Millie's terrible day thread. You can post any and of your disappoints for the day, week, month, year, or your life.

[BelleCanzuto]

My dad died a week before Christmas, just before he'd've been 82.
I didn't expect grief to be so stealthy. The things that make me cry, or send me completely to pieces are so small. But then I'm fine for days.
I'm having a "skip work and wallow day".

 

[MrPixel]

Condolences, Belle. Yeah, it took me a couple of years to get over my Dad's passing like that. He died on Thanksgiving many years ago, while I had a heart attack on Thanksgiving 15 years later. Too spooky for my tastes.

I'm still not completely over losing him. He was a Navy veteran. I can't help but tear-up on hearing the Navy hymn, Eternal Father, Strong to Save, since it was played when I buried his ashes at sea.

 

[AlexBailey]

Our three sons are doing great, all in good long-term relationships, all with stable good paying jobs, but our daughter, now in he late twenties, has been seeing how well her brothers lives are going and has been showing signs of jealousy and depression

She has been hiding it from us as parents but a recent Holliday visit with her brothers showed she’s been falling into a rut of nightly drinking and hanging out with young men who simply want to party. It’s been effecting her work and we recently found out that she’s been drinking and driving frequently.

We’ve been pushing back against her irresponsible behavior but it’s hard to get her to listen, and as foster parents it’s probably easier for her to ignore us than if we had raised her from birth.

We’d been trying to plan a sit down talk with her but ended up getting a late night call from her house mate, saying the police had come to their apartment, looking for her in the middle of the night because her car was found to have broken a utility pole and crashed into a ravine around 1:am on some remote backroad, her cellphone was found in the car and it was well below freezing that night.

It turned out that an older couple living nearby had heard the crash and went to rescue her. They pulled her from the wreck and took her in for the night, telling her how they were both former alcoholics >20 years clean and had gone through the legal system before, so they took her in to hide her from the police then brought her to our house late the next morning just as we were filling out a missing persons report.

FFS. There are so many sides to this. Thankfully no one was injured and the property damage was limited to her car and the utility pole. Fortunately she was able to file a report within 24 hours and there were lots of mitigating circumstances for why she left the scene, so after a brief investigation icy conditions were officially blamed.


She’s completely self supported and takes nothing from us, so our points of influence over her are very little. Now we’re waiting to see if this was a wake up call or if she’ll be like her bio-mom and take it as a sign that she’s invincible.

 

[Comshaw]

Our three sons are doing great, all in good long-term relationships, all with stable good paying jobs, but our daughter, now in he late twenties, has been seeing how well her brothers lives are going and has been showing signs of jealousy and depression

She has been hiding it from us as parents but a recent Holliday visit with her brothers showed she’s been falling into a rut of nightly drinking and hanging out with young men who simply want to party. It’s been effecting her work and we recently found out that she’s been drinking and driving frequently.

We’ve been pushing back against her irresponsible behavior but it’s hard to get her to listen, and as foster parents it’s probably easier for her to ignore us than if we had raised her from birth.

We’d been trying to plan a sit down talk with her but ended up getting a late night call from her house mate, saying the police had come to their apartment, looking for her in the middle of the night because her car was found to have broken a utility pole and crashed into a ravine around 1:am on some remote backroad, her cellphone was found in the car and it was well below freezing that night.

It turned out that an older couple living nearby had heard the crash and went to rescue her. They pulled her from the wreck and took her in for the night, telling her how they were both former alcoholics >20 years clean and had gone through the legal system before, so they took her in to hide her from the police then brought her to our house late the next morning just as we were filling out a missing persons report.

FFS. There are so many sides to this. Thankfully no one was injured and the property damage was limited to her car and the utility pole. Fortunately she was able to file a report within 24 hours and there were lots of mitigating circumstances for why she left the scene, so after a brief investigation icy conditions were officially blamed.


She’s completely self supported and takes nothing from us, so our points of influence over her are very little. Now we’re waiting to see if this was a wake up call or if she’ll be like her bio-mom and take it as a sign that she’s invincible.

Alex, take it from someone who has been there, time for a family intervention. If you don't know what to do, get some advice from the people who deal with this kind of thing and confront her. It might help, it might not but I urge you to do everything you can to get her to acknowledge her problem, alcohol. Please don't wait until she finds out she isn't invulnerable. Like I said, I've been in her place and I've had to confront some of my close family members with it. I know how it feels from both ends. It's a very hard thing to do but you have to drive home to her that she isn't lost, that she is loved, that you want her to live and the only way out is to sober up. I wish I could help more but advice from my own life is all I can offer and hope that she can get through this.

Edit: I forgot to add that the people who rescued her were dead wrong. As a recovering alcoholic, I can say the one thing we all need to do to start our healing is face our mistakes and make amends. Hiding from them only exacerbates the situation. Had she not managed to successfully avoid the consequences she would have to face up to why. Like I said, I've been there. I had to make amends for some rather bad things I did when I was drinking. But it releases us from their guilt and helps put us on the right path.

I am sorry if I sound preachy, but as a recovering alcoholic it hurts my heart to see someone sliding down into that darkness. I truly hope you can get her out of it.

Comshaw

 

[AlexBailey]

Alex, take it from someone who has been there, time for a family intervention. If you don't know what to do, get some advice from the people who deal with this kind of thing and confront her. It might help, it might not but I urge you to do everything you can to get her to acknowledge her problem, alcohol. Please don't wait until she finds out she isn't invulnerable. Like I said, I've been in her place and I've had to confront some of my close family members with it. I know how it feels from both ends. It's a very hard thing to do but you have to drive home to her that she isn't lost, that she is loved, that you want her to live and the only way out is to sober up. I wish I could help more but advice from my own life is all I can offer and hope that she can get through this.

Edit: I forgot to add that the people who rescued her were dead wrong. As a recovering alcoholic, I can say the one thing we all need to do to start our healing is face our mistakes and make amends. Hiding from them only exacerbates the situation. Had she not managed to successfully avoid the consequences she would have to face up to why. Like I said, I've been there. I had to make amends for some rather bad things I did when I was drinking. But it releases us from their guilt and helps put us on the right path.

I am sorry if I sound preachy, but as a recovering alcoholic it hurts my heart to see someone sliding down into that darkness. I truly hope you can get her out of it.

Comshaw

Thanks so much for your thoughtful, relatable, and compassionate perspective.

The old couples’ actions were definitely enabling at a time when consequences were due. If it weren’t for their intervention she would have gone to jail and her whole life situation would be at an inflection point.

I’m hoping beyond reason that this was enough for her to turn the corner and that a worse rock bottom isn’t coming. I don’t know for certain but it looks like her abusive drinking is a recent thing with a new crowd rather than an addiction.

Chest pains two days later prompted a visit to the hospital where x-rays found some broken ribs. My wife spent hours in the hospital with her and had a heart to heart. She’s making plans to get out of her scene and move closer to her brothers who have always been a stabilizing influence for her. Breath held, fingers crossed.

 

[BelleCanzuto]

He was a Navy veteran. I can't help but tear-up on hearing the Navy hymn, Eternal Father, Strong to Save,

My dad, too. 20 years (we moved a lot).
Today is better, and now I'm tearful over how kind my co-workers are.

 

[MrPixel]

Well, I just received an "Oh, fuck!" e-mail. Our boarding kennel is closing as of this weekend. Long story, but the owner over-built the beautiful, new facility, and everybody 'cept her knew from the onset that the business available in our small town wasn't going to come anywhere near to making up for her costs.

So what's the problem? It leaves us locally with just one, a disgusting hole in the wall not fit for man or especially beast. Next closest is 30 miles away, and not well-suited for our medical emergencies. Our life is now even more crimped by not having someplace to board the dog that we can count on.

The closure was inevitable, but we were hoping beyond hope that her business was going to outlive our dog. Alas, it wasn't to be.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Oh, that's so sad! I guess it's a shame we keep this thread going with our little or big woes. I'm feeling under the weather again and worried the demon pneumonia is rearing its head again.

Well, I just received an "Oh, fuck!" e-mail. Our boarding kennel is closing as of this weekend. Long story, but the owner over-built the beautiful, new facility, and everybody 'cept her knew from the onset that the business available in our small town wasn't going to come anywhere near to making up for her costs.

So what's the problem? It leaves us locally with just one, a disgusting hole in the wall not fit for man or especially beast. Next closest is 30 miles away, and not well-suited for our medical emergencies. Our life is now even more crimped by not having someplace to board the dog that we can count on.

The closure was inevitable, but we were hoping beyond hope that her business was going to outlive our dog. Alas, it wasn't to be.

 

[Speshul91]

Had toothache for 2 weeks, can't see a dentist for another 3 weeks

 

[MrPixel]

Oh, that's so sad! I guess it's a shame we keep this thread going with our little or big woes. I'm feeling under the weather again and worried the demon pneumonia is rearing its head again.

Thanks, Millie.

As far as this thread is concerned, I like it because it gives us a chance to vent to our sympathetic friends on AH without invoking the gray clouds over the coffee shop. The "bad day" thread is a great idea which serves an affirming purpose.

 

[WCSGarland]

I had a root canal today. Characters in WIP went to bed... waiting for them to wake up.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I'm glad people find it useful. On a personal note, not only do I feel rotten right now, my creativity has taken a vacation.

Thanks, Millie.

As far as this thread is concerned, I like it because it gives us a chance to vent to our sympathetic friends on AH without invoking the gray clouds over the coffee shop. The "bad day" thread is a great idea which serves an affirming purpose.

 

[MillieDynamite]

So, I'm sick again with the omnipresent pneumonia I had before. My mum is staying with us and tending to Donnie and me. Donnie's off at school, and Mum's out shopping. She'll make me go back to bed when she gets home. I need to be writing but can't really concentrate so just here killing time while my lungs are killing me.

 

[NaughteeDragon]

I haven’t written in 3 days. I can’t seem to muster the focus, or I’m busy doing other things.
Saturday I finished a book I’ve been waiting on for 2 months.

Sunday my D&D group came over. All I wanted to do while we were playing was write. When they left all I wanted to do was read, but I hade laundry and chores to do.

Got home from work last night and my wife had started cleaning out the pantry, something we’ve been talking about doing for 2 months.

I’m supposed to be taking a certification test for work right now…

 

[Trionyx]

So, I'm sick again with the omnipresent pneumonia I had before. My mum is staying with us and tending to Donnie and me. Donnie's off at school, and Mum's out shopping. She'll make me go back to bed when she gets home. I need to be writing but can't really concentrate so just here killing time while my lungs are killing me.

Please get well soon.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Trying too!

Please get well soon.

 

[MrPixel]

Well, I have a day of misery to report - colonoscopy prep. Nothing to eat since last night, and clear liquids only. And then the Roto Rooter routine starts in two hours. Good thing the office here is four steps away from the powder room. If there's anything positive, they scheduled my procedure first in line tomorrow, so I'll get to eat something at lunchtime, although I know from experience it can't be something heavy or spicy.

Right now I'm aching for a pizza. Not tomorrow, either, or maybe even Friday.

 

[Trionyx]

Well, I have a day of misery to report - colonoscopy prep. Nothing to eat since last night, and clear liquids only. And then the Roto Rooter routine starts in two hours. Good thing the office here is four steps away from the powder room. If there's anything positive, they scheduled my procedure first in line tomorrow, so I'll get to eat something at lunchtime, although I know from experience it can't be something heavy or spicy.

Right now I'm aching for a pizza. Not tomorrow, either, or maybe even Friday.

One of the advantages of getting older. Eventually they quit doing them. I guess they figure you’re not worth it anymore.

 

[StillStunned]

Well, I have a day of misery to report - colonoscopy prep.

I've just returned to a story I began a year ago, where a porn director tells one of the cameramen to stop being creepy "or I’ll give you a colonoscopy with your own fucking camera, got it?"

 

[MrPixel]

One of the advantages of getting older. Eventually they quit doing them. I guess they figure you’re not worth it anymore.

75 is the upper limit for a screening colonoscopy. One reason is that polyps that might become cancerous do so slowly, and over 75 you're far more likely to expire from other causes before they become a problem. Then like everything else associated with an aging body, the intestinal tract becomes more fragile and therefore more susceptible to perforation from the camera. It's not like they don't do colonoscopies on the aged, they just restrict it to diagnosis of a likely problem versus simply window shopping.

Witching hour has arrived. I need to go mix the blasting powder.

 

[AlexBailey]

My laptop crashed and I hadn’t saved any smut writing anywhere else . I lost ~ 30k words of a couple different WIP.

 

[Wren200]

My laptop crashed and I hadn’t saved any smut writing anywhere else . I lost ~ 30k words of a couple different WIP.

that's rough

 

[NoTalentHack]

My laptop crashed and I hadn’t saved any smut writing anywhere else . I lost ~ 30k words of a couple different WIP.

Oof. That's rough.

 

[Wren200]

Super turned on, and I was going to chat with someone around now and they ended up busy. Disappointed me but I understand.

 

[MillieDynamite]

According to Mum, all the green, gookie shit I'm coughing up from my lungs is a good thing. I don't think I'll be on hardly at all today.