Married Men who are bi-sexual, bi-curious, pan-sexual, demi-sexual, and more...

I didn't become bi curious with age; I was born that way. As soon as I became a sexual being in my teens, I started wanting to touch and suck cock long before I was intimate with a girl and started feeling submissive in my sexual roles with young males and all my life with men. I've had great relationships with gfs and with two wives who accepted and encouraged my choices ...and shared their lovers with me and mine with them.
 
My wife and I have fantasized about me sucking and being sucked. Turns us both on but haven't acted on it. Something soo sexy about a female being involved. Seducing, teaching helping etc. BTW love the profile pic xdressissytoes. Do you like them massaged? Sucked on?
Yessss....love sexy foot play.....you may suck every toe and massage me all you desire....but it is going to make me very horny to suck your cock....especially in front of your wife!

Pm me.....I promise to be a dirty piggy for you both!!!!!!
 
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What a great thread this has been. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in trying to navigate these feelings I've had for as long as I could remember.

Warning, this long so the TL;DR version is - I'm still not sure where I fall.

I was pretty unpopular throughout my adolescence. No significant girlfriend through high school and entered college as a very horny, frustrated virgin. Aside from having explored some crossdressing alone (panties, leotards, swimsuits, etc) I had practical no significant sexual experiences. (Thank you religious oppression in addition to extreme awkwardness)

In college I ended up having a relationship with my roommate after he gave me my first orgasm that I didn't give myself. Over the course of that year I became his cocksucker and wearing lingerie and other things he's being back from the form laundry after I admitted to doing that for years. He did want to make love to me but my shyness asserted itself and I never took that leap (huge regret).

Despite my attempts to actually date women, I didn't finally lose my virginity until I was out of school, somewhere around 22 years old.

I managed to have sex with two women before marrying the third. None of them were especially kinky or playful and I was conditioned after years of failure to just accept what I could get. That thinking led to my current sexless marriage because I just got used to being told "no" repeatedly until she told me one day that she can live without sex and since she can, so should I and that was how it was going to be. (Kids have kept my in place... That's what I didn't leave... Not to mention, in just learned to accept little to no sex as normal)

I had previously suggested toys (tame things like dildos, vibrators, etc) but was told I was weird or that was stupid.

So how do I define myself? I still have no idea. I love women and dream of pleasuring them. I also enjoyed pleasing a man, giving him orgasms and being his girl. I still wear panties (in secret) and have a plethora of kinks and fetishes id love to explore but doubt I ever will.

Wow... That was a dreadfully long post. Sorry about that.
 
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It's funny that I have had bi-curiosity for years, all the way back to before I married my first wife. I never acted on it though. We divorced and I remarried and my wife and I have always had a fabulous sex life. With a kink here or there. We relocated to Tennessee and made some new friends and found that one couple were swingers and at a holiday gathering they had other friends there that they had been swinging with. The hostess not so discreetly made it clear to me she had fucked every man in the room but me. Nothing happened that night and although we kissed and made out a few times and planned to meet up it has never happened. But what did happen is my wife and I started talking about our sexuality and perhaps engaging in an open marriage where we could explore our desires. She had previously talked to me about wanting to fuck another man, or perhaps 2 or more at a time. I was okay with the idea but hesitant to say what I wanted to explore. Finally I said to her another woman might be fun, but I want to explore my bi-curiosity. To my surprise she was like okay, if that's what you want go for it. I will admit to being shocked at her casual attitude at my admitting I wanted to try being sexual with a man.

Now if I could only find a man that would go past the talking stage here on lit I could see if it is really what I want. There are too many pretenders, fantasy masterbaters, liars, and cowards on Lit that are here only to play games.

If you are interested, I am thinking I am primarily a bottom, I want to experience sucking a cock and perhaps lose my anal virginity. I am located in Tennessee but can travel to nearby states as well as Illinois, Indiana, and Wisconsin. So hit me up and let's see what happens.
I am in the same position. Looking, but don’t even know where to begin. Mostly Washington state, but I can travel at times. I hope others will give suggestions, advice. Married but extremely curious
 
I am in the same position. Looking, but don’t even know where to begin. Mostly Washington state, but I can travel at times. I hope others will give suggestions, advice. Married but extremely curious
Visit a local gay bar or club ........
 
My bi curiosity didn’t start til my late 40’s. I’m in my mid 50’s now and am enjoying learning more about myself.
I don’t consider myself as gay as I love women and only want the relationship with my wife, but the male body/cock/ass are definitely peaking my interest. Overall I’m enjoying the freedom this site allows us both to have when it comes to raunchy fun, exhibitionism, and some virtual experimentation.
My wife and I were just talking about my curiosity tonight and she’s even suggested I find someone who can help guide me through the journey. She’s totally accepting of it and even suggested this one person we know. She’s bi curious herself too. It’s just another reason why we click so well. We can talk about anything together.
 
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My bi curiosity didn’t start til my early 50’s. I’m in my mid 50’s now and am enjoying learning more about myself.
I don’t consider myself gay as I love women and only want the relationship with it wife, but the male body/cock/ass are definitely peaking my interest. Overall I’m enjoying the freedom this site allows us both to have when it comes to raunchy fun, exhibitionism, and some virtual experimentation.
My wife and I were just talking about my curiosity tonight and she’s even suggested I find someone who can help guide me through the journey. She’s totally accepting of it and even suggested this one person we know. She’s bi curious herself too. It’s just another reason why we click so well. We can talk about anything together.
Having a spouse who accepts and harbors bi curiosity...... and makes sexy suggestions...... heightens the anticipation of the shared fantasies. Mmmmm......shared visions and talking dirty! We shared these same thoughts and porn before acting on our impulses......sharing a bi friend of ours.
 
My bi curiosity didn’t start til my early 50’s. I’m in my mid 50’s now and am enjoying learning more about myself.
I don’t consider myself gay as I love women and only want the relationship with it wife, but the male body/cock/ass are definitely peaking my interest. Overall I’m enjoying the freedom this site allows us both to have when it comes to raunchy fun, exhibitionism, and some virtual experimentation.
My wife and I were just talking about my curiosity tonight and she’s even suggested I find someone who can help guide me through the journey. She’s totally accepting of it and even suggested this one person we know. She’s bi curious herself too. It’s just another reason why we click so well. We can talk about anything together.
You are one lucky man !
 
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