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That's what you want; what do you offer in return? Believe me, there is absolutely no shortage of guys out there wanting to submit to a "good mistress." And, "owned and controlled" implies a longer-term relationship, so there has to be something given in return for the mistress's time and energy. She can always find someone to beat or humiliate, but that alone does not a relationship make, in most cases.
At your age, you may not have much in the way of finances, so consider what skills you possess. Do you cook well? Do you know how to maintain a household? Can you manage money? Do you give a really good foot/back/neck rub? Are you a gardner, carpenter, electrician, or remodeler?
In a nutshell, what do you offer to make your prospective mistress's life easier and better?
The good news is that you have time to develop skills and abilities that will please a mistress and increase your apparent value.
Thank you for your detailed reply and useful guidance. I highly appreciate that. You are correct that there are many men out there wanting to be a sub to a good mistress and I need to be more specific how I would "sub"mit to her.
Just quick answers:
1) I'm a good cook and good at households.
2) I'm not experienced in massage but can compensate with other things and im a quick learner
3) open to creative ideas and crazy things
I just want to say I'm open to new things, you name it I do it. I like to hear commands from the other side.
Many thanks
QUOTE=GnomeDePlume;38656002]That's what you want; what do you offer in return? Believe me, there is absolutely no shortage of guys out there wanting to submit to a "good mistress." And, "owned and controlled" implies a longer-term relationship, so there has to be something given in return for the mistress's time and energy. She can always find someone to beat or humiliate, but that alone does not a relationship make, in most cases.
At your age, you may not have much in the way of finances, so consider what skills you possess. Do you cook well? Do you know how to maintain a household? Can you manage money? Do you give a really good foot/back/neck rub? Are you a gardner, carpenter, electrician, or remodeler?
In a nutshell, what do you offer to make your prospective mistress's life easier and better?
The good news is that you have time to develop skills and abilities that will please a mistress and increase your apparent value.[/QUOTE]
Just quick answers:
1) I'm a good cook and good at households.
2) I'm not experienced in massage but can compensate with other things and im a quick learner
3) open to creative ideas and crazy things
I just want to say I'm open to new things, you name it I do it. I like to hear commands from the other side.
Many thanks
QUOTE=GnomeDePlume;38656002]That's what you want; what do you offer in return? Believe me, there is absolutely no shortage of guys out there wanting to submit to a "good mistress." And, "owned and controlled" implies a longer-term relationship, so there has to be something given in return for the mistress's time and energy. She can always find someone to beat or humiliate, but that alone does not a relationship make, in most cases.
At your age, you may not have much in the way of finances, so consider what skills you possess. Do you cook well? Do you know how to maintain a household? Can you manage money? Do you give a really good foot/back/neck rub? Are you a gardner, carpenter, electrician, or remodeler?
In a nutshell, what do you offer to make your prospective mistress's life easier and better?
The good news is that you have time to develop skills and abilities that will please a mistress and increase your apparent value.[/QUOTE]
Sir_Winston54
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Why was this never referred - and moved - to the Personals section, where it belongs? 
Stella_Omega
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1) Join fetlife.com Look for munches in your area, and look to see if there is a female Dominant group that meets in your area.
2) be respectful (you are already) when you contact them.
3) think about buying a copy of this book: How To Capture A Mistress
and possibly a couple of books like these; The Mistress Manual or The Sexually Dominant Woman, a Workbook for nervous beginners because you might meet the woman of your dreams in a non-BDSM context, and she might get an idea or two from seeing them on your shelf... or borrowing and reading them.
2) be respectful (you are already) when you contact them.
3) think about buying a copy of this book: How To Capture A Mistress
and possibly a couple of books like these; The Mistress Manual or The Sexually Dominant Woman, a Workbook for nervous beginners because you might meet the woman of your dreams in a non-BDSM context, and she might get an idea or two from seeing them on your shelf... or borrowing and reading them.
switchbitch
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Thank you so much for saying this, the number of submissive guys who approach more or less expecting a service domme is inordinately high, they often simply post PMs that read something like this: 'I'm a submissive how would you like to make me cum on cam'or' I'd like you to torture mewith orgasm control until I can't stand it'or even just ' I'm a submissive I'd like you to domme me'.
In each case my initial thought response is and why would I want to do any of that, I don't even know you and you have no idea who I am or what my proclivities are and your requests are all about you. At least take the time to introduce yourself and try to get to know the people you are requesting consideration from. A dominant is a person too,each with their own inherent tastes and preferences. And in courtesy it usually is nice to at least say hello first.
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Why was this never referred - and moved - to the Personals section, where it belongs?
Because I had already moved about 8 of this guy's posts over there, and I missed this one, or thought (at the time) that it was less Personal-ish than the rest of what I had already moved over. The "bump" indicates he's clearly still looking, though, so I'll move it.
boredVAwife
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Yeah... I call BS, especially given that you were 22 in January this year.
ETA to be at least somewhat constructive:
Being honest is a good place to start. Honest both with yourself and with others.
leap year? like he leaped over 23?
MarylandCouple
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would you consider couples? PM sent
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Caught my eye as I browsed..
...just the frowny face.
It just struck me as not good marketing. What I mean by that is it would tend to paint you as perhaps a bit of a sad sack. I call people like "eyeores" like Winnie the Pooh's morose friend.
I didn't open the thread to lecture you on that...I was just mildly curious sinse there seem to be a number of replies and that seemed unlikely with the title.
What I see you doing right here is in responding politely and fairly thoroughly to feedback that you been given.
I noticed that you didn't seem to be doing it to suck up to someone in particular but they actually shown interest in you just simply took what they were telling you for what it was worth.
So I was curious why you left the following one completely not responded to?
I assumed from your ad that you are heterosexual as you asked for a mistress. What occurred to me was that you are uncomfortable setting boundaries. for example you could have responded "well I don't have any affinity with males but if your wife would would like a servant?"
...just the frowny face.
It just struck me as not good marketing. What I mean by that is it would tend to paint you as perhaps a bit of a sad sack. I call people like "eyeores" like Winnie the Pooh's morose friend.
I didn't open the thread to lecture you on that...I was just mildly curious sinse there seem to be a number of replies and that seemed unlikely with the title.
What I see you doing right here is in responding politely and fairly thoroughly to feedback that you been given.
I noticed that you didn't seem to be doing it to suck up to someone in particular but they actually shown interest in you just simply took what they were telling you for what it was worth.
So I was curious why you left the following one completely not responded to?
I assumed from your ad that you are heterosexual as you asked for a mistress. What occurred to me was that you are uncomfortable setting boundaries. for example you could have responded "well I don't have any affinity with males but if your wife would would like a servant?"
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