Male strapon advice

[lovablo]

Been trying to talk the wife into a strapon for years with no luck. she thinks that they are only for Gay men or women. I am trying to convince her that they are for anyone that feels that desire. She thinks that there would be nothing in it for her. Any advice is greatfully appreciated. please help me with any reasons that she should also enjoy it.

 

[Typo Fu Master]

There are strapons available that are designed to pleasure both partners. The Feeldoe is an example. It even comes with a vibrating version and there are several sizes to choose from.

 

[CristinaRobo]

There are strapons available that are designed to pleasure both partners. The Feeldoe is an example. It even comes with a vibrating version and there are several sizes to choose from.

The one criticism with the Feeldoe (vibrating version) is that the little bullet vibrator is terribly difficult to remove from the Feeldoe once it's fully inserted. Picking at it with a fingernail or an implement resulted in the battery cap coming off with the other half of the bullet still lodged in the Feeldoe. I felt that this was poorly designed. And to my thinking, the Feeldoe itself was grossly over-priced. I also thought the vibrator was not very effective. Certainly not as much as the one on my $20 toy.

 

[sunandshadow]

The Share is the other one I hear recommended along with the feeldoe. But man, if you've clearly expressed to her that you love the feeling of a toy up your butt and she's not interested in even attempting to use one on you once, you're probably out of luck.

Do you use toys on her? if you did then a direct trade might make it obvious what she was getting out of the exchange.

 

[The_Good_Sub]

get her drunk?

 

[CristinaRobo]

get her drunk?

Maybe he'd like to solve his predicament with thoughtful conversation and some give and take instead of resorting to alcohol and trickery. Heaven forbid that he might actually come upon that as the best solution.

 

[silverwhisper]

sunandshadow quoth:
if you've clearly expressed to her that you love the feeling of a toy up your butt and she's not interested in even attempting to use one on you once, you're probably out of luck.

sadly, i think that's likely correct--if that's something you've clearly expressed to her.

if she isn't interested, that's obviously problematic and i'm not sure how to try to resolve it. she wouldn't be interested in trying it, even for your sake? although considering that she said there was nothing in it for her--despite your obvious interest--i'm wondering how well you guys communicate in general.

ed

 

[Eilan]

She thinks that there would be nothing in it for her.

Not even the satisfaction of knowing she was doing something to please her partner?

 

[Shadowann2]

Maybe he'd like to solve his predicament with thoughtful conversation and some give and take instead of resorting to alcohol and trickery. Heaven forbid that he might actually come upon that as the best solution.

Quoted for truth!

sadly, i think that's likely correct--if that's something you've clearly expressed to her.

if she isn't interested, that's obviously problematic and i'm not sure how to try to resolve it. she wouldn't be interested in trying it, even for your sake? although considering that she said there was nothing in it for her--despite your obvious interest--i'm wondering how well you guys communicate in general.

ed

I'm inclined to agree. There isn't much I'm not willing to at least try with my partner, if he expresses to me that that he is really into doing it. I may not continue if I don't like it after we've tried it once, but I'd be willing to give it a shot. Unfortunately, not all women are like me. If you have talked it over, expressed to her that you would really like to try this and you think it will bring you great pleasure, and she's still not willing to give it even one shot, I think you may just be out of options. Most partners gain pleasure from giving their partner pleasure, but if she doesn't function that way, and believes there is nothing in it for her, I don't know what else you can say.

 

[trb2216]

it took my wife a while to give it a try, but once she did she liked it.
we bought a nice strap-on that has a vibrating egg in the front pouch for her to grind against. after she got off on it a couple of times she started to come around, so to speak.

 

[MissMDS]

I completely agree with Shadowann2's reply.

If it gives you pleasure, I don't understand why she won't indulge you. When my husband has a request, "what do I get out of this?" is not the thing I'm thinking.

I hope you can find a way to effectively communicate your desires and her unwillingness to try something new.