"My ex used to..."

[Erosfan]

Loved to fuck outdoors! In hallways !doorways on her period! And she was a squirter!

All things sex outdoors is quite an experience. Just being naked outdoors is exciting. Sharing that with someone you love makes it quite special.

 

[emme8]

Measure me against other people standards

In college I was very sheltered and totally oblivious to this world. My college boyfriend, that I thought I would marry, kept me sheltered and safe. I knew I enjoyed his control being tied up and even persuaded him to try anal sex a few times, but he wasn't into bdsm and I didn't know enough to ask. He did want to watch me with another woman however. He pressured a little, but I wasn't ready. It became a bit of an issue. But more than just that, I never was able to just chill and enjoy myself. I was always trying to live up to the what he thought others would expect.

After I broke up with him for other reasons. I nearly had a lesbian affair that week. I met Bob instead of pursuing her.

With Bob I attempted to be a "good girl" and establish a relationship based on more than sex. It worked for about 2 dates. Then my true self came out. It didn't take long before I was exploring my submissive side with him. Now 20 something years later I'm exploring Bob's submissive side.

Ultimately the biggest contrast between now and then is I know I am still about as good at being a Domme as I am at being a good girl, sub, lesbian, socialite, and everything else I am or am not. The difference is as long as I am good enough for myself, Bob and my creator, I don't care what you think of me.

 

[Erosfan]

My ex used to like to suck my Cock while I was driving.

With mine, it was hand jobs. She always made sure we, meaning me, were seen.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

My ex used to blow raspberries on my clit (not vagina) while fingering me, to give me mind blowing orgasms!!

 

[emme8]

"My ex used to blow raspberries on my clit..."

That sounds like a great idea.

 

[derek00003]

My ex used to buy Playgirl magazine and have me eat her out while she looked at the magazine.

It was actually really hot and I really enjoyed it

 

[CoronaExtra43]

For me an my ex. We just fell out of love after many years of marriage. But back in the day. She was a good fuck, with a mild kinky side. She enjoyed giving me a blow job, as we cruised down the highway. Always hoping, and sometimes making sure, someone saw what was going on. She also loved wearing a sundress with pantyhose. Often while we drove. Usually out of town trips. She would spot and 18 wheeler. Have me pull up beside the cab. Pull her dress up and expose her pantyhose covered pussy. Then give the driver a show as she played with her pussy and brought herself off! Sure do miss those days!!

 

[pumperguy191]

My ex used to hate to have sex if the day of the week ended in the letter "Y"

 

[nutoseen]

i really appreciate the LIT threads, and have learned a lot about others and about myself. Thanks to all for your contributions.

i especially like to read about people's personal experiences, and things that are exciting to me, even though i may not have previously tried it. "Pegging", milking, threesomes, wife-swapping, etc.

i notice in many posts, people make references to the amazing sexual activity with their "ex", as in wife, husband, BF or GF. i wonder how many times the kink or activity the poster is asking about was a contributing factor to the split.

So, my question is.....has your ex become your ex because of something that happened in or out of the bedroom, or something you needed so badly you needed to seek it out with someone else?

i used to get kind of reversed cucked. her husband had big dick, she would come to work and share herself after getting fucked.

 

[policywank]

Thank you for being so honest. I imagine this was an incredibly difficult period for you, especially after finding she was involved with a co-worker. Knowing that being completely honest with her....discussing sharing her with others...and knowing that what you thought would bring you closer together may have actually driven you apart....must be a burden.

It's pretty amazing to me, and the reason I started the thread. If you truly love someone, shouldn't you be able to share your most intimate thoughts and desires, without fear of retribution or denial? I KNOW I've been with women I know would never understand, appreciate, or entertain my "kinks". Is that a reason to immediately break-up, or do you give it time to digest and acclimate?

i have a woman in my life know that i'm in love with, and I THINK she'd be receptive to some of my kinks, but i'm fearful of raising it because it seems the stakes are too high. We have an amazing relationship right now, and i don't want to do anything to jeopardize it. And i'm actually conflicted about that, because I sound like a hypocrite. "shouldn't someone you're in love with appreciate who you are?"

I think I'll play it day by day, look for the opportunity to introduce some of my interests, and hope for the best. Life is interesting, and we need to open and explore. Thanks to all for your candor...it's really helpful and inspiring.

Unfortunately, I think that a lot of people who say that want full openness and honesty are not sufficiently open-minded and non-judgmental to actually create a safe space for it. Full openness and honesty requires that both partners have a large capacity to embrace different points of view including things that they never saw coming. It is one thing to think you have an open mind and strive to live up to that. But all of us have blind spots or pre-conceptions that haven't been challenged. It is quite another matter to actually be able to hear something that shocks you or sets you back or tests a limit that has never been tested and still be able to maintain perspective and put your love for your partner ahead of all else.

 

[Curiousphoenix]

Short answer. Yes. It was great and I miss it, but it wasnt done right and now it's ex...