myasianwife69
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I'd be jealous if my partner was sneaking to see people... and by jealous I mean worried about losing her. If he knows what you are up to and you are sharing, then his main worry is that you find someone you love more... unless you'd leave him for better sex. What he's offering is the chance to have some different sex to spice up what you do have. He's more than likely just worried that he's not providing you with enough spice. (or maybe knowing that other men desire you is his spice?)
Be safe. Communicate. If you don't want to do it, don't, but find a way to add the spice you want. He sounds open to anything you want to do. I'm sure Sue could give you plenty of options.
oh... and make sure HE knows how you feel about HIM straying. Letting you go do it, or saying that you can, doesn't mean that he gets a free ticket from you.
UTP... you are a very wise man... and my Robert agrees with you on all fronts as do I...
Legs... let me share something about that night when I went through with another man.. i called my husband who was waiting for me at home and I asked him if he was sure about this for I said once I hang up there is no turning back.. and do you know what his answer was?
"Honey, I love you with all my heart mind and soul... make me proud baby"
..he always said me having sex with someone else whether its male or female had nothing to do with love.. it was just pure sex between consenting adults... and its love between us that afforded me the opportunity to enjoy guilt-free the touch of another...
..it sounds like you are not ready to take the next step.. and there is nothing wrong with that.. but know this... your partner sounds like he loves you deeply and seems confident in his love to share you with others... if that love is reciprocal then the next issue to deal with is your feelings about not wanting him to explore and this is a simple matter of communication as UTP says...
... and you don't have to start off by jumping into bed with someone... fantasy is an amazing intoxicating aphrodisiac and if your partner is creative and patient like my Robert, then the two of you can enjoy so much intense passionate sessions together... from there you can go to this forum where you exchange messages, maybe post pictures .. and there is always the other safe forms of fornication - the internet chat, webcam, etc...
Hope this helps,
Sue
Julee... please share your wisdom for you also went through the same emotions/situations that I did... I'm sure Legs will really appreciate your input.