Mum

[girlsmiley]

I really miss my mum.

Has anybody lost their mum?

It's really hard.

 

[evesdream]

No, but I know that kind of loss can seldom be resolved completely. It's confusing and unfair. When did you lose her?

 

[about_average]

Not my mum, but my dad, in '89. I still miss him and it's often still difficult.

 

[girlsmiley]

No, but I know that kind of loss can seldom be resolved completely. It's confusing and unfair. When did you lose her?

It's been a few years.

What do you mean by a loss being seldom resolved?

 

[coacheric]

lost my dad three years ago. Always think about him

 

[jomcb57]

It's been a few years.

What do you mean by a loss being seldom resolved?

Lost my dad 18yrs ago and my wife 4yrs ago.
By the term "seldom resolved" I think means that you learn to live with the loss, but never fully get over it. I think of these two people daily.

 

[evesdream]

It's been a few years.

What do you mean by a loss being seldom resolved?

I mean it doesn't stop feeling strange after someone dies too soon. Head wants to make sense of it, but heart can't. That part of you is just out of sync, like a scratched record, even though you learn to live with it.

 

[bronzeage]

It's been a few years.

What do you mean by a loss being seldom resolved?

Resolution means different things to different people, but loss of one's parent is a natural part of life. It would be unnatural to not miss someone who was such a great part of you. It will always be an empty spot in your life. The other choice, to never have known her is not palatable. Such people have a much larger empty spot.

 

[StrayKat]

My mother is still alive but my father died 7 years ago.
I am just getting out of depression now.
I was very close to him and his death crashed me completely.
I miss him daily.

 

[Lorilei]

I lost mine 28 years ago, and I still miss her.

 

[albertaboy]

For me, last October and it was tough.

My Mom's health had deteriorated pretty dramatically over a number of years, so you could say she actually died of old age at 82.

I saw her in September and came to grips it would be the last time I saw her, but none the less when my brother called it was hard.

I find myself sharing intimate little details of my relationship with my Mom with complete strangers for no reason.

 

[RedAllan]

My mum died 18 months ago I was with her at the end.

Funny thing now is, we are renovating the house and when we've done something I find my self thinking, "I hope mum will like this"

 

[Aquagal]

It is hard. I go back to that last time I visited, when I hugged her goodbye. Us both knowing that it was to be the last hug, I kept walking back for one more.

Milestones, special memories that are made without her to see or tell about have been the hardest. Friday is her birthday.

 

[Cathleen]

My mom died twenty-one years ago tomorrow. Some days it feels like yesterday, other times it feels like a thousand years.

Loss is permanent but the good memories truly do outshine the pain (most of the time).

 

[StrayKat]

My mum died 18 months ago I was with her at the end.

Funny thing now is, we are renovating the house and when we've done something I find my self thinking, "I hope mum will like this"

I have been thinking like that for years. Whenever something happened or just something interesting came to my mind my first thought was "I should tell dad about this". Then a few seconds later it would hit me. I never will again.

 

[RedAllan]

I have been thinking like that for years. Whenever something happened or just something interesting came to my mind my first thought was "I should tell dad about this". Then a few seconds later it would hit me. I never will again.

My dad has been dead for 40 years, but when I do some of the renovation work I find myself thinking"how would Dad do this?" He was a much better handyman then I ever will be.

 

[Mrtenant]

Did, it was the single most defining tragedy in my life, hers too I would guess. She died 6 months after I graduated high school, gunshot.

Dad died 2 years later of cancer. Been an orphan since. Fuckin sucked.

I recovered though, took a couple years, did therapy, all that shit.

Feel for those with recent losses. My heart goes out to you, for what its worth.

The intensity of the feelings do go away after time, but never completely.

You will see better days ahead, I promise.

 

[girlsmiley]

It is hard. I go back to that last time I visited, when I hugged her goodbye. Us both knowing that it was to be the last hug, I kept walking back for one more.

Milestones, special memories that are made without her to see or tell about have been the hardest. Friday is her birthday.

Oh Aqua.

That's how I feel. Big hugs, chick.

 

[girlsmiley]

Resolution means different things to different people, but loss of one's parent is a natural part of life. It would be unnatural to not miss someone who was such a great part of you. It will always be an empty spot in your life. The other choice, to never have known her is not palatable. Such people have a much larger empty spot.

I was lucky to have such a good mum. Some of the other kids I grew up with weren't so lucky. But I looked after them the best I could.

 

[yossi]

I haven't lost my mom, but she's getting older and has some health issues. I spend as much time with her as I can - I love her to bits and I don know what I'll do without her.

Sympathy and love to everyone who has gone through the loss of a parent.

 

[girlsmiley]

My mom died twenty-one years ago tomorrow. Some days it feels like yesterday, other times it feels like a thousand years.

Loss is permanent but the good memories truly do outshine the pain (most of the time).

My mum passed away from cancer when I was 15. When she died everything changed. My family changed. I changed. Home changed. I moved away from home.

When she died I didn't even know how to live lol. I didn't know what to do. I cried for years and just kept working hard and hoped that I would be ok. I missed her the most when I had questions. I had so many questions.

 

[the_kuntess]

I miss my Mum too. She has been gone from life for 6 years now, and I think of her everyday.