Never had an orgasm, Help me?
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Cherry, if this is on the level and you've never had an orgasm at age 21, you don't need an online Dominant, you need a sex therapist.
I'm absolutely serious: Try a vibrator first, but if that doesn't work for you, you need the help of a professional.
There will indeed be guys online offering to "help you out". Don't be surprised if none of them can, and you wind up more frustrated and confused than before.
I'm absolutely serious: Try a vibrator first, but if that doesn't work for you, you need the help of a professional.
There will indeed be guys online offering to "help you out". Don't be surprised if none of them can, and you wind up more frustrated and confused than before.
Erburus
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Best advise I've heard on here ever, also very true. If you can't orgasam at 21 its more a medical or phycological thing that needs to be adressed by a professional not some horny guy just looking to get his nut off.
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A female's point of view
I just wanted to chime in to say that while you've gotten replies about it being very abnormal to have not had an orgasm at age 21, please do not take that as necessarily true.
Men will have orgasms so much more easily than most women, some guys being unable to help having them once puberty is well underway (referring to wet dreams). Girls usually require some work, and some girls way more work than others, to cum. It took a lot for me to make my first one, and even more again to be able do so with my partner. And when I say a lot, I mean by myself I had to use a really powerful toy and just the right porn. With my boyfriend it was a year and a half of trying everything and anything, with constant loving feedback. I had no issues with my physical or mental health to hold me back either. This is just my own example, but there are plenty of women out there who have difficulty cumming.
So while never having cum at age 21 might be somewhat abnormal for a man, please don't feel like there's something wrong with you. Though of course, we all want you to get there
Hope things are happening somehow to work towards that.
I just wanted to chime in to say that while you've gotten replies about it being very abnormal to have not had an orgasm at age 21, please do not take that as necessarily true.
Men will have orgasms so much more easily than most women, some guys being unable to help having them once puberty is well underway (referring to wet dreams). Girls usually require some work, and some girls way more work than others, to cum. It took a lot for me to make my first one, and even more again to be able do so with my partner. And when I say a lot, I mean by myself I had to use a really powerful toy and just the right porn. With my boyfriend it was a year and a half of trying everything and anything, with constant loving feedback. I had no issues with my physical or mental health to hold me back either. This is just my own example, but there are plenty of women out there who have difficulty cumming.
So while never having cum at age 21 might be somewhat abnormal for a man, please don't feel like there's something wrong with you. Though of course, we all want you to get there
Hope things are happening somehow to work towards that.
Firmhanded_Daddy
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I just wanted to chime in to say that while you've gotten replies about it being very abnormal to have not had an orgasm at age 21, please do not take that as necessarily true.
Men will have orgasms so much more easily than most women, some guys being unable to help having them once puberty is well underway (referring to wet dreams). Girls usually require some work, and some girls way more work than others, to cum. It took a lot for me to make my first one, and even more again to be able do so with my partner. And when I say a lot, I mean by myself I had to use a really powerful toy and just the right porn. With my boyfriend it was a year and a half of trying everything and anything, with constant loving feedback. I had no issues with my physical or mental health to hold me back either. This is just my own example, but there are plenty of women out there who have difficulty cumming.
So while never having cum at age 21 might be somewhat abnormal for a man, please don't feel like there's something wrong with you. Though of course, we all want you to get there
This is good feedback. Sometimes being unable to orgasm is a sign of something wrong, it can also just be a sign of lesser issues, such as being unable to relax, find the right mindset, or simply being wired a little different. I've been with a woman or two myself that simply required encouragement, love, and support to learn her body.
Everyone is different. I have a good amount more stamina than most male when it comes to vaginal stimulation because I require more stimulation to the underside rather than the head if my penis. Doesn't mean I am broken or need therapy, I just had to learn the requirements of my body. This very well simply be a similar situation for you.
I wish you the best of luck in finding your solution. Most important though, don't give up and don't lose hope.
spiritsoflondon
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you're not abnormal
If this message is for real, then the posts saying you need therapy at 21 are ridiculous and not helpful.
I was in my forties before I truly orgasmed, yes, seriously, and there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with me, I just didn't realise what I needed sexually was an experienced Dominant to guide me. I have no problems now!
I found that through this very site, and he helped me tremendously, not everyone on here is a pervert or creep.
but you do have to keep looking until you click with the right person.
You'll get over it.
If this message is for real, then the posts saying you need therapy at 21 are ridiculous and not helpful.
I was in my forties before I truly orgasmed, yes, seriously, and there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with me, I just didn't realise what I needed sexually was an experienced Dominant to guide me. I have no problems now!
I found that through this very site, and he helped me tremendously, not everyone on here is a pervert or creep.
but you do have to keep looking until you click with the right person.
You'll get over it.
