Manipulating women.

[Guest]

I misunderstood. I thought you wanted the wax.

And yes, some guys do wax their "bikini" lines. Not so much me. But if I did.. the help would be for the hard to reach spots, I suppose.

hmmm, yeah, and for the burning aftwerwards.

Maharat

 

[THROBBS]

hmmm, yeah, and for the burning aftwerwards.

Maharat

I'd say "skip the waxing and go right to the soothing"

 

[THROBBS]

ANYWAY...
I know that I will always be manipulated by women... and for the most part I gladly accept that, but my tolerance has greatly diminished for this particular woman's "brand" of manipulation.

 

[starrkers]

There's something about good looking people who know they're good looking and exploit the effect that can have on others which totally turns me off.
The arrogance of assuming normal mortals will fall at their feet for a smile just burns me.

 

[gauchecritic]

Laying it on the line often works.

I find you sexually attractive, I would be willing to flirt outrageously with you, but there will never be anything more than that.

Finding the right time to actually say that (either directly or circumspectly) is like trying to find the right time to ask a sexually catholic, right wing mysogenist "Have you ever been with another guy?"

 

[jomar]

Nice work there for awhile Throbbs - you threadjacked your own thread. Can one even do that?

 

[gauchecritic]

Nice work there for awhile Throbbs - you threadjacked your own thread. Can one even do that?

When you're already in Cuba...

 

[THROBBS]

Nice work there for awhile Throbbs - you threadjacked your own thread. Can one even do that?

waxing at jacking, I do it all.

 

[THROBBS]

When you're already in Cuba...

Do as the Cubans do?

 

[rgraham666]

That's one of the nice things about being off the market.

Since I'm no longer interested in what's offered I can't be manipulated that way any more.

I hope.

 

[WRJames]

When I was in business school, back in the late 70's, I had this very attractive friend (female, blonde, tall, thin) who had this very disconcerting habit of rubbing -- I would be having a conversation with her, and she would just start to rub against me, like a cat would. As she was rubbing, she would talk about her boyfriend, she knew I was married -- and she rubbed against other guys, also, it seemed to be totally unconscious on her part.

Well, we had worked on a couple of projects together, and we were really quite good friends, apart from the rubbing. She graduated a year ahead of me and went off to work for a publishing company in downtown Boston. She offered me a chance to come in a do some programming for her, and I thought it would be a great way to puck up some experience for my resume. So, one evening, the two of us are alone in this computer room in downtown Boston, and she starts the rubbing thing again.

 

[xssve]

Lot's of women do it, a lot of guys too I'm sure - I dont mind flirting, I dont even mind being teased a bit, if they do it, and I know it, and they know I know it, it's just a game, it's being sociable, in an edgy sort of way.

The ones I watch out for are the ones that don't seem to know that I know it, or don't care, they don't pick up on the cues, it's not just banter it's a power thing: they're convinced their power is irresistable, and they're going to get very upset about it if you prove resistant, often vengeful.

This one sounds like she's already starting to feel vulnerable, time is running out on her if she's been getting by on looks, it's the price of being superficial. The midlife crisis thing, some people will just crank it up more than others.

You can always just act like a gentleman, smile and play stupid. She might think you're a dork, but it will usually deflect these types if they're trying to play you, she'll look for bigger game.

 

[xssve]

When I was in business school, back in the late 70's, I had this very attractive friend (female, blonde, tall, thin) who had this very disconcerting habit of rubbing -- I would be having a conversation with her, and she would just start to rub against me, like a cat would. As she was rubbing, she would talk about her boyfriend, she knew I was married -- and she rubbed against other guys, also, it seemed to be totally unconscious on her part.

Well, we had worked on a couple of projects together, and we were really quite good friends, apart from the rubbing. She graduated a year ahead of me and went off to work for a publishing company in downtown Boston. She offered me a chance to come in a do some programming for her, and I thought it would be a great way to puck up some experience for my resume. So, one evening, the two of us are alone in this computer room in downtown Boston, and she starts the rubbing thing again.

Yes, go on.


What? You're stopping there?!!!

 

[UberGutterSlut]

im intrigued myself

 

[THROBBS]

Lot's of women do it, a lot of guys too I'm sure - I dont mind flirting, I dont even mind being teased a bit, if they do it, and I know it, and they know I know it, it's just a game, it's being sociable, in an edgy sort of way.

The ones I watch out for are the ones that don't seem to know that I know it, or don't care, they don't pick up on the cues, it's not just banter it's a power thing: they're convinced their power is irresistable, and they're going to get very upset about it if you prove resistant, often vengeful.

This one sounds like she's already starting to feel vulnerable, time is running out on her if she's been getting by on looks, it's the price of being superficial. The midlife crisis thing, some people will just crank it up more than others.

You can always just act like a gentleman, smile and play stupid. She might think you're a dork, but it will usually deflect these types if they're trying to play you, she'll look for bigger game.

This woman does not get by on "looks alone"... She just plays that card extensively. It does not work on me, she may not be aware, but the things I do for her, I would do regardless of her cleavage. I am less likely to do something "out of the blue" for her., as she has enough men who fall over themselves for that.

The thing that I hate; is the of "trading sexuality" for "favors".
If the flirtation is given freely without expectation rather than as means to get something, then I enjoy it.

Related is the wife who withholds sex because her husband didn't do such and such... or rewards him if he does this and that.

I do enjoy seeing her ass in tight jeans or her deep plunging shirt with a push up bra. I might even say "nice tits", but I'm not going to fall all over and jump when she calls because of it. In fact I am less likely.

 

[SensualCealy]

One quick comment can put her in her place, "Honey (or what ever name you want to use) you know you are good looking, and we know you are good looking, but beauty fades, brains are forever!"

C

 

[WRJames]

Yes, go on.


What? You're stopping there?!!!

Hmm -- maybe I should ask for opinons as to what happened next. It was winter, and I was dressed for the cold, in heavy pants and a sweater, but it seemed very warm in that little room. It had a copier or two in it, and this huge device that they were going to use to read the results of standardized tests -- you known, the ones where you have to use the number two pencil and fill in the circle for the correct choice. We were going to use that to read the surveys. But it was excruciatingly slow -- it took about five minutes per page to chew its way through the scan.

Anyway, she iwas rubbing away, I guess, almost as if we were lovers dancing, but I wasn't holding her, just bracing myself enough that I wasn't knocked back by the pressure of her body against mine, and we were talking as if nothing were happening -- talking about business, she talked some about her boyfriend -- she did make one remark about how she thought the cleaning staff might be coming in soon.

 

[xssve]

I'm just teasing ya' man. Some of my most cherished encounters were near misses, often with totally inapporopriate potential partners.

 

[WRJames]

I'm just teasing ya' man. Some of my most cherished encounters were near misses, often with totally inapporopriate potential partners.

Well -- see my story Texas Mermaids for my thoughts on the subject. Actually, I've had a few comments from people who missed the point of that one -- that it's a story about a "near miss".

 

[THROBBS]

One quick comment can put her in her place, "Honey (or what ever name you want to use) you know you are good looking, and we know you are good looking, but beauty fades, brains are forever!"

C

More the pity. She is quite smart.
She "pulls out the big guns", when it is not necessary.

Maybe she knows beauty fades and is trying to make the best of it while she has it...?

 

[SensualCealy]

More the pity. She is quite smart.
She "pulls out the big guns", when it is not necessary.

Maybe she knows beauty fades and is trying to make the best of it while she has it...?

Hmm, beauty and brains, this one is tough. Obviously she is like the black widow spider, reels them in with her looks and nails them with her brains! It's too bad that she seems to need to use her looks to get people to notice that she has the brains to go with it.

C

 

[THROBBS]

Hmm, beauty and brains, this one is tough. Obviously she is like the black widow spider, reels them in with her looks and nails them with her brains! It's too bad that she seems to need to use her looks to get people to notice that she has the brains to go with it.

C

Not too big a deal, really.
I don't have to work with her too much. Mostly just cross paths in the building.

If I have freelance work involving her, I just "put my head down and do it". <<(heehee nobody would read anything into that!)

I am not looking for "solutions". I was mostly venting and attempting to articulate my annoyance.

 

[xssve]

Well maybe it works for her, I dunno. I'd say if you it's making you resentful, then you aren't entirely immune.

Not making accusations, just noting that you're probobly not going to alter her behavior, unless it's through some change in your attitude - maybe she like seeing you flustered, or whatever effect it is she elicits from you.

The best way to deal with a tease is to tease back - I tend to do so mercilessly, not always the best route maybe, there are still women who never look at me any ways but sidelong. Still, too easy and she might think you're interested then wonder why you don't make your move - in which case she'll probobly just end up disgusted with you.

Just be careful you don't end up with a harrasment suit if you foolishly choose to take my advice in this matter.

 

[SensualCealy]

Not too big a deal, really.
I don't have to work with her too much. Mostly just cross paths in the building.

If I have freelance work involving her, I just "put my head down and do it". <<(heehee nobody would read anything into that!)

I am not looking for "solutions". I was mostly venting and attempting to articulate my annoyance.

OKay, so just take her to the storage room and lift her skirt and do her, then turn to her and say, " that wasnt so bad".

Im kidding, you know that!
C

 

[THROBBS]

OKay, so just take her to the storage room and lift her skirt and do her, then turn to her and say, " that wasnt so bad".

Im kidding, you know that!
C

She always wears pants! See how difficult she can be???