Need some advice with g/f

[Daniel1982]

ok been going out iwth my girlfriend for almost a year. but heres the problem..her uteris(sp) is crooked so we have to put a pillow under her ass so i dont hurt her etc. etc. but heres my problem...recently...im 2 big for her pussy. I'm 8 1/2 inches long and 2 1/2 inches thick..we've tried lube..i've foreplayed till shes shaking and nothing helps ..any suggestions? i even heard that anal play helps "loosen" her up and relax her..and nothing works. It's not ruining our realionship cause well its not all about sex but it affects her dearly cause she wants to please me and she thinks she has to fuck me to please me and thats not it..i just want to
make sure shes ok and not putting herself at risk..any help will be most grateful

 

[Dionysus2003]

Since her uterus is crooked you have a medical problem, instead of a practical one - to put it that way.

My advice would be to get an appointment at a gyno-clinic or talk to her doctor. I think those sources can be a good place to start. I am sure they have heard of the problem before, and can give good advice

Good luck

 

[sheath]

Definitely sit down with a doctor and talk this through. If her uterus is tilted that badly it is possible you COULD hurt her, beyond just a physical twinge or two...you need to know exactly what is okay, sexually, before you go too far without realizing what you are doing.

Reassure her that sex and intimacy encompasses SO much...not just penetration. I know that is going to be hard to get through to her, because she probably feels as though 'she' is the one with the problem...but remind her, gently and often, that since you are with her and you care about her, that it is 'our' problem...hers AND yours.

Good luck...and please let us know what happens?

S.

 

[Daniel1982]

will do..thanks so much for the advice..its just impossible to get thro to her that its not her fault/problem. but i'll def. tell her to go to the doc and get it checked..i refuse to have sex with her until she gets it checked..

 

[sheath]

will do..thanks so much for the advice..its just impossible to get thro to her that its not her fault/problem. but i'll def. tell her to go to the doc and get it checked..i refuse to have sex with her until she gets it checked..

Don't refuse to have sex with her...remember, sex does not have to include penetration. You can have incredible sex without it. She needs to know, now more than ever, that she is desirable to you...that the problem is simple...she has a medical problem and you don't want to hurt her, no matter what. Ask if it is possible to speak to the doctor with her, and explain your concerns. Be completely open about this, and let her know what your fears are. Then hold her and remind her you will get through it. Together.

S.

 

[CelticFrog]

I agree with sheath here.
Although there are medical reasons you can NOT have overly penetrative sex, you can still practice the technique found on the "Try This and Report Back" thread. And oral. And possibly anal, if it can be done. And lots of other things.

Oh, the fun that could be had if you had to abstain from penetrative sex for a specific amount of time. I might consider doing that sometime. Like for a week. Limit us to everything but.

Hmmm... that sounds so exquisitely evil, I might just have to do that.



Ang