lingvisto]

Thanks everyone for the tips and support.

 

[notthemouse]

To be honest...quick doesn't bother me as long as there is a round 2. Just means you'll last longer the second time around. But I think a 'fair warning' is in order...maybe if you hook up...you could get a little head and cum and then be more relaxed...spend some time getting her excited and before you know it you are ready for a nice not quick round 2.