Need Women s Advice

[fondofmoisture]

Here s my problem.I know all of the holier than thou s are going to jump on me but here goes
My wife and I have another couple who we have been friends with for 10 years.Out of no where the friends wife and I became involved with one another a year and a half ago.We were only with each other a couple of times.It was wonderful.(don t hate me. It just happened)The company I worked for closed and I had the stress of finding a new job.With this stress I became depressed and didn t want to be with her.I wanted to but just couldn t do it.We talked during the whole year about how we wanted each other but wanted it to be the way it was.Thing s are good now but we just can t get that feeling back.There s no doubt she want s it and there s no doubt that I do.It was great before and we both agree on that.We haven t had any communication in over a month.We left it at (if it happens it happens). Ladies, what do you think she s feeling and how do we get that spark back?

 

[buxxxom]

First off, two things.

1. Paragraphs are your friends. Use them.

2. Hit the space bar (it's the long one at the bottom of the keyboard) after every period, or full stop.

Now, clear this up. Are you wanting to get back with your wife or with the friend?

 

[fondofmoisture]

With the friend. Sorry not the best typist in the world.

 

[princess4u]

you said that "it just happened" so why are you trying to "make" it happen
now? perhaps what fulfilled your needs and desires at that time is not
what you both need or desire now

 

[SweetErika]

And, third, using apostrophes (especially correctly), instead of putting a space in most words ending with "S" will greatly improve our comprehension. It's easy to do:
a) Use an apostrophe in contractions like don't, can't, isn't, there's, it's (only when signifying "it is"), etc.

b) Use an apostrophe to signify possession/ownership EXCEPT with "its" and multiple things for multiple people/animals/objects.
My lover's husband is a nice guy.
My cock's abilities are few.
Its head thinks more than mine does.
Our spouses' feelings would be hurt if they discovered our affair.

If you're not making a contraction or showing ownership, you don't use an apostrophe at all (e.g. Things have been bad recently.)


Anyway, it sounds like you need to figure out what's going on in your head far more than hers. You're the one who called it off after all. Maybe you, or both of you, are feeling guilty about cheating deep down now that you've had time to cool off and let everything sink in.

Perhaps time alone has changed your dynamic. People and relationships change as time passes, and there aren't any definitive ways "to get that spark back." Maybe your time with this woman has passed, and/or it's a sign that you should work something better out (whether that's more intimacy/sex, opening the relationship or ending it) with your wife.

 

[M's girl]

Bingo!

 

[DevilsAngel369]

Here s my problem.I know all of the holier than thou s are going to jump on me but here goes
My wife and I have another couple who we have been friends with for 10 years.Out of no where the friends wife and I became involved with one another a year and a half ago.We were only with each other a couple of times.It was wonderful.(don t hate me. It just happened)The company I worked for closed and I had the stress of finding a new job.With this stress I became depressed and didn t want to be with her.I wanted to but just couldn t do it.We talked during the whole year about how we wanted each other but wanted it to be the way it was.Thing s are good now but we just can t get that feeling back.There s no doubt she want s it and there s no doubt that I do.It was great before and we both agree on that.We haven t had any communication in over a month.We left it at (if it happens it happens). Ladies, what do you think she s feeling and how do we get that spark back?

if it just happened the first time then why do u want the sparks to fly again?

 

[fearnow1952]

didnt we was doing lit here what the hell

 

[Eilan]

didnt we was doing lit here what the hell

Uh-huh.

This is the message board for a site devoted to writing, and erotica is, after all, a literary genre.

 

[FurryFury]

Let me get this straight, you slipped and fell in your friend's pussy, thereby cheating on your wife and having betrayed your male friend?

It was an accident that happened more than once.

It was "great."

It wasn't "great" enough to keep on slipping "by accident", into that pussy.

Okaaaay.

Now you want to know how to accidentally, after having neglected it for a while, slip back in. Is that the question?

I'd say, stock up on banana peels, maybe?

I dunno if it's worth it though, since y'all just drifted apart. In fact, I'm quite sure it's NOT worth it.

You might want to prepare for your Jerry Springer appearance while you're at it.

OR you could consider what it would take to repair and rejuvenate your relationship with your WIFE.

Another option would be to get out of a marriage that you clearly don't intend to honor. Your wife probably deserves better.

Your fuck buddy, maybe doesn't. Then again perhaps she's already been
"slipped" something better and that's why you are having such troubles getting back in that space?

*shrugs*

Fury

 

[thirty]

And, third, using apostrophes (especially correctly), instead of putting a space in most words ending with "S" will greatly improve our comprehension. It's easy to do:
a) Use an apostrophe in contractions like don't, can't, isn't, there's, it's (only when signifying "it is"), etc.

b) Use an apostrophe to signify possession/ownership EXCEPT with "its" and multiple things for multiple people/animals/objects.
My lover's husband is a nice guy.
My cock's abilities are few.
Its head thinks more than mine does.
Our spouses' feelings would be hurt if they discovered our affair.

If you're not making a contraction or showing ownership, you don't use an apostrophe at all (e.g. Things have been bad recently.)


Anyway, it sounds like you need to figure out what's going on in your head far more than hers. You're the one who called it off after all. Maybe you, or both of you, are feeling guilty about cheating deep down now that you've had time to cool off and let everything sink in.

Perhaps time alone has changed your dynamic. People and relationships change as time passes, and there aren't any definitive ways "to get that spark back." Maybe your time with this woman has passed, and/or it's a sign that you should work something better out (whether that's more intimacy/sex, opening the relationship or ending it) with your wife.

Wow, you are a linguist! I learnt a lot from you!

I hope I at least have not made grammartical mistakes here, lol...

 

[subwannabe]

Apparently you aren't interested in finding the spark between you and your wife.

 

[naamplao]

Wow, you are a linguist! I learnt a lot from you!

I hope I at least have not made grammartical mistakes here, lol...

Hahaha....Well, with a sentence construction like that, I think they would not be too hard to find if we looked at your past posts.

 

[SweetErika]

Hahaha....Well, with a sentence construction like that, I think they would not be too hard to find if we looked at your past posts.

No, it wouldn't be difficult, but I give him a lot of credit for trying to teach himself English and posting on a site with so many who value (mostly) proper English. His skills have come a long way in a relatively short time, IMO.

And Thirty, you were close, but instead of "I hope I at least have not made grammartical mistakes here, lol..." you want something like, "I hope I have not ("haven't" will sound more natural) made grammatical mistakes here, at least, lol..."

 

[midwestyankee]

didnt we was doing lit here what the hell

I liked this thread a lot better when it was in English and Furry Fury was prescribing banana peels.

 

[FurryFury]

I liked this thread a lot better when it was in English and Furry Fury was prescribing banana peels.

Banana peels are good for so many things but then again so is good grammar.

*smiles sweetly*

Fury

 

[cloudy]

Banana peels are good for so many things but then again so is good grammar.

*smiles sweetly*

Fury

Amen.

 

[marla56]

leave it be

i'm not going to hollar at you...for now, you should just leave it be,,i'm sure she is hurt,,you won't ever get back what you had..it's been too long,,so just forget about it,,did you get a job??,, well let her know you got things to work out and be patient...ya'll will have to start something new,,take it slow,,don't rush it...if it's meant to be then it will be...like i said things aren't the same so start something new..like a first date...a little kissing..a little hugging,,hand holding...maybe a chance meeting here and there..you need intrigue...men think we are so weak...we can wait on you,,we get frustrated..but we hang in there for someone that has touched us in a special way..but don't wait too long dear or she will find it somewhere else... just remember,,that same feeling..it's gone..so start a new feeling...showering together works good..

 

[SesameStreet]

You can't force a spark between two people. The times that you were together happened at that point in time because it fulfilled a need that both of you happened to have. Now that time has passed neither of you may have those same needs. Since you are in communication with her I would think that if the spark were alive and well it would flare without any help or forceing the issue. Since it hasn't it likely won't. This episode is likely better left in the past.