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yes...First post.

I'm a long time reader, new poster with a couple different questions, but first let me give you a little background. I'm 24 years old and have had a couple of short relationships in the past, in the past year I've met the most amazing young woman (20 years old) and we've been dating for what will be 6 months here in a few weeks. We both have a mutual understanding that there will be no sex until after we are married as part of a religious and personal decision on both of our parts. so on to my questions...

Firstly a pretty well celebrated holiday easter is coming up this weekend and I would like to put together an easter basket of some sort for my girlfriend. For this I was thinking of Dove chocolate eggs (her favorite), a kite to go fly in the park when it gets warmer again, bubble soap to blow bubbles on a warm summer day, plastic eggs to hide and put notes that I've wrote out by hand, and a DVD to watch together that both of us would like. Anyone have recommendations on a good clean dvd that both of us could enjoy? Also any other items that would be good to put into an easter basket? I know it sounds kind of silly, but she keeps talking about how she misses being a kid, especially lately with the stresses of a lot of tests in school.

Secondly, we are going to be attending a pretty good concert in two weekends that is about 3 hours from where we live so we will be spending the night in a hotel room which we have already done before, but last time it was last minute and I didn't have time to do anything special. This time I would like to get a few things and surprise her by reminding her how much she means to me. I'm thinking a couple of candles burning because her family won't let her burn any at home because of a past house fire, perhaps some comfy new PJ's, perhaps leaving a "hidden" message written on the bathroom mirror, taking some instant hot chocolate mix to make late at night when it's cold, etc. Any other ideas that work?

Thanks in advance for any info that you guys might be able to provide, I usually try to figure these things out on my own, but I'm having a little trouble trying to come up with more than just a few little things.

Thanks again!
 
Another kid at heart...

A chocolate bunny and easter grass, 2 must haves for great Easter baskets.
 
luve2fly I've got absolutely nothing to offer as far as suggestions go but just wanted to say I love what you've thought of so far.
 
luve2fly said:
Firstly a pretty well celebrated holiday easter is coming up this weekend and I would like to put together an easter basket of some sort for my girlfriend. For this I was thinking of Dove chocolate eggs (her favorite), a kite to go fly in the park when it gets warmer again, bubble soap to blow bubbles on a warm summer day, plastic eggs to hide and put notes that I've wrote out by hand, and a DVD to watch together that both of us would like. Anyone have recommendations on a good clean dvd that both of us could enjoy? Also any other items that would be good to put into an easter basket? I know it sounds kind of silly, but she keeps talking about how she misses being a kid, especially lately with the stresses of a lot of tests in school.
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Lovely Ideas!! Other things I've seen (I work in a pharmacy/drug store :) ) are jigsaw puzzles made from photographs...nice if you want to say something special...take a picture, photoshop the phrase onto it, take it to the store and get a puzzle made from it. You could even put a piece in each of the eggs and let her put it together as she finds them.
Other popular things are jewelry (of course, but maybe something 'fashion' instead of fine), flowers (even silk ones), drink mix (the single packs you can put in bottled water, like Crystal Light or Propel), and whatever your lady is interested in.
As for movies, it depends on what you like. If you like comedies, get an old one that maybe you haven't seen. I recommend Danny Kaye's Court Jester...still hilarious after all these years. If you want romance, you can't beat Casablanca.

luve2fly said:
I'm thinking a couple of candles burning because her family won't let her burn any at home because of a past house fire, perhaps some comfy new PJ's, perhaps leaving a "hidden" message written on the bathroom mirror, taking some instant hot chocolate mix to make late at night when it's cold, etc. Any other ideas that work?

Thanks in advance for any info that you guys might be able to provide, I usually try to figure these things out on my own, but I'm having a little trouble trying to come up with more than just a few little things.

Thanks again!
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While you may think they're "just a few little things," I believe your lady will find them more than pleasing. A few additions as suggestions only: if you know your lady's taste in books/magazines, have the latest of her favorite author/magazine waiting for her, a new bubble bath, perhaps, or even a small vase of flowers. However, I know I'd be touched with what you've said and I feel she would as well :)

You sound like a keeper.
 
Sidewalk chalk, silly putty, a stuffed animal, a love letter, poems, an origami or leather rose, a CD to dance with her to. (I :heart: _The Court Jester_)


(Not to bring down the happy tone of this thread, but I personally know a lot of people who ended up feeling trapped in a sexless or sexually incompatible marriage by not having sex before marriage. Hope you know what you are doing.)
 
Although I doubt there is anything I can offer in terms of helpful suggestions, I just want to say that the relationship you have with your girlfriend seems truly charming, as if it is a romantic tale to read while wrapped in a fluffy blanket or quilt and snuggling in bed with a loved one.

Oh, and the part about your girlfriend possibly longing to be a kid again makes me smile. Assuming it is not a given, I believe it is simply a matter of choosing to have that particular state of mind. Just because one ages does not mean one can no longer revisit joys and comforts from younger years.

I wish you two well and hope you are able to fully enjoy the Easter occasion together.
 
You exude romance, it's lovely. Your basket and ideas for the concert sound wonderful and delicious. Maybe add some music -- a CD from the group you'll be seeing, something soft and sweet perhaps. I think she is a very lucky lady. :rose:

Welcome to Lit, and the same to Distrupted and Lilkitten88, it's nice to have you with us. :)
 
I WISH someone would plan like this for me! I would LOVE it! I'm a big fan of picnics, easter egg hunts and bubbles but those notes are the most wonderful part!

Watch the candles because the tea lights can burn hotel furniture.

If you can get a suite with a little fridge and microwave, I like to have some cheese, some fruit, drink and special bread.

Also a suite with a jacuzzi is great fun.

Or a hotel with a public jacuzzi and pool is nice as well.

Many hotels have a free cocktail hour, and free breakfast in the mornings. Those are nice bonuses.

Fury :rose:
 
sunandshadow said:
(Not to bring down the happy tone of this thread, but I personally know a lot of people who ended up feeling trapped in a sexless or sexually incompatible marriage by not having sex before marriage. Hope you know what you are doing.)
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It doesn't take much reading on LIT to realize just how many people feel "trapped in a sexless marriage or are sexually incompatible." However, I have never heard mention of the fact that it was due to not having sex with their partner until after marriage.

luvetofly - From someone who went into marriage 26 years ago a virgin, as was hubby, and making the same commitment due to religious and personal reasons, I admire both of you for your commitment to wait. That is such a rare quality to find these days. I/We (I can speak for hubby since he gave me permission to) have never regretted it.

As for the Easter basket, my personal favorites after all these years are white chocolate bunnies and malted milk eggs. Those are addicting!

If she is in college, try adding gift cards from McDonalds/Wendys/College Campus food sources, places she likes to eat. Still a big seller for my 3 who are in college but then they are all boys who love to eat. I have done the same for girlfriends and my soon to be daughter-in-law. They seem to enjoy them too.

Best wishes for a "Good Friday" and a "Happy Easter." :rose:
 
Oh, damn. I missed the no sex part. Poor things.

Still this planning is cool.

I wonder if such romance will continue after sex?

LOL.

Fury :rose:
 
I don't have a lot to say about the plausibility of relationships lasting beyond marriage without having sampled the goods before as I have already tasted the forbidden fruit as it were (and can't get married either).

But as a romantic and as a woman I don't think that if you can maintain the same thoughtfulness that you currently have, you shouldn't have much trouble working your problems out. As in any relationship, you just have to remember not to take your partner for granted.

Good luck! Very sweet idea.
 
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luve2fly said:
yes...First post.

I'm a long time reader, new poster with a couple different questions, but first let me give you a little background. I'm 24 years old and have had a couple of short relationships in the past, in the past year I've met the most amazing young woman (20 years old) and we've been dating for what will be 6 months here in a few weeks. We both have a mutual understanding that there will be no sex until after we are married as part of a religious and personal decision on both of our parts. so on to my questions...

Firstly a pretty well celebrated holiday easter is coming up this weekend and I would like to put together an easter basket of some sort for my girlfriend. For this I was thinking of Dove chocolate eggs (her favorite), a kite to go fly in the park when it gets warmer again, bubble soap to blow bubbles on a warm summer day, plastic eggs to hide and put notes that I've wrote out by hand, and a DVD to watch together that both of us would like. Anyone have recommendations on a good clean dvd that both of us could enjoy? Also any other items that would be good to put into an easter basket? I know it sounds kind of silly, but she keeps talking about how she misses being a kid, especially lately with the stresses of a lot of tests in school.

Secondly, we are going to be attending a pretty good concert in two weekends that is about 3 hours from where we live so we will be spending the night in a hotel room which we have already done before, but last time it was last minute and I didn't have time to do anything special. This time I would like to get a few things and surprise her by reminding her how much she means to me. I'm thinking a couple of candles burning because her family won't let her burn any at home because of a past house fire, perhaps some comfy new PJ's, perhaps leaving a "hidden" message written on the bathroom mirror, taking some instant hot chocolate mix to make late at night when it's cold, etc. Any other ideas that work?

Thanks in advance for any info that you guys might be able to provide, I usually try to figure these things out on my own, but I'm having a little trouble trying to come up with more than just a few little things.

Thanks again!
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Marshmallow peeps...can't have a basket without them...and maybe some jelly belly jelly beans...YUMMY!
As for a nice surprise...have flowers sent to the hotel with a card and her name....that is romantic and sweet.
Perhaps cuddling to a nice CD late a night as you sip your hot chocolate....
A foot massage...ahh....Gosh I miss those
 
Firstly I'd like to thank everyone who came up with some good ideas and advice, all of it has been taking into account and will be used when I finish my shopping tomorrow :). So far I've got an easter basket, some plastic eggs to put things in, some childish bubble soap and some miscellaneous chocolate.

For the next weekend with the concert/hotel I picked simple package that contains a set of fluffy towels, and very comfy looking slippers for her to use after a shower. I also most definately plan on getting the glow in the dark stars to put up on the ceiling when she's in the shower to surprise her later when it gets dark :).

To those with the advice about waiting til marriage for sex I thank you. To those who think it might be a problem later on, I believe that is a problem we are both willing to take. We both have seen both sides of the fence where people have worked out and where people haven't worked out and from there we decided this is what we want to do. Maybe it will work or perhaps it won't, either way it's a risk we are both prepared to take.

Also to add to everything we are going to be celebrating our 6 month anniversary and I'm planning a picnic dinner at the big park where I asked her out, then a personalized trip to the planetarium for just the two of us. I've also talked to the guy running the show and he's going to play a cd with a few of our favorite songs and give us about 10 minutes at the end of the night to just relax with the music under the *stars*

Sound good?

Thanks again for the advice!
 
Sounds great! She is very lucky to have you.

Oh another thing I did for my husband once was to make a rose petal trail and put rose petals in our bed.

Fury :rose:
 
emptynester said:




If she is in college, try adding gift cards from McDonalds/Wendys/College Campus food sources, places she likes to eat
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I totally disagree with that one.
If any one gave me a gift certificate for fast food I would probably smack them.
If it was in a romantic moment I would probably walk away disturbed.
 
yoshimitsu said:
I totally disagree with that one.
If any one gave me a gift certificate for fast food I would probably smack them.
If it was in a romantic moment I would probably walk away disturbed.
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Thanks yoshimitsu -I believe you are right. I was thinking about that today and it hit me the same way. I was thinking as a mom not as a romantic idea from him to her.

To bad you weren't up at the crack of dawn to set me straight. I might have had time to edit my post. Thankfully, it was only a suggestion and no harm done. I am sure luve2fly will choose to ignore it for a more suitable suggestion. :)
 
emptynester said:


Thanks yoshimitsu -I believe you are right. I was thinking about that today and it hit me the same way. I was thinking as a mom not as a romantic idea from him to her.

To bad you weren't up at the crack of dawn to set me straight. I might have had time to edit my post. Thankfully, it was only a suggestion and no harm done. I am sure luve2fly will choose to ignore it for a more suitable suggestion. :)
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..actually, I took the idea and expanded on it a little bit if you will, to be instead of fast food and cheaper places, to a hand made card inside of an easter egg with a card that invites her to a romantic dinner for two at one of our favorite restaurants ;)
 
luve2fly said:
..actually, I took the idea and expanded on it a little bit if you will, to be instead of fast food and cheaper places, to a hand made card inside of an easter egg with a card that invites her to a romantic dinner for two at one of our favorite restaurants ;)
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You are definitely a keeper! She is a very lucky girl. :rose:
 
Wow from all the positive comments from the ladies maybe I should consider being romantic a little more often.
You girls mean your idea of a perfect night isn't always a gallon of wine, a couch and a strero?
 
yoshimitsu said:
Wow from all the positive comments from the ladies maybe I should consider being romantic a little more often.
You girls mean your idea of a perfect night isn't always a gallon of wine, a couch and a strero?
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How about a glass of wine, some cheese, French bread, fruit, a suite and toys!

Fury :rose:
 
Awwww! How sweet are you! she's a really lucky girl! I think you've got a great plan! How about a fuzzy, cute stuffed bunny! It'll last alot longer then candy and most toys! And she'll remember your special day everytime she sees it!
 
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Maybe that's my problem.
If women just told me what they wanted it wouldn't be so hard to figure it out :D
 
 
luve2fly said:
Firstly I'd like to thank everyone who came up with some good ideas and advice, all of it has been taking into account and will be used when I finish my shopping tomorrow :). So far I've got an easter basket, some plastic eggs to put things in, some childish bubble soap and some miscellaneous chocolate.

For the next weekend with the concert/hotel I picked simple package that contains a set of fluffy towels, and very comfy looking slippers for her to use after a shower. I also most definately plan on getting the glow in the dark stars to put up on the ceiling when she's in the shower to surprise her later when it gets dark :).

To those with the advice about waiting til marriage for sex I thank you. To those who think it might be a problem later on, I believe that is a problem we are both willing to take. We both have seen both sides of the fence where people have worked out and where people haven't worked out and from there we decided this is what we want to do. Maybe it will work or perhaps it won't, either way it's a risk we are both prepared to take.

Also to add to everything we are going to be celebrating our 6 month anniversary and I'm planning a picnic dinner at the big park where I asked her out, then a personalized trip to the planetarium for just the two of us. I've also talked to the guy running the show and he's going to play a cd with a few of our favorite songs and give us about 10 minutes at the end of the night to just relax with the music under the *stars*

Sound good?

Thanks again for the advice!
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Reading through that, I believe I am somehow in awe. It has the mark of a touching story written all over.

The more I see of your thoughts and the intensity placed in your endeavor, the more I cannot deny seriously hoping that all goes well for both of you.
 
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